we have to kidds.he spend every dalloer he has, and dosent care of bring anything home
2007-04-25 15:11:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
are you typing in an accent? like maybe polish or russian?
2007-04-25 15:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, understand, Alcoholism is a disease and a very baffling and cunning one. Addicted people don't quit because they want to, the quit because they have too for one reason or another, financial problems, family problems, legal problems etc. What you need to do is get involved in ALANON, it's a group of friends, family of alcoholics that teach you how to live with alcoholics try visiting Alanon.org . You can give your alcoholic an ultimatum, get sober or get out, but you must be ready to back it up. There are a lot of resources available and you need to get help for yourself, Alcoholism is a family illness. I hope this helps, if you would like to talk more feel free to email me.
2007-04-25 15:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by seniorchiefretired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better start making plans to better your life and the lives of your kids.....I know from watching my mother go through it with my step-father.....it's useless....you'll burn yourself out on the whole thing and in the long run it will be for naught! If he doesn't give a rat's a ss to bring anything home for the kids....what kind of provider is he?? HE'S NOT! Get away from em! It's hard to separate an alcoholic from their alcohol...
2007-04-25 15:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by red_rkt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to take care of yourself & your children. You cannot change an alcoholic unless they are willing to change. I learned that after living with a drunk for 4 yrs. Finally, one day I just walked out. He came begging me to come back, but it was too late. I am so happy I dont live that way. It was such a waste of time.
Pack your kids and make a life for yourself Leave and experience life to the fullest. Get out of that misery.
Been there and done that.
2007-04-25 15:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is a problem that can't be resolved by anyone unless the alcoholic person aggressively tries to overcome his addiction.Right now his only directive is feed his addiction and has no regard for his friends or family. This may never change and you may have to leave him to alleviate this problem. Sorry.
2007-04-25 15:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him, sorry, but you have to think about the kids and how they see him.
It's not healthy to have him around if he doesn't contribute to the family. I'm not saying divorce right away, but find him a counselor or suggest he go into rehab if he's willing. If he gives you crap, you know the alcohol is more important to him than his family. It may not always be that way, but for right now it is, and until he changes you have to change your situation for you and your kids.
2007-04-25 15:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor is also a drunk. He beats on her when he's drunk. Breaks things. Kicks her and the kids out of the house. She's working and giving him money to buy the beer. If you can't do it for yourself then do it for your kids. They don't deserve to be in that kind of environment. Get them out. Don't take him back until he quits drinking, no sooner than 6 months.
2007-04-25 15:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Pixel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusive take the kids and leave there are places you can go. Every day you put up with this it is showing the kids what kind of behavior to copy and put up with. You cant change him. He has to want to change. Contact someone in ALANON. They can help you. If you help him when he gets drunk you are enabling him to drink again. Leave him to fend for himself. Don't let him drag you and the kids with him.
2007-04-25 15:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Reta, Bears mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see......i would say LEAVE HIM. Hes a bum. Your kids deserve better and so do you.
Nothing wrong with drinking, but if its to the point of where the person wants to spend all the money and refuses to get help then he/she is hopeless.
2007-04-25 15:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of yourself and your kids.
Do you want them to see his dad's example and grow up thinking it's OK?
Leave him and take care of yourself and your kids.
He is an adult with a severe problem, and unless he wants to stop drinking he won't.
Don't waste your time and energy on him. If he doesn't love or respect himself, it's his choice. But you can choose to have a better life...So do it! Don't continue to be a victim, and to make your children be victims too.
Good luck!!!
2007-04-25 15:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can only control your actions, not those of someone else. Find community support through Alonon, your church, friends and family. Be honest with them, and I know you will find the help and support you need. Your kids only have you, so take a deep breath, and find the energy & direction you need.
2007-04-25 15:22:18 · answer #11 · answered by Live 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋