If your partner could not get you pregnant would you?

Question

find someone who could and maybe lie or is your partner more important ?

OMG please don't get me wrong I am just asking in general, not for myself at all but thanks for the concern anyway xxxxxxx

Answer 1

I would talk to your partner, maybe the two of you could consider going to a sperm bank and trying to get pregnant, or consider adoption. Do you know for sure that your partner can't get you pregnant? If you've been trying for less than a year I would keep trying. Don't lie to your partner, that will only cause problems in the future.

Answer 2

No I wouldnt, I think that if you love someone you shouldnt be so obsessed whether they can give you a child. And that would mean that you would definetly not trick them into raising another mans child (too jeremy kyle for words).

If you were both that desperate for a child and he had a low sperm count etc then you should both discuss what you should do next i.e. sperm donation, adoption rather than sneaking off and betraying the man you love.

And to anybody who says yes to this doing this, imagine if the roles were reversed and you couldnt have children and your partner decided they would do it with someone else instead. Now answer this question again!!

Answer 3

i wouldnt find someone else if my partner couldnt get me pregnant because 2 me there is a whole lot more 2 a relationship than hvaing a baby plus if u couldnt concieve then there are other options available which u and ur partner could do and would make u stronger because its a challange u both need 2 accept thats my opinion
but some are born lucky 2 get pregnant quick where as some are not as lucky
am just glad that i am a lucky one cause am haopy being pregnant altho it has its ups and downs(i am 23weeks pregnant)

Answer 4

No I wouldnt.
For 3 reasons....
1) It would be incredibly unfair for my partner to be tricked into bringing up a child that isnt his. Plus it would be a terrible burden on myself as i would know the truth and worry constantly that my partner would find out.
2) Its unfair on the child. How would you feel if you found out the man that bought you up for 18 years wasnt your father?
3) What happened if (god forbid) the child was seriously ill and needed blood or bone marrow from a parent??

Its just not worth it.

Answer 5

So you are asking if being pregnant is more important than your spouse’s feelings? I would think that this is very, very, very obvious!!!

Look at it this way, if your spouse found out later, he may or may not love the child, but on top of his realizing his infertility you bash him with "well I cheated on you so we could have kids!" Talk about adding insult to injury!

I would seriously hope that your spouse is more important than someone (a baby) who has not even entered you life yet!!!

If your spouse is truly infertile than whatever decision you come to, should be made by you both!

Answer 6

i would never go behind his back and sleep with someone else and class the baby is his,i think i'd have to be honest and end the relationship,because i am a very maternal person(mum of 4),and love the feeling of pregnancy,it all depends on how long you have been together,but personally i couldn't live a life without children,but i couldn't live a life lying,it wouldnt be fair for him to think he has fathered a child when he hasnt,its best to be honest from the beginning,so that he can meet another woman who doesnt want children.

Answer 7

Are you serious? I hope you aren't in a relationship because your partner should have some serious doubts about you if you are asking. No, I would not sleep with someone else and lie about the pregnancy. Hopefully you wouldn't either.

Answer 8

I certainly wouldn't get pregnant by someone else and lie about it. Truth will always come out in the end. I'd sit down and discuss all our options with my partner

Answer 9

My partner would be FAR more important. If they knew they could not get me pregnant then DUUUHHHH they would figure it out. Anyways if i was with a man i would be with them because i LOVE them and love means you go through the thick and the thin. I would talk to him about adoption or Articifal insemination. That way we could still have kids and no CHEATING. would be involved.

Answer 10

If you and your partner are in a long term relationship I would say they are more important. Maybe the two of you could try invetro or discuss a sperm donor and not have sex with the donor.