So i just found out i'm 6weeks pregnat...and i'm scarde to tell my parents b/c i still live at home and i will not be twenty untill August. i want to keep the baby..but don't know how to brake the ice to my parents...my boyfirend is a little excited but at the same time i can tell he is concerned...
2007-04-25 15:54:37 · 24 answers · asked by oxalyssaoxox 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you both just have to sit down and talk to them .... yes they will be upset for a little bit but then once it becomes real to them that they are going to be grandparents and such they will get over it. i was the same age as you (also turning 20 in aug) when we told my "no sleeping together until you're married" parents that i was pregnant . good luck
2007-04-25 16:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by MADDYSMOMMY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a baby at twenty. So don't be worried about telling them. Approach them in a mature way and say we have some really good news for you. You are going to have a grandchild! Show them that you are excited but also very aware of the responsibility you are taking on. They should see that you are very grown up and will not treat you like a child but respect your honesty. If you put it off they might think if you are not grown up enough to tell us the truth then how can you bring up a baby! You know what parents are like. I hope you do it and it goes well, you may be surprised by their reaction. Also I would say if they do take it badly calmly explain that you and your partner are very happy about this event and you would very much like them to be happy also, try not to get into a row over it, back ff and give them some space and time to take it in! Good Luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!! XXXX
2007-04-29 06:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by michelle w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are THAT scared of telling them in person maybe you could write them a letter. Something like
Dear Mom and Dad,
I am writing you this letter because I am at a crossroad in my life. "blank" and I are expecting a child this winter. I know that this is the last thing you want to hear from your teenage daughter, and I hope that I have not dissapointed you. I love you both very much and need your love and support more than ever. I know your initial recation may be intense and that is why I chose to tell you by writing, as I am already very emotional with the situation. I hope we can open up the lines of communication between us and are able to talk about this openly. We are excited/scared about our decision to raise this baby, and we are hoping you can accept the situation and welcome a new grandchild into the family."
I don't know. Just a suggestion
2007-04-25 23:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by trouperstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your parents will be concerned and worried about you be pregnant, but that is what parents do, especially when you are still only 20 years old. My parents treated me like a child until I was about 23 and they realized I was grown up. The thing is, you are 20 and an adult. They may be upset at you, but just remember that they only want what's best for you and in the end will support you no matter what. It will be hard coming clean and telling them, but the sooner the better. They will get over being upset and eventually be very excited about becoming grandparents. Congrats and have a wonderful pregnancy.
2007-04-25 23:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all, congratulations! You are a little young, but many young women make fantastic parents, and it's good that you have the support of your boyfriend. Your parents ARE going to be concerned, and once you're a parent, you'll understand all about worrying about your child! If you are absolutely certain that you are keeping the baby, then you need to make this clear when you tell them - don't leave any room for argument, you are old enough to make your own decision, but also make it clear that you need them and their support - and believe me, you do. You could word it something along the lines of "I realise this is going to come as a shock, but I'm having a baby and I'm really happy about it. I know you're going to be worried, but I really need your support". Good luck - and tell them soon, it's going to be far more hurtful for them if they notice you're pregnant before you tell them - and it's not something that's going to go away or get easier. Bite the bullet.
2007-04-25 23:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best way to go* Then there are no lies you have to remember...You are not 14 yrs old, you are almost 20 in a couple of months....They will respect you and your boyfriend more that you came forward and were honest with them. YOu should be able to tell your parents anything. It may not be the dream they had for you...wanting to finish school, graduate, go on to a career, live life...get married then have children...but sometimes life doesn't go that way. Let them know how you feel about this baby, that you don't want to give it away or anything..you have made your decision and are asking for their advice on how to make things work for you , your boyfriend and your new child* They may surprise you and be happy* for you knowing that you would never give this child up....I hope everything works out....just be open and honest and straight forth * You didn't do this on purpose, you didn't plan it out, you didn't set out to destroy their dreams for you and your life.. You can do this* Best wishes* and I think you both should go to gether to see your folks* He needs to be a man and stand up for the mother of his child. You don't want arguments, or stress, you want to talk and be honest* and calm* GOODLUCK*
2007-04-25 23:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to break the news to your parents. I had the same problem telling my parents when i was 16 but i just sat them down and told them and listened to what they had to say about it and then made my own decisions. Just what ever you do don't get upset of their opinion just listen. You will be surprised that if you are open and honest with them how well they will take it. If there is anything else just ask. And just remember that they are your parents they love you for who you are and they will come around and support you with this if they don't right away. the best of luck. and congrats.
2007-04-25 23:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by katy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations!! Its ok to be scared about telling your parents thats sometrhing almost everyone worries about. My advice is that when you do decide to tell them that you and you boyfriend tell them together so that your parents know that you are both serious about keeping the baby. You might be surprised how much they want to help. As for your bf being concerned that naturall for any parent to be, there are so many different things he could be concerned about like if he is going to be a good dad or if he is going to be able to look after you and the bub, just let him know he is not alone and that you are going to be there for him just like he is going to be there for you. Good Luck :)
2007-04-25 23:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your baby...A baby is always a blessing. I'm glad you have decided to keep him or her. Even though it is not easy to brake this kind of news to your parents, you should give yourself some time to think and choose the right time. Before you do so make sure you have spoken to the baby's dad and get his support and if possible have him there with you when you speak to your parents. Be prepared for any reaction from your parents, but always remember that they will come around this, they love you...they are your parents. I will have you in my prayers... God bless.
2007-04-25 23:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you and your boyfriend want this baby then that's all that matters. You'll just have to tell your parents that it's your decision and your having the baby. They might be a little bit upset but if your not then don't worry. They've had their lives and now this is yours. Good luck
2007-04-26 01:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by lucyenyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with them.... that is the best thing that u can do.... u r almost 20 years old.... u r not a baby..... it isnt like u r a child.... u r technically an adult and r fully capable of making decision on ur own..... if u want to keep the baby then that is what u should do.... the fact that ur boyfriend is excited and not running towards the door is a really good thing!!!! most guys would of already packed their bags and left.... just tell them... trust me they will fond out one way or another... and it is better that they hear it from u... and not through the grapevine!!!! good luck and congrats
2007-04-25 23:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by want a princess baby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋