why do men do this when they're married?

Question

Why is it that men who are married, watch porn when their wifes leave the home and do you know what, by themselves? They're married!!!! why do they feel like they need to look at other women when they have one at home. Isn't easier to tell their wives what they want and let the wife do it for them....
why do they even get married if they're going to be doing that.
WHY????? It's not true they do it out of boredom because they quickly run to the internet as soon as the wife leaves.

to be clear, it's ok if with me if he watches it sometimes,i would prefer if he watched it with me and we did things together... I just don't ubderstand why he needs to pleasure himself as soon as i leave the house.

to be even more clearer about my situation, He's hiding it from me and is kind of addicted to masturbating when i'm not home. Yet when i ask if he can show me what he was looking at when i was gone,so that maybe we can try it together, he says he doesn't remember and gets upset that i'm talking to him about that.

Answer 1

Men think about sex once every 12 seconds. It is physiological and not something they can help. The fact that your man watches porn in no way makes him a bad person or a cheater. Men masturbate many times a week. It is only wrong if they are depriving their wife of sex or cheating with another person.

If you want your husband to give you more sex be more sexy and less judgmental. Dress more provocatively. Offer him sex by rubbing up against him or flirting with him or showing him you are ready and eager.

Be prepared to do things that are part of his sexual fantasy. If you want him to come to you for his natural appetites, be open and eager and available. He will happily take you up on it if you don't make him feel guilty for being who he is.

Watch porn with him and find out what he likes and be that person.

Answer 2

I will give you one good reason we do this...where do you think we get all those fun bedroom ideas. When we were first married neither of us knew much about good sex, sure we knew how to do it, so it was up to me to find the things that make our sex life fun, playful, and satisfying. I would have never come up with the idea of a personal vibrator if it had not been for the internet. Over the years we have added new positions and new variations on the old positions. Sure I read some books on positions but that’s the hard way to learn who goes where. Since my wife is not verbal on how she likes me to give her oral sex I used the internet to give me the information that was needed.

Now I can see your point but remember you would have to try a lot harder to please him if you want to be the only other female in his life, are you ready to come up with all those ideas and apply them? Just to see what a gal wears that excites a man would be helpful to see. I am sure you are a wonderful person in the sack and I am sure you are good at all you do so please don't get mad at me for sharing this idea...have fun!

Answer 3

Let's be clear that it is a common misconception that all men look at porn and masturbate....my husband does not....we've been married 6 years....2 kids.....and it's been 7 years since he's masturbated or looked at porn....i'm sure alot of people will say that i just don't know, but they would be wrong...i can also think of at least 10 other men i know that are also free from that master called lust....

Answer 4

I'm sure it didn't start once he was married. I bet he's been doing it for a while or 'stopped' for a while. If he's just looking every now and then, so what? If it's all the time, then I would defintately have a talk. People are human. Plus, we're married not dead. Right? C'mon, I can't lie, I look at guys. Infact, my husband and I even ask each other at times if they find a particular person attractive. I love my husband and he loves me. I want to know his wants and desires...... Which I'm sure you do to. Throw something at him ... Like you in a very sexy something and distract?? ...........

Answer 5

You sound a bit controlling (and contradictory) about the situation - he can watch it if but only if you are there with him? Are you watching his every move so you know what he is doing when you step outside the door? He is still looking at another woman whether your are sitting next to him or not. My husband watches it - sometimes alone some times with me. Doesn't bother me either way as long as it's not obsessive and he's not hiding it.

Answer 6

I'm not married, but my guy only looks it up when he knows I'm going to be gone for a while. He knows I don't like him watching it, but I think its his way of trying to keep me happy. He doesn't know that I know he has been looking it up. I noticed an odd site come up when I was defragmenting the computer so I checked his history and found a lot of different sites he had been to. He is always more horny after he has been looking at it, so it really doesn't bother me that much.

Answer 7

You obviously don't understand that people, men and women, have fantasies of their own. These are not always shared with the spouses. Just like women want to spend hours shopping that can be done in 30 minutes. The logic behind the rest of your question is crooked.

Answer 8

Men are men. Married or not they consume porn and it has nothing to do with you and nothing to do with love and sweetie watching porn is not cheating. Men have what we call 'testosterone' and there`s nothing they can do about it, nature made them like that, it has a purpose though it`s to insure the human race will reproduce and avoid extinction. Nowadays most men have under control their level of testosterone but other have a bit of difficulty controlling it. It doesn't make them bad. I propose you read about men physiology it will be a great help to you to understand your husband`s behavior.

Answer 9

Most men watch porn probably because there wife won't do something they like so instead of cheating for it they fantasize with porn you also might be surprised how many women look at porn.....

Answer 10

I hope all men read your note,mine has done this before.I feel for you, its like men dont think or care how things can really hurt us wifes, I cant imagine as a woman running to the internet or cable channel to see nude men , somethings very wronge that they think its ok.