How do I tell my mom I'm sexually active and want birth control?

Question

Should I NOT tell her I'm sexually active, and just ask for birth control instead?
Should I be 100% honest?
HOW DO I ASK HER FOR BIRTH CONTROL WITHOUT HER FREAKING OUT?

Ok, what the frig is everyone's problem? I'm 16, and I'm not "sleeping around" or being a slut, I'm with someone who is disease-free and I trust. I'm NOT asking for judgment, and being abstinent is not an option for me, so STOP calling me easy. If you don't have anything nice to say, shut your god damn mouth.

Answer 1

She is going to freak out no matter HOW you tell her and when you ask for birth control she will want to know why.You had better tell her . Now tell me, after you have been dumped several times by guys who have used you for sex, how will that make you feel? Especially when you get pregnant? or get a disease.Trust me honey you arent going to marry the guy you "lost it to".CHances are your reputation is trash now and all the guys think youre easy and will want their turn every time you get dumped or break up.Look athe women who are in their 30's and 40's who started out like YOU are starting out with sex.Then compare them to the ones over 21 who waited til they got married and see which ones are happier.

Answer 2

This is a toughie, but good for you for wanting to be safe!

If your parents are open like my mom was, you should just be out and say it. They'll probably want to talk to you about your decisions, but in the end they will be glad that you are at least making sure that you don't get pregnant.

If they are not completely open, or they don't seem to be, you could try the approach of not telling them that you are sexually active but instead explain that at your age situations come up and that you would rather be safe for your (and even THEIR) sake. Once again, they'll probably want to have a talk with you about the birds and the bees and may suggest condoms (which you may point out are not always readily available). Who knows, maybe your parents will be COMPLETELY open to the idea but just unsure on how to bring up the topic all together.

If they're not open or you're still uncomfortable about bringing it up, you may not even have to tell them. Look into your local planned parenthood and clinics. Some of them offer completely confidential inquiries and may be able to provide a prescription.

In any case, please get bc as soon as possible. It'll make worrying for you less, well, worrisome.

Answer 3

If you've been having heart to hearts with your mother in the past, then it shouldn't be a problem in the long run. In the short run, she may freak out but will come to the realization that birth control is better than losing you to a life of misery due to early parenthood. (The baby boomers kids are the one's starting the 26+ age for parenthood - those who know what they're doing, anyway.)

If you haven't been having those heart to hearts, then go get the birth control and don't flaunt your newfound sexuality or otherwise make your mother react in a way that can be as bad as becoming a too young parent - maybe as bad as kicking you out or sending you off to disastrous relatives.

Answer 4

Well first of all if your sexually active already and your not taking birthcontrol then that says it right there, your Not ready to be sexually active.. any one whos responsible enough is going to think about that before hand and also useing condoms.
I don't know why kids want to grow up so fast now.
You need to ask your mom about needing birthcontrol.
And you say if you ask your mom she will probably freak out , well that says shes the kind of mom that cares and don't want to see you messed up. most of the time when you do something with a guy , they get what they want off of you and move to the next one, it does happen and more this day and time. Just be careful and smart about what your doing. I have a 16 yrs old daughter and if she came to me with that Oh yes I would freak out cause I didn't raise her like that and im sure your mom didn't you either.

Answer 5

I don't know how old you are, but if you are sexually active, you need birth control as well as protection from STD's.
If you have a halfway decent relationship, sit your mom down and tell her you have something to tell her and you need for her to promise not to freak out.
When I found out my daughter was sexually active, I wasn't thrilled but I didn't make a big deal because it was more important that she be honest and open with me.
She went to planned parenthood and got on birth control there.

Answer 6

You can go to Planned Parenthood and not say anything at all to your mom. I did it when I was 15. That is what they are there for. It is confidential, and they are free/ low cost.
Be proud that you are being responsible, and check into getting that HPV vaccine.

there are usually other state funded organizations like PP, so do a google search in your area, or check out your local phonebook.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

She is going to wonder why you want birth control if you arent sexually active so its best just to straight up tell her. maybe go to the movies or something together and on the way back tell her so that there wont be any tention throughout the night, like you would have if you told her on the way there.

Answer 8

Don't know how young, old you are.
I would be totally honest with her. She might freak out....
then ask her...when did she start having sex.
however, if you are going to keep it up..then she should
give you birth control methods. Some schools do it now.
Better to be on birth control than having a baby now....

Answer 9

Either way sweetie, she is going to freak out. Depending on your age, you can obtain your own birth control. If your parents have you on their health insurance, you can schedule an appointment and get them yourself. In some states, you do have that right. I am only telling you this because you are trying to prevent an unwanted pregnancy instead of having a child out of wedlock. Please also use a condom. BC will not prevent STD's.

Answer 10

Don't tell your Mom, are you NUTS. I'm 30 and my Mom STILL doesn't know that I'm sexually active!

And listen, if you're old enough to HAVE sex, I'm sure you can handle obtaining birth control all by yourself.

But I would get tested, and your partner. You so you can SHOW your partner FIRST, and your partner so you NEVER EVER have to wonder.

Answer 11

If you are sexually active, then yes you should be 100% honest with your mom. I was so scared when I had to tell my mom, but she understood, and was willing to help me and keep me safe.

You need to remember, she's going to freak out no matter what, she's your mom, it's her job........ but if you really love her and want to be able to talk to her about anything, you need to tell her now.