I had an eptopic pregnancy, but didnt know i was even pregnant. So i'm not sure if i should be grieving because i lost a baby or not grieving cos i didnt even know i had one so i didnt feel any attachment. I'm more worried now about future attemps due to what happened following this one. Should i be sad, sometimes i am, or should i not be and is that even worse?
2007-04-25 15:41:45 · 6 answers · asked by Adelaides_Angel 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You can feel sad or you don't have to feel sad. It's going to be a rollercoaster esp since you are worried about the future and any attempt for future children.
Best thing would be to speak to your doctor about the emotional after affects as well as the physical.
I found this bit of information - be sure to check for most current information with your doctor.
What About Future Pregnancies?
Approximately 30% of women who have had ectopic pregnancies will have difficulty becoming pregnant again. Your prognosis depends mainly on the extent of the damage and the surgery that was done.
If the fallopian tube has been spared, the chances of a future successful pregnancy are 60%. Even if one fallopian tube has been removed, the chances of having a successful pregnancy with the other tube can be greater than 40%.
The likelihood of a repeat ectopic pregnancy increases with each subsequent ectopic pregnancy. Once you have had one ectopic pregnancy, you face an approximate 15% chance of having another.
2007-04-25 15:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can tell you how you feel, or what you should feel.
Its not surprising that you don't feel that you've lost a child when you didn't even know that there could be one.
The worry over the possibility of a second ectopic pregnancy is very real, as it is more common to have another ectopic if you have already had one, due to the reason that there may be scarring from the first. There is also the possibility that that fallopian tube may not work anymore. You should discuss the possibility with your gyno.
Whatever you feel is right for you is what you should do. If you need to grieve, then grieve. Need to move on, move on. Need more information, then get it. Its your life and only you can live it.
2007-04-25 15:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loss is a loss. Your were preg and not you are not. Loosing a unborn child can be very rough and lots of people grieve for their loss. It's normal as long as the grief doesn't take over your life. No one should tell you how you should or shouldn't feel- that's personal. You should let yourself feel whatever it is going on inside so you can heal.
Give yourself some time to grieve then when you are feeling better go see an OB GYN and talk about how your reproductive future looks. When you are dealing with a loss it's not the best time to take in all the info. Probably easier to wait until you are feeling more yourself and will remember what is talked about. While eptopic preg's have an impact on having kids, many people to have perfectly healthy children afterwards.
2007-04-25 15:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by frogsandducks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't know that you were pregnant it's ok and normal not to be sad. How can you miss something you never knew you had. So it's understandable that you didn't feel any attachment. I wish I had been so lucky. We had been trying for seven years and was so excited to discover we were expecting. Started bleeding and ruptured 2 days after we found out. Had emergency surgery and lost the tube. I was totally devastated. That was 6mths ago and I still hate pregnant people :(
As far as future pregnancies call your dr as soon as you find out you are pregnant. Make sure to tell his receptionist that you took a home pregnancy test and you are high risk for ectopic. They will get you to come in and start watching your hcg levels to make sure everything is in the correct place. If the don't schedule you to come is that day or the next, find another dr. Don't screw with your health.
2007-04-25 17:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by just being helpful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont forget that pregnancy is hormonal as well.
Subconciously your body knew you were pregnant and it is natural for your body to grieve the loss.
I would imgaine it is natural to feel torn, your body grieves because of that loss and your mind feels confused because you never even knew what you had.
I have read that women have many more miscarriages than we know about, they just happen so early.
It is ok to feel any which way you do, even if it is confused.
2007-04-25 15:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by Pro_Dog_Trainer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never forget. But you do not spend all your time thinking about what could have been. Just little things remind you, sometimes.
2007-04-25 15:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋