he invited the woman he cheated with to our baby's birthday?

Question

my husbund cheated on me before with a woman.i forgive him cause i was pregnant.now he invited her to our son's birthday cause her husband is the boss of my husband.he also invited them to dinner in easter and they invited us to lunch next day i told him before i don't like to be with them but he insists.and now as i'm so happy of my baby's first birthday he told me he will invite them i also told him plz don't but he insists what can i do? i'm really thinking of divorce they became part of our family by force.also she is so rude and she trys to make me nervous.plzzzzzzzzz help

Answer 1

cancel the party and have one elsewhere, without inviting your husband.

Answer 2

What your husband is doing to you is so unfair. I am sorry but if this marriage is going to work he will need to get another job. This is emotional abuse! The woman has a lot of nerve to accept any invitation that is sent her way. Your husband is doing this and I believe something is still going on between your husband and her. Your husband is very disrespectfull and I would not trust him! Your husband does not have to include them into your personal life and he and that woman are making a mockery out of your marriage. He is not committed to you, and this has got to stop! You are going to have to give him an ultimatum.........he needs to start looking for another job if not he will lose it anyway because you will tell the womans husband all about the two of them! When you confront him about this do it in your home and hide a tape recorder and direct the questions you ask about him and the bosses wife. Prior to this confrontation you call the bosses wife and ask her to meet you for lunch,,,,,,tell her that you have had it ...talk about your husband and the affair ......and you will have all the evidence you need to present to his boss!!!You can't go on living this way and allowing them to degrade you like this! Stand up for your rights and if this marriage can make it at all you need to seek counseling. I don't care what this job means to him it has got to be over! All contact must stop with this couple immediately! If you are going to stay with this man this just has to be. Do not allow him to contol your life this way. Get the evidence for the boss first and hide it. Then confront your husband to quit the job and go into counseling....if he refuses you have to leave him and on your way out drop the recorded tapes off into the hand of the boss. Good Luck Sweetie.

Answer 3

Does the husband/boss know about the affair? It seems like that is a little in your face to be having the woman he cheated on you with at your home for special family occasions. Hanging out with your boss isn't usually recommended, regardless. Bottom line I think it's low and wrong of him to have this woman coming around. He is lucky you forgave him, and I am sure you'd like to move on and forget this affair happened, but how can you? Ask him how he'd feel if the situation was reversed (ok he can't be prego...but)? Seriously if the husband/boss doesn't know about the affair I'd tell your husband if he invites her/them over again you will tell the husband/boss the truth. You don't deserve this slapped in your face.

Answer 4

I could see inviting them to a picnic or dinner once in a blue moon but this is totally disrespecting you even if he would just take the boss out for dinner but to have that woman in your face, unless his boss was a really good friend even then he shouldnt do that to you, and maybe he does it because of guilt that he feels what he did to his boss... This is your families doing and its not necessary to invite them to such a party its a personal thing not a work related event....its all nonsense and i wouldnt tolerate it...

Answer 5

Please do not act shocked. this occurs for all time, rather with older adult men. he's been cheated on so he might never have confidence yet another woman returned. It has not something to do with you or not something to do with the different woman. that's his subject and that's totally unlucky because of fact he many never be happy. yet another undesirable factor is he has chemical substance issues (alcohol and marijuana) so his ideas isn't functioning appropriate besides. you do not want to handle somebody who's in this state. and you have been drowsing with him in simple terms like all different woman, so he observed no distinction between the two considered one of you, different than your personalities, which he grew to become into keen to evolve to to be with the the two considered one of you. Does that make any experience? as a substitute of being offended with this guy, you may desire to desire for him because of fact he for sure needs it. He needs therapeutic. And on line relationship is risky. human beings on the cyber web are actually not honest. You look to comprehend plenty approximately his subject with this different woman which makes me think of you had pink flags. you're never too previous to be blessed with genuine love so supply up appearing desperate and look ahead to the main suitable one next time.

Answer 6

Your husband does not respect you at all. I'm sorry to say but he is most likely still cheating with this woman or someone else. You forgave him because you were pregnant and now he knows he can run all over you and you won't go anywhere. It would be a cold day in hell before my husband's ex-mistress came to my child's birthday party. Your husband is a self-centered jerk and I would leave his sorry butt and take half of everything.

Answer 7

UMMMM I would say F u and go yourself and if your boss wants to know why I'll be happy to tell him you f----- his wife. Get real.. What an a**. Unbelieveable. Guess you shouldnt have forgivin him because now he is puttin it in your face. You DO NOT have to put yourself in that position for him, sounds like he wants to be around her. He could always think of a way to get out of it if he wanted to. And he should want to get out of it for you. You got a real winner there. So Sorry.. He may cheat agiain with her if he isnt already doing so.

Answer 8

It sounds pretty inconsiderate on his part. Although it's not unheard of to invite your boss and his wife to functions, the fact she goes out of her way to make you uncomfortable should make him think twice about it.

If someone cheats, and feels remorse for it, then they should let it go. But to force it on you like this seems to be victimizing you again.

I think you are correct. You could consider marriage counselling if you'd like to work things out.

Answer 9

I think I would be tempted to go up to her and ask her "So, doesn't it bother you to know that you are coming to the home of the woman whose husband you were screwing?" Right in front of everyone.

If it is a matter of going over to their house or meeting them somewhere, I just wouldn't go. Your husband has alot of nerve, and disrespect for you, to demand you be around this woman. He should feel guilt for what he did, not strut it in your face.

Answer 10

Try saying this "I don't f*$#ing think so! Especially after I forgave your loser a$$! All communication, dinner, parties with this couple end here and now or I will happily walk away with our son & HALF of everything you own. Your choice di*kweed." If he is commited to your marriage it should take him 3 seconds to say "Done." If he hesitates do exactly as you stated...walk away with your son & half of everything he owns.

Answer 11

dont worry, trust is something REALLY important in a relationship, and if he says he loves u(if he does say it) can u feel it?? and have u talked to him about how u feel about this girl?? cause if u haven't u should, it is really important u let him know how u feel cause sometimes us the guys cant guess whats wrong. u may think im kidding but try praying, God will help u out, trust me, just try it, get on ur knees and just pray, do it for ur child, for u if u really love him, u wont lose anything