These past two days I have been extremely hormonal and irrational. My boyfriend understands that I get like this before and during the first couple days of my period. Tonight I must have sounded like a lunatic. I snapped at him over stupid things and when our conversation was over I felt really really bad. I decided to say, "Look...Just bear with me for the next two days. I'm sorry. I just listened to myself and I sound ridiculous.." I just had a miscarriage a month ago so my body is still balancing out my hormones, which makes it even worse. Anyway, do you think I should carry on tomorrow as if I'm fine? Should I throw in another apology or would that seem like I'm dwelling on it and still being irrational? See...I told you I'm emtional....
2007-04-25 15:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have since gone on birth control too..so he's aware of what's going on with me.
2007-04-25 16:03:42 · update #1
Hey, us men get like that when our football team loses. So we can be that way up to 4 times a month! It's horrible.
2007-04-25 16:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't apologize again, it is a rough time for you (and probably him as well). You may want to see your ob/gyn. Even though you had a miscarriage, your body can still go through a wacky postpartum stage. Are you looking to try again in a few months? If not birth control may be a good option to help control your hormonal swings. If you do want to get pregnant again, you might do well with a low dose antidepressant. Also, just being more aware of the mood swings as they happen can be helpful (it took me many years to figure that out, I can get pretty bad some months, especially now that I am not on birth control). If you find yourself getting uncontrollably angry, just get up and walk out of the room, give yourself a minute to calm down. Then think about what set you off, and decide whether or not it's worth getting upset over-yes, believe it or not, you can choose to not be upset-though it is difficult and takes practice. I am still a work in progress, lol. I am very, very sorry for your loss, and hope you get some help. You'll get through it, just try not to be too hard on yourself.
ETA: I see you added that you are on B.C. At this point, just go with the flow. It can take a little time for the bc to work itself into your system and regulate your hormone fluctuations. Again, I'm sorry for your loss, and hope things get better soon!
2007-04-25 22:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man, I have no idea what you must have dealt with resulting from the miscarriage. Furthermore, obviously, I don't quite understand the emotional strain of your cycle either. Sure, I know that it causes issues, but it is impossible to sympathize with the issue since I have never had to experience it on my own.
The truth of the matter is that, as a loving and caring man, I would be quick to forgive, but the added apology would really mean something to me. No matter what anyone says, it would not be dwelling on it. It would be a kind hearted display of affection letting your man know that you care enough about his feelings to acknowledge the difficulty he went through along with you.
As you well know, it is not his fault. He doesn't deserve to be treated badly because you are having issues. He is there to support you and make you feel better not to take a beating.
Although no one on here is willing to admit it, there is no excuse for treating someone that you care for like crap. It isn't his fault you are upset.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-04-26 00:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you just had a miscarriage, this must have been very traumatic for the two of you, sounds like you both need some tenderness
If these feelings continue go see your doctor, its not uncommon to have difficulties with moods after such an event,,
I hope you can forgive yourself and you both become great supporters of each other through this hard time
best of luck in the future
2007-04-25 22:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by nurseynursey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you explained to him and he understands it, no keep bring it up. Tomorrow try better about snapping at him. Instead of focusing on what happened today, when you get up in the morning give him a big hug and kiss. Tell him how much you love him and that will carry him through the day.
2007-04-25 23:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hormones does the dirty work for you...then you should try to keep silence. Don't talk as much as you do in your good period. You know that anything comes out from your mouth is going to make others feel bad..
Take care..
2007-04-25 23:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to throw in another apology. Just be sweet to him without pointing out the fact that you lost your mind today! Most of us women have our days!
2007-04-25 22:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my better half as he likes to call him self would say i was dwelling on it but to me with all that is going on with your body its understandable. just hang in there and ask him to your hormones should even out give your self time.
2007-04-25 22:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by dlmcdonald5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he knows by now. Be nice to him and let him know you love him, even if you are Chickzilla sometimes. :-)
2007-04-26 01:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not solve this problem and go to the doctor and get medicine to help you with this condition.
2007-04-25 22:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋