my friend got hired at her job 2 years ago.last year i needed to find work to help my husband with the bills(i hated seeing him work 2 jobs and i just sat at home)so my friend asked around at her job and got me hired.ive been there a year now.just recently she got demoted and i got pulled up the chain of command and im now her supervisor.she is jealous but doesnt express it to me, instead she is starting rumors about me.i love her to death, being friends for 9 years has me attached to her.im getting into a position that will start a career for me and it is putting a wall between us.im in control of her daily jobs,im getting paid more than her and im getting more hours than her,on top of the fact that she has been there longer than me and she got me hired beneath her position.we are still young,and im not sure she is mature enough to realize that i have a family to provide for.what are some easy options for me to help save our friendship and my sanity?leaving my job is not an option.
2007-04-25 13:26:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do what you got to do for you. if shes a friend she'll get over it eventual because she will want whats best for you too. family over friendship. But she is human, and can't help how she feels. Try putting yourself in her shoes. What would you want her to say to you to assure you.
2007-04-25 13:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shadie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is an incredible turn of events, yet so delicate. Maybe you could write her an heartfelt letter explaining how you never planned for things to turn out like this and that you still value her as a true friend. In spite of all this, remind her that you have a family to support and that you have to have this job. Just like you said in your question, quitting is not an option.
If the gentle approach doesn't do the job, you may have to make an appointment for you and her to talk with a representitve from Human Resources or at least some one higher up the chain than you to help you deal with this difficult employment situation. If things continue like they are or get any worse, you are going to have to let her know that spreading rumors, true or untrue, is a form of lateral or passive-aggressive violence. It is creating a hostile work environment for you. This is against the law and it simply will not be tolerated.
2007-04-25 13:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a chain of questions you ought to ask your self. a million. Why did you and your boyfriend destroy up? what would be distinctive to stay away from a destiny destroy-up? And with this new guy i spotted you pronounced he informed you he replaced into in love with you, yet do you like him? in case you do not then remember the cliche, in no way go away your loved for the single you like for the single you like will go away you for the single they love. additionally why is this pal of yours single? How long has he been single? you're able to desire to question the two adult men' intentions. you're able to desire to take a while too by way of fact dashing right into a determination would desire to go away you with the loser. i think of maximum critically you're able to desire to question your ex boyfriend. you're able to desire to be sure he's truthful and not basically getting back at you by way of fact he's lonely or sexy. as quickly as you inspect the situation then you certainly ought to make a determination. i've got self assurance which you will already know the respond, yet each and every so often human beings are afraid to speak the certainty for the terror that we would harm somebody. properly in this sitaution, all is honest in love and somebody would be harm. do not enable or not that is YOU!
2016-11-27 20:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋