She's been on and off meth for a couple of years now. my problem is I am through! helping her. She is a lost cause who will never change. I have a famili and every day problems of my own to do deal with and just can't deal with her any longer. She is a constant problem. she has no car no job and no phone. All of which I have because I work every day for it. My question is, How do I get her out of my life for good? She has really bad friends who I don't know personally but I'm sure they know where I live. What do I do?
2007-04-25 08:58:43 · 9 answers · asked by TABBY 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is so hard to try and help someone who is addicted to meth. I know because I have been in your shoes. They suck all the life right out of you and it feels like you share their problem. The easiest thing I can think of is to just stop being there for this person. By being there I feel like you are providing your friend with a crutch. She knows that you will be there to help her so she doesn't think she needs to get clean. But if you take away her crutch, maybe she will get the hint. Probably she will get mad at you and turn to friends that aren't so great but that is her choice. You have a family and they should come first. When she finally hits rock bottom then maybe she will realize how much she needs to fix her life. You do not have to take this advice, but I had a similar situation with someone in my life. I am only sharing my experience.
2007-04-25 09:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by epic_80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I want to commend you on trying to help her. You sound like a very loyal friend. However, you need to tell this girl to leave you alone. That you've done all you can, and are giving up. That she isn't welcome at your house anymore. Don't accept calls from her or give her any money. if this doesn't work, yell at her to go. and if that fails call the police to escort her away. Eventually she will understand that she is losing a good friend over a drug. I pray that the friendship wins but doubt it. Some people have to hit rock bottom before they are willing to reach out. Unfortunately Crystal meth users are notorious for dying before seeking help.
And whatever happens, don't blame yourself. This is a choice she had to make for herself. You are right that you have to take care of your own needs first. Take care and God Bless.
2007-04-25 16:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by the webpage master 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's hard. I honestly don't know. I think you need to stop responding to her whenever she asks for you. I mean, if she has no car and no phone, then when and how do you hear from her? Don't return emails. Or make the emails short and sweet. If she doesn't get the message, you may have to just tell her that you just can't help her with her problems anymore.
2007-04-25 16:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you love her and if she decides to change her life you'd be a part of helping her to be successful but otherwise can have nothing more to do with her, given the poor choices she's making
2007-04-25 16:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I would do in this situation. Sit down and have a talk with her. Ask her if she has been doing meth, if she has then maybe you should ask her for some and smoke that stuff up!! Whoohoo!!!!!!!
2007-04-25 16:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by tryin_to_pay_the_bills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her off like you do in that message. Tough love is needed. If you do nothing, you are going to end up with a dead friend.
2007-04-25 16:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know what you should do. But, just tell her how it is. She can't bum off of you any longer. Tell her that and tell ther that you don'r execpt her friends and you want to help her but she has to want to help herself first. Don't totally give up on her, don't just cut her out. Give her a choice. Tell her how it is and she'll either butch up or leave your life on her own,
2007-04-25 16:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Provide them all with lethal dosages of meth. They'll be out of your life soon enough.
2007-04-25 16:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to move to a safe place and stay away from her.
2007-04-25 16:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋