how do you officially know your sexuality when you've been single for quite a while and kind of attracted to both men and women?
2007-04-25 11:46:34 · 26 answers · asked by -.Lisa.- 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If most people were honest, i think they would admit to being sexually aroused by both sexes.........in my opinion.
Its society that dictates what is and isnt acceptable and people are guided by this.
I believe in doing whatever gets you through the night, as long as its between consenting adults and its not emotionally or physically hurting anyone.
2007-04-25 11:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by hollyb20 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In all honesty I think you never know your sexuality - you can only go with what feels right at the time.
I thought I was a lesbian at a very young age and came out at the age of 14. I'd completely accepted it. Then when I was 18 I suddenly found men attractive too - literally an overnight change. Now I'm 22 and I've had 2 boyfriends and 1 girlfriend, all for over a year each. I would now call myself bisexual and I'm totally comfortable with that.
I think that when you're a teenager you often start thinking about your sexuality. Whether or not the teen years are too young to label your sexuality all depends on you really.
Personally I think it's best not to label yourself and just go with the flow. But obviously it's something that you will think about. You don't need to have had sex with a man or a woman to know - you just *know*.
If you can imagine, or want to, have romantic, sexual relationships with men, then you can safely say you like men. If you also feel the same way about women, then you are bisexual. If you are curious about women but not sure you'd want a relationship/sex with one, then you are 'bi-curious'.
Just go with how you feel hun and if you find someone you're attracted to just go with it. If you are bisexual, count yourself lucky - you've got so much more people to choose from! :-)
xx Emmie
2007-04-25 20:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can find both sexes attractive and still be straight or gay. I lived as a lesbian for many years and found many men very attractive.
I would say just go with your gut feelings. Is there one particular person, male or female, that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling when near? If there are more than one, of both sexes, that make you feel that way, you need to find out if any of them feel the same way about you.
Communication is always the key to making this kind of decision.
PS: I found being bisexual the easiest way to not make a decision. This way I get the best of both worlds.
2007-04-26 06:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems we're both in the same boat. I think i won;t consider myself bisexual yet though. I feel when i label myself, i confine myself to a certain identity...and i also hate labels. I'm a guy so i have much self respect for myself, and being with a guy is not something i would consider...unless its one of those days when i want to be "different" but so far, there haven;t been any of those days lol. You're probably a free soul, pick anyone that makes you feel like you are the beautiful person you are. Sex is not really a priority, just make sure your happiness comes first...sex doesn't bring happiness though
2007-04-25 19:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It aint that important
my parents thought i was a raving fruit for eight years before i got a girlfriend
they were shocked
felt natural to me
some people find bisexuals more disturbing/confusing
than homos
i aint confused
just be you
i just like prety things
2007-04-26 05:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by dregj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you should know that your sexuality represent or label yo
u to be bisexual, now whether you believe, accept, or go that way or not, is a different question? a lot of us, simply because
we deal with one sexual partner, or another, dont mean that th
is is our chosen field of representation? i am a female transs
exual by birth, and not by choice, simply because alot of peop
le want it to be so? because i am a female transsexual, dont
mean that im interested in people in my catagory? with me its
far from it, i try to recognize with being apart of them as little a
s possible. all im trying to tell you is that you maybe labeled or
classified as bisexual, without being that way?
2007-04-25 19:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being attracted to both would make you bisexual. Simple as that. People tend to to try & overthink sexuality. When its really not hard at all once you are aware and accepting of the fact that you are attracted to whatever it is you are attracted to.
2007-04-25 18:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you "officially" know your sexuality. You go with relationships that feel right. For me that happens to have been with men, but people vary. That's what makes life so interesting :-)
2007-04-25 18:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by flyingconfused 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
That'll be the 64,000 dollar question. If in doubt, you're bi. I 've always maintained that if I'm attracted to someone, I'm attracted to them - no matter what body packaging they happen to arrive in.
2007-04-28 21:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am attracted to someone who is the best of both worlds--unfortunately,he cannot handle my sadness and pain.
2007-04-26 01:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋