Am I too sensitive and analytical?

Question

So, I have always been sensitive (letting things get to me). I am deeply bothered (sensitive) by injustices and feel unsettled by them, in turn I analyze the heck out of things.

People in my life often tell me that I am too sensitive and that I over analyze things. How am I supposed to be any other way? Any suggestions? Surely there are other people out there in this situation, any advice?

Answer 1

I hear you girl. You have to grow some tough skin to be able to survive this world, or else you'll just get caught in it's jaws and crushed. I'm not saying that you've done anything wrong, but you have to learn to let things go. If you saw the amount of hate mail I get on a daily basis, in addition to the threats people make against me, you'd flip. But, it's nothing, really. I say what I want, and others do the same in return. I know that I can take what I dish out. You have been a backboard for so many unsettling things you've seen and heard, now it's time to step up and play a bit of defense, practice your rebounding. You can't let everything get you down, there's a lot more going on that we never hear about. You don't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. There is a guy called "Atlas" who does that. Be good to yourself, okay? Take care of you. HCP

Answer 2

KD, I am the same way. I am also quite sensitive and analytical most of the time. I have had my BF told me that I think too deeply into things, etc. I really don't know what to suggest, as I haven't conquered it myself! But, there is some positive in the way you are. It allows you to become a caring, thoughtful person. Since you are so sensitive and analytical most of the time, you probably are a very gentle person and try to think about how your actions affect others. Some people could stand to be more like you! It also makes you a very aware person. So, don't change completely. Try to find some sort of balance. See what specific things make you more sensitive than others? Put your thoughts into some political action. Allow yourself to not overindulge in your own thoughts at times. Pop in a movie, do something else to take your mind off the lingering thoughts.

Answer 3

Funny, I'm the same way. My strategy has been to spend a lot of time meditating (deliberately NOT analyzing) and to learn whose opinions I can trust and value so that I know when I really am being too sensitive.

Are we too sensitive, or are people callow and obnoxious? Hard to say. Just don't be judgmental or expect anyone else to change. Feel free to live your own life however you like, and don't subject anyone else to your observations unless they ask. For instance, my boss is a REALLY weird guy. He mixes metaphors, mutters to himself, and walks away in the middle of a train of thought/task assignment. I took it personally for a little while, but eventually had to accept that that's just his personality (sounds simple, but you know that feeling...).

Do what you can to better your part of the world, or educate yourself and get in a position to help a larger area. Either way, don't give yourself an anxiety problem over it - I find that reading some real literature or practicing a musical instrument is a great way to stay grounded and not freak out about things. Going for a walk outside helps, too. The world is big, and it's not going to change overnight. Analysis and sensitivity are good though...I recommend a career in market research :) I've never been happier at work, because my "overanalysis" and predictive abilities come in superhandy.

Answer 4

I am similar. I tend to hold society/humanity to high(although that's relative) standards, which are not met, and so I have a rather pessimistic outlook on human beings/human nature.

I do have problems letting go of things that anger or annoy me, because they seem unjust. I do take antidepressant medication, and see a counselor, which helps.

I also have a very analytical mind, and I do also tend to analyze things. Whether I over analyze, I don't know. I try not to.

All I can say is, you can seek help if your problem is interfering with your life, or stopping you from being happy, but you cannot change or deny who you are. If you are sensitive, you must just be aware of that about yourself, and learn to work with it. The same goes for all of your other traits. You may also find that your qualities can be good sometimes, and not always bad.

Answer 5

You should relax and see the life in a simple way. Just try to accept things like they appear to you, without the need to understand every piece involved. Nobody bears with a person that makes questions all the time, that is always analyzing the situations and trying to solve the problems of the world.

Answer 6

In answer, no your not, if your okay with it yourself.
If you are bothered by it try this and other helps-

Tell yourself to let things go, especialy if they are in the past, or you have no power over them.

Perhaps counter every 'I didn't or should have' during your day with 'I did and tried to' because, even if you just mean well, thats a big deal. Believe me on that.

Also, I have huge emotional things as well, my friend from half a world away told my over e-mail (not my best friend, just a friend) that HIS friend was in the hospital and he was worried. I cried and felt terrible for him and he. I go all over emotionaly and some things it should be held in check..... but people...people I have to help.

Make sure that you don't berate yourself ever though, your trying eh? =D
That can start up depression.
Hope this helped you~
Reft :)

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with being analytical Being analytical prevents bad things from happening sometimes. You just have to realize that there always be injustice in the world. You don't have to solve every problem that comes along. Just take it easy and enjoy life.

Answer 8

Be yourself. Get friends who will accept you. Work in a place where they appreciate those qualities. Don't apologize for your temperment.

These people who are criticizing you, they are the ones who are being unacceptable. It sounds like they are personally attacking you. Don't try to make them happy.

I would ask the critics for specific constructive advice. If they just want to pick on you, they will not be able to give any specific changes that need to happen. Or, they will ask for unreasonable demands. They might ask you to stop being analytical. "Don't be like that" they would say. Well, that is not an option.

Answer 9

Well, KD, I'm the same way, but I think you have to choose your battles. Do what you can in your little world. Worrying and feeling bad about things that you have no control over will only hurt you. Ask the Lord to direct yourself and be grateful for the blessing and the people you have in your life.

Answer 10

Your like a lot of us out here, Let's just say your leaning on the side of obsessive compulsive behavior and you will swing both ways of the right and left brain. That is something you need to make aware of and find a way to just let life flow.

Someone best put it... Lead, follow or just get the hell out of the way. Or my other favorite... Give me strenght to change the things I dislike, give me courage to accept the things I cannot and give me paitents to understand others as they do not change.