my husband has lost interest with me and moans at me when i cuddle him i guess he thinks i just want sex all the time, is there something wrong with me? when i bring up the subject he just keeps saying im stupid and insecure am i? because i want some affection.
2007-04-25 11:06:38 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
where have you been all my life babe, i have been searching for a sexed up babe for a long time as i need lots of it..
this guy must be nuts or is suffering from stress..
try talking sarah and be frank with him..
if you do split up give me an e-mail and i will share your urges with you..
good luck
x
2007-04-25 11:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
admittedly It does sound extremely peculiar that he would moan when you cuddle him. The only thing I can think of is that he may feel smothered. It all depends though on how much affection you give him and on what occasions you give it. Ie do you try to hug him when he's working or doing something stressful? if so this may aggravate him leading this anger to remain when you try and hug him at other times.
maybe you could fast from affection for a week and see what happens ;-) you could also maybe get someone to babysit the kids and book a romantic meal etc just the two of you and just talk in general not about affections etc just talk as friends afterall friendship is the basis of any good romance.
2007-04-25 11:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of 3 reasons. Is this recently or has it been going on for a while? #1: If it's recent then it could be stress at work. Speaking from experience the "little worker" can be just as tired as the big worker. Sometimes it's hard (no pun intended) for a man to admit that sometimes we just want to be left alone. Society dictates that men always want it & it's better to lay fault with you then admit that. #2: Also, some medical conditions can make his "little buddy" go to sleep. He might be afraid to have himself checked for fear of comfirming his fears. #3: He could also have found a new (I'm sorry) cuddle partner. If he doesn't want you to see him naked (fear of you seeing hickeys or scratches), changes how he dresses (even little things) or have more "overtime" at work. I can't say which it is but I can say I have done, sadly, all three.
2007-04-25 11:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by soulofthesea1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
intimacy and affection is the best part. Yeah, I'm a guy! Really don't know what his problem is. --Look at these: Does he have a new job, deadlines approaching, etc. ? Has he always been this way? If he has he won't change! If not, look for the time it changed and see if you can figure it out.
2007-04-25 11:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some years ago I suddenly lost interest in my very attractive girlfriend and I never did know why.
I think that men have some primeval subconscious switches that are triggered by certain behaviour in women.
Sorry that I have unable to be very constructive.
2007-04-25 11:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish you would have given more info such as your ages and how long you've been married. What kind of stress is hubby under right now? There are a lot of different reasons for his actions but without more info, one would only be guessing.
2007-04-25 11:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is worn out by you, and I dont mean that in a bad way. this can be fixed. Try to spice things up a little, try new things that were out of the question with you before, just try them now. he is bored with his sex life. I was there too once, and this helped. plus dont make him feel obligated to do it as much as you want it,
2007-04-25 11:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by SWT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people have different sex drives than others. Our lass needs to be told I love her every day but want sex about once a month - go figure. Ignore that eejit who says he is cheating. We is all different love.
2007-04-25 11:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
o'my word you seem to be going through the sutup and go sleep stage.now you must start the next part. o.k then if you are not interested, then i've got other things to do stage.unless you have over riding factors such as circumstances beyond your control ,then go to next stage .p.s you did say men answer .so he's proberbly right anyway so do what he says .
2007-04-25 11:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by capa-de-monty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that your man is either getting tired of your constant cuddling or he is too tired after shagging his mistress. Really maybe it is time to hire a PI or seek some counselling either way your hubby has some issues you need get to the bottom of.
2007-04-25 11:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋