i really dont think my mom likes me?

Question

my mom is in love with my sister (my sis is 27) my mom still buys my sister things all the time even though my sister has her own house and husband and kids and she and her husband both have jobs and probably have more money than my mom. my mom also likes my brother a lot he's 20...he still lives at home doesnt drive, he's never even had a job and my mom buys everything for him as soon as a new video game system comes out my mom buys it for my brother. but im only 16 and i have to do everything i have to watch my 2 year old neice everyday, and 2 other kids just so i can buy stuff for me because my mom wont buy me anything. i have to do the dishes and pick up the house. everytime i TRY to talk to my mom she always tells me to shut up. we never talk and i really dont think she likes me at all i always say "if you dont want me, why did you have me" she just shakes her head and walks away

Answer 1

Welcome to my world. My mom has never liked me. When I was 9 months old my mom pushed me off the table on my head. When I was 18 months old I had a 104 temp for 3 days and my mom just laughed in my face. My baby book says that I was a lazy, awkward, and uncoordinated kid that no one could understand. My mom actually wrote in there that if I was retarded she was going to leave me off somewhere. Well, I turned out normal but she still doesn't like me. So just think, it can always be worse. Just tell your mom you don't love her either and that she is a sinner.

Answer 2

I am very close with a lady and her family very much like this. The 16 year old daughter is the workhorse and the mother clearly favors the two oldest siblings who have lives/families of their own.

First sweety, what your mom buys or does not buy you isn't a sign of love. Sometimes parents are people too and have a different set of priorities and issues to deal with.

It took me years to finally get some understanding of the problem in my friends family - and this was from silently watching and analyzing the situation ...

The mother loves all her kids .. but the 16 year old was clearly in another "world" and dear ol' mom did not understand her one bit. If your mother has a daughter 11 years older then you, look at the age/generation gaps - your a whole new species then even your sister and farther then your mothers culture.

She was also tired .. after raising the other siblings - which she had more time to spend with, that fresh new mommy feeling was muffled by the drudgery of daily housework and parenting activites.

Then she realized they wouldn't brake when they fell down and by the third kid .. its like .. hey kid go play - don't get killed .. where the first kid was locked away guarded in a padded room for protection!

Some parents dwell on the younger siblings because they don't want to give up parenting .. and the youngest gets over babied, but other parents are quite ready for a taste of freedom again .. she has been doing the mommy thing for 27 years.

Thats also 11 years longer to get to know her and understand her.. in 11 more years of having you in her life - she will know you better too.

I do not know that this is your situation .. but it is a consideration to ponder.

Answer 3

ok so y ou've tried talking to her and she doesn't listen. Now try writing out a long letter letting her know how you're feeling like you don't belong in that house. You feel that she pays all her attention and money on your sister and brother..tell her you feel you've always helped out around the house, doing dishes etc..and whenever you try to talk to her she tells you to 'shut up' or just walks away shaking her head. Ask her in the letter, how the two of you can talk things out, to work things out so you can have a better relationship* Life is too short to have a 'hatred' going on between a mother and her daughter. Perhaps your mom has never really taken the time to 'hear' what you have to say, what your* thoughts are...but this will make her have to read it and try to understand it and hopefully addresses it in a proper way by talking with you and working things out*
Best WIshes*
Just be Honest and Truthful with her and keep calm, don't allow it to go into a fighting match. Just say "all i want mom is to be able to sit down and talk to you, and treat me with respect* Listen and be there for me like you are with your sis and brother*~

Answer 4

All kids think that the other kids in the family are the favourites, and you won't really see things clearly until you're much older and you have children of your own. I'm sure she loves you. Maybe she realises that she spoiled the first two and she's trying to bring you up differently, teach you responsibility and chores so that you'll be prepared for life when you leave home. Just give her a big hug occasionally, maybe she thinks you don't like her. Next time she does something for you (cooking dinner for example) really thank her and make her feel appreciated. Mother's Day is coming up, why not make her a nice breakfast? Pancakes are easy, just buy a packet mix and get some maple syrup to go with it. Don't turn out like your brother, he sounds like he's going nowhere fast. Make a plan, enjoy your childhood, get connected to your mum and start understanding her needs and wants and you'll find that life will be pretty amazing.

Answer 5

Sounds like your mom has issues!

In my wife's family her siblings were goofballs, so all of the pressure was put on her and, even though the goofballs are all grown, it is sickening to see how much money her parents continue to give them and will do nothing for my wife.

You have two years left til you can book at 18; make up a sanity plan. Is the stress worse in the morning before school?
Evenings? Week-ends? Whenever the stress is worse, make some plans to cope with those times.

Resolve not to repeat your mother's mistakes!

good luck----talking to a school counselor, or church youth pastor or therapist can help!!!

Answer 6

Try talking to your sister about this. Your counselor at school could help,too. If you start to feel out of control or depressed go to your place of worship and talk to someone there. As a mother of 2 teenagers I can tell you that I'm sure she loves you, she may just have problems that you don't understand and is taking it out on you. Not that it's right, but it 's not that she doesn't love you.

Answer 7

I would hate to say that your mom doesn't like you, because I feel that regardless your mom loves you, simply because you are her daughter. I would if anything try to talk to her and tell her simply how you feel, not when you are in like an argument or anything but simply when you two have time to talk. 16 is a hard age, believe me I remember (21 years old) I felt that my mom hated me, but getting older I think makes you feel differently. If you get really depressed about this, try going to see a therapist just to sort your feelings out. However, I think you should simply try talking to her first. Things seem to work out. :) Good luck.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I'm not going to lie to you and say that "no matter what, she still loves you". Because quite frankly she's treating you like ****, and you need to talk to her about it. Even if she says to shut up, just tell her that you're going to talk and she's going to listen. Or talk to your sister. Why should you have to watch over her children? You're younger, and you and your brother both need things.
Also, I don't know why but mothers always favor their sons. Never daughters. I know from experience.
But enough about me, back to you. That's just not fair. No one should have to watch as their mother favors one child over the other. It's painful.
I suggest talking to a family member (aunt, uncle, etc.), a councilor, a teacher, your sister, anyone who can help and who will listen. You don't deserve that.

Answer 10

my mom did that all my life and it hurt so bad that i could scream all the time,she favors my sister and her kids,I can`t stand it,but I do not have children and I am doing really good alot better than my sister,so I figured I am loved but not as needy. be happy for your sister, be happier for yourself because maybe one day you will have to daughters one will need your help, you can be there for them both and make it right.if you don`t have children ,make it right with your self by
helping out your family.mayby sit down and bring it to her attention that you feel you need a break,ask her if she loves you.say mom do you love.