What are odds hubby does the math??

Question

I just got married 2.5 months but was unaware i was pregnant at the time.Before the wedding took place we took a 3.5 month break because he was not sure if he was ready for marriage.During the break i had a fling with an ex.bf who had been my first everything and we had flings before so i felt comfortable.Then my bf and i got back together month later we got married.I just found out i am almost 4 months pregnant and it cant be my husbands.Is it possible my husband wont do the math?

Answer 1

Most men are clueless about this issue. I see a lot of men on here asking the question "If a woman is XX weeks pregnant when did conception occur"? Please don't tell me you are going to play this baby off as his.

Answer 2

Have you ever watched a soap opera? These things ALWAYS come back to bite you in the ***! What if the baby needs blood? What if the baby looks JUST like your ex boyfriend? What happens at the doctors office when the doctor gives you the approximate time of conception? What happens when the doctor says your 16 weeks pregnant and your husband realizes that 16 weeks ago you were broken up? And WHY did you agree to marry your husband if you were banging some other guy just a couple of months earlier? I wish you luck, but I don't think I will ever get used to the number of irresponsible people in the world. It still blows me away.

Answer 3

I'm in a similar situation with my fiancee. About a month ago, she found out that she was pregnant with her ex-boyfriend's child and this occurred after the relationship had already ended. The interesting point is that she never knowingly had sex with him and she doesn't drink or do drugs that would cause her to not remember the act. Putting the potential criminal issues aside, she told me as soon as she could in person. She was so scared about the outcome of the conversation, but she didn't hide the news from me. Due to her honesty and coming forth as soon as possible, I'm highly considering helping raise the child as I would if it was my own.
Hoping that your husband doesn't find out and playing the child off as his own is the worst option you have. I would personally feel betrayed and deceived if my fiancee did that to me. It would be hard for me to treat the child the same after living a lie a couple years. In this case, honesty really is the best policy.

Answer 4

Starting a marriage off on a lie, is a doomed marriage! Even if he doesn't do the math (he'd have to be pretty stupid) there are other things that could happen down the road and he will find out sooner or later. Then you really deceived him! I'd come out with the truth now! Then he can't accuse you of hiding it and it will be easier if he ends the marriage now than it will be later! How could you even THINK of passing this child off as his???? WAKE UP!!! THIS ISN'T A GAME, IT'S IMPORTANT!!

WHAT KIND OF PERSON ARE YOU???

Answer 5

If he doesn't his mother or sister (if he has one) will. Besides the obvious moral issues with keeping this information from him there may be a medical issue in the future that will slap him in the face with the truth.

If ever your child has to have a routine operation for tonsil removal or something, they tell you their blood type, so it could possibly come to light. Do you really want this on your conscience, or would you rather get the skeletons out of the closet now and face the consequences so you can enjoy your child.

I don't mean to sound in any way judgmental because these things do happen but I think it will be worse for you in the long run if you don't be honest with him.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

No, it is NOT POSSIBLE, and I cannot believe you are even considering this as a possibility!!!! You would be living a lie with your husband, and passing off this ex boyfriend's child as his own. Not to mention that you would be depriving your ex boyfriend of the opportunity to know his child, AND you would be depriving your child the opportunity to know his/her biological father.

You need to suck this one up sweetie, you're the one who slept around, YOU'RE the one who didn't adequately protect yourself, and now YOU'RE the one who is pregnant. This affects 4 people's lives directly, and many more indirectly (what about the grandparents, etc.?) Your only option right now is to be HONEST with everyone involved, and I'm not all that certain you have the capability to do so. You need to though. For once in your life, do the right thing here for everyone.

Answer 7

If my 16 year old son did the math, and asked me if I was pregnant when I got married, I'm sure your husband won't be stupid either. But worse than that, what if this child ever got injured, or sick in a way that blood or bone marrow tranfusions were needed, and years down the road, he finds out you LIED and he's not the father? Trust me, HONESTY is the only way to go on this one.

Answer 8

That depends, you are the one who knows your husband best. Sometimes guys don't pay attention to the math, but you should think about if you really want to pass off another man's child as your husband's. You will have to keep up on that lie for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Only if he's an idiot! How could you want to hide this and not tell the other person it is his kid, he has a right to know. And you and your husband weren't together so its not like you cheated, but it will cause issues for sure! Have you told him yet, do you know if this other person even wants kids! He will figure it out if you don't tell him!

Answer 10

Tell the truth to your husband he deserves to know! He will do the math or someone he knows will and if you are not up front then he won't be able to trust you and things will fall apart! It would not only be wrong but immoral! If you love this man you will not lie to him!