I have this best friend who doesnt give me like any attention at all, so the only way to get it ... is to act like im mad at her. this isnt right but i dont know what else i can do. HelP!!
2007-04-25 16:13:22 · 16 answers · asked by cheyenne b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
talk to her about it. ask her, "hey what's up, how come you don't pay attention to me anymore? have i done something to offend you or something? please tell me cause i miss you."
i've heard of that working in the past, though results may vary
2007-04-25 16:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Maverick Hunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa:
A friend who's ignoring you isn't a friend at ALL, let alone a BEST friend! C'mon! You also need to ask yourself if perhaps you're not wanting TOO much attention. That could be one reason she's ignoring you? Could you have peeved her off? If this person is, indeed, one of your best friends, then you need to ask her about this. Tell her you feel like she's ignoring you. Getting pissed at her all the time is NO way to maintain a friendship. Honesty is the best policy, here & it's the only way you can save your friendship with this friend. If she turns on you & just attacks or ignores you some more, you can probably figure sh'es not worth your time & turn your focus onto more time-worthy friends. Best of Luck!
2007-04-25 23:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not your best friend. So you are trying to maintain a relationship that does not really exist, at least not the way you perceive it to be.
Slowly and quietly distance yourself from her and seek out new friends.
I know you aren't going to like this answer because it may hurt, but why subject yourself to ongoing pain and trying to make somebody like you? You can not make her be your friend ... you can't make anybody be anything. So accept the way things are and move on with your life. You deserve happiness and this relationship is only giving you grief.
2007-04-25 23:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your best friend you should be able to talk to her about what is bothering you rather than acting out to get her attention. This is a huge part of becoming an adult: face your problems and deal with them constructively rather than acting out when you don't get what you want.
2007-04-25 23:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to agree. she's obviously not interested in you as a friend if she won't pay attention to you at all. she may be using you, which is really sad and i hope not. there's two things you can do:
1. talk to her about it and try to come to an agreement on things
OR
2. find someone else who does appreciate your friendship.
if she won't notice you unless you're mad, then she might see you as a nuisance when you act that way.
2007-04-25 23:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Gessenia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to your friend and find out what the problem is. could be that she doesn't know you feel this way. The worst case could be that she's not really a friend any more. i would ask her, that way you can take the guessing out of the game that you two seem to be playing. hope this can help you in some way. keys
2007-04-25 23:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by keys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then maybe she isnt your bestfriend.
She doesnt sound very nice, if she wont pay any attention to you what so ever ; it doesnt even sound like shes being a friend to you.
Find someone else, you deserve better.
2007-04-25 23:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by dreamscrushed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling her how you feel? True friendships are hard to find because we so often waste our time being a friend to someone who really doesn't care about us. If your friend is too busy to give you attention - maybe she really isn't a friend and you should cut your losses
2007-04-25 23:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by lisa_dahme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In defense of your friend, I am sort of like that. I don't like a clingy/needy/ attention hound/ drama queen attached to me like a wart. I like to have more personal space than the average person. I like to have time to think, quiet time , time to pursue my own interests, clubs and activities, and time with other friends.
This doesn't make me a flake. I just don't like it when one friend starts to feel like a full time job or a baby I have to run home and take care of.
Different people have different amount of attention and personal space they need. Sounds like you two are just different in how much you need.
Don't dog your friend or play head games with her. Just make some new friends so you aren't looking at her as your only means of having fun/getting sympathy/ getting attention. She can't be your nurse, your mama, your psychologist, and your personal trainer, your butt kisser, your wardrobe consultant, and your personal cheerleader all in one.
I had a friend like you I recently "broke up " with because the person started to stress me out so much I couldn't stand it anymore. They consumed my time and energy like some sort of parasite.
2007-04-25 23:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by julliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move On. You will be better off.
You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Life is too short for you not to be happy with the people you spend time with.
2007-04-25 23:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Michael W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what you have to do to get attention then they arent really your friend you need to find other better friends
2007-04-25 23:16:31 · answer #11 · answered by jacob m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋