Between 18-22 is WAY too young. Chances are you still are working on your degree/eduction, not very set financially, and the emotional support of those around you may not be as high as it could be if you waited.
I would say between 24+, mainly because by that time you have a solid job, you hopefully HAVE a solid relationship, your body is more mature and ready for kids, and you know exactly who you are.
When you're 18, you're still trying to figure out who the heck you are!
Kids are tough. The first 3 months alone can make or break most relationships.
When teens say that they are more than ready to be parents, I grimace. Those are the type of kids who needed to look into adoption. It's HARD WORK. Sure you can do it, but when you're pregnant it's not just about you. When it comes to parenting, sometimes the best decision is to look at what you have to offer and realize that your child deserves more.
2007-04-25 11:40:09
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answered by FaZizzle 7
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Developmentally a woman is probably most optimal for pregnancy between 19-35. But there is NO magic number! The things that should be factors when deciding to have children (note I said deciding to...meaning you decided to before becoming pregnant) are:
**Maturity
**Being in a stable, loving, comitted relationship.
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**Financial status...(I am not saying you have to be rish or out of debt, but knowing there is enough money to pay for doctors bills, clothes, diapers and occasionally formula!)
Every womans age will differ and her reasons will differ as well, to say there is one age better than others is incapable of being proven, at least at this point, besides even if the rule was, say "Have kids at 22!", not everyone is going to jump and have kids at 22. Most women know that having children after 35 increases their risk of genetic defects but that doen't stop all women!!!
Most women will know when the right time to have children is and with an honest look at their life know whether now is a good time or not.
I do not believe that "Because I want to." is a good reason either!
2007-04-25 18:47:14
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answered by Boppysgirl 5
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I think it has more to do with maturity than with age alone. I am 22 and I just had my first 2 months ago today. It has been the most wonderful experience and has brought me and my husband closer. My baby was semi-planned...we tried and then stopped trying....I know people that are 35 and so immature that I wouldnt leave my child alone with them. I have not finished colllege but then again I am a stay at home mom at 22 too. It has nothing to do with being fiancially set or educational status. If you wait until you can afford a child, you will be waiting all your life. I guess there is not a right or wrong age. Anyone is capable, it just takes maturity. I think it gives everyone a bad name because so many kids are getting pregnant and their parents are raising the babies.
2007-04-25 18:55:01
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answered by MyOpinionMatters 4
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I think God has a plan for everyone...if a young girl gets pregnant and she is too young to care for it, then maybe that child is meant for a family somewhere who can't have children and want to adopt an infant...on the other end of the spectrum, maybe a women has a baby at an older age because God knew that was the right time for her. We have no right to label anyone or anything, that is God's job!!
2007-04-25 18:47:21
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answered by krissy c 2
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This differs for everyone because it depends where in life you are. Some people have established careers and are totally mature and family oriented at 18-20. Whereas, some people are mate hopping and partying until they're 30. There's nothing wrong with either scenerio, but your decision to have a child should be based upon how stable you are in your finances, relationships with your mate, and emotionally.
2007-04-25 18:42:16
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answered by splurge_munki 3
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well, it depends on the woman..I got pregnant at 19..because me and my husband know that we were ready for it. really its not about age..it depends on how resposible the woman is..but that doesn't mean a 15 yr old girl would go get prego lol. but yes u r right 18-38 is a very good age.
2007-04-25 18:43:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Age doesn't really matter...It is are you ready to have a child..financially, mentally, can you provide a baby a stable home.. Some people have kids for the money.. and that is a poor way to do it... Well that is my opinion as for age 20-40 is good....
2007-04-25 18:41:34
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answered by Anonymous
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Well, I agree with the 18. I think If after 38 a woman is healthy enough, she should still have one. Not too old though, like past.....43 maybe.
2007-04-25 18:40:49
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answered by mandiliz06 4
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It all depends on the woman. But I think 18 is too young. I think all women should have some higher education before starting a family. You need life experience, too. I'd say not before 23 or 24 in most cases.
2007-04-25 18:40:30
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answered by Kat H 6
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well i never like to see a little 13 or 14 year old girl with a baby. 18-35 sounds ok
2007-04-25 18:41:13
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answered by newmama22307 2
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