I have been married 5 years, my husband cheated on me with this woman, she is military, and I would love nothing more than to tell her superior about what heppend, but then that would get my husband in trouble as well. I know this woman's number, but I dont know her address. What can I do to make her life hell. She has mssed my life up, now its her turn. Also, I want to turn the tables on my husband, he is always the one that I have to apologize to, I have to kiss his butt, and when we fight, even if its his fault, I am always the one taking the blame. I am sick of it, I want him to kiss my butt, I want him to beg for my forgiveness. As it is, with this affair, he expected me to get over it, sinec I told him I would, right away. Mind you, this only came about like 2 months ago. Any suggestions, I live in a different state as my husband, as he is military and deployed in Arizona right now, so what can I do....?
2007-04-25 08:09:39 · 68 answers · asked by etrombetta41402 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The BEST way?
Let her have the dick your are married to.
Sheesh, another woman diverting her anger to the woman for what her husband did.
You think he is faithful now? He just got caught this time, that is all....
2007-04-25 08:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Oh little lady how wrong can you be? I cheated on my wife many many many times( 250) women.I always turned things around making her the one at fault.The truth is the only thing she is guilty of is loving me a hell of a lot more than I deserve to be loved.The last time was 27 years ago! WE have been married 49 years this new years eve.My excuse was the fact I never had a Mother.She died when I was 2 & a half.I realy had no excuse and neither does your husband.Sence you have your husband back let the ***** know that she lost.He is back where he belongs.If he went with her instead then she still lost because now she is the one that will be cheated on.I'am an old pro at that game and not proud of it att all.I know now what a wonderfull beauitfull understanding lovely lady I was blessed with to share my life with. Someday and I hope it is soon your husband will wake up and realisize what he has is the secoun best lady in the world.I have the best.The last one I cheated with was sleeping with 4 men while I was out of town so the cheater got cheated on and it hurt like hell.Now if the ***** has a pool get a large live fish and through it in.It cost a lot to get a new liner and filter and pump.I hope she has one and you answer me saying you got her.Also post her phone number all over the place.In restrooms in bars is the best place.If this don't work put your husbands clothes in matching lugduage. ( green trash bags and through them in her yard.These ideas come from my wife she has lots experince luck and loads of love.Baby I realy hate to say this but with him being two states away I would bet he is up to his old tricks again.I hope I'm wrong.Now anouther thing you can do is find yourself someone.Two wrongs don't make one right so that part is up to you.My wife found someone for a short while just to hurt me and that worked very well. E-mail me if you need someone just to talk to.
Be safe& carefull Excuse the spelling the check spelling isn't working for me. Oh yea1 more thing,you don't oue your husband a damn thing.He oues you a good life that he ain't giveing you.You don't have to kiss ANYONE'S ***.Tell them all to kiss your ***.Damn idiots
Sorry I'm a little pissed off at your husband
2007-04-25 08:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to suppose guilty! There may be on no account a reason for looking external a wedding/relationship. Your being egocentric and aren't even because the heartache your husband will go by way of if he ever discovered (and eventually invariably do). If you EVER truthfully loved him, recall what affliction it will rationale you too to peer him go through something like that. Being betrayed in that method via the person you love probably the most is the most horrible feeling on the planet. I am hoping you take a seat him down and discover what the difficulty is your having with the connection and tell him about your unfaithfulness. He's going to be upset (thats a given) however displaying that you wish to have to find out why you did this and try to repair it is going to additionally show him you're honest about saving the wedding (when you even are). And if he doesnt forgive you, which is good in his proper, you then ought to reside with the alternative you made. For the reason that in the end, it used to be your choice to do that and it used to be a very terrible choice you made.
2016-08-11 03:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may be hard to swallow this soon after you were so terribly wronged, but eventually you will see that your bitterness is making your life a living hell. If you do something to exact revenge against her you will only maker her feel more at ease with her conscience since she will see you as a bad person. The old saying that the best revenge is living well is not just an empty cliche. As for your marriage, it is unrealistic for anyone to expect you to immediately just get over his cheating on you. Furthermore, he has violated your trust. Trust is earned and he needs to know that it will take time to earn your trust once again. I would also tell him the things you have said here about his overall conduct. If he can't handle it so be it. You have the high ground here so you do not need to lose your composure. Losing your composure only makes you the loser. Keep your head up and maintain your dignity.
2007-04-25 08:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband I believe cheated on me in tech school , but i have to look past all that because i can't prove anything, but The whole thing about kissin his butt and apologizing and taking blame .. I go through the exact same thing, and he's controlling minipulating.. well guess what.. I'm leaving him! You really should to, A marriage isn't supposed to be like that, and the man should put in just as much work as the woman does niether should do more or less than the other, because then the one who does more gets tired, and starts to feel unloved and stops caring about herself, while the other goes and does things like cheating and having what they would think a good time is.... Just leave now girl, picture your life 10 years from now.. i know you don't see it as good, and he's not going to change.. just leave..
2007-04-25 08:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to counseling, I was married to a man just like your husband. I wanted to make that girls life living hell. That was 17 years ago, I am now divorced and getting married to a wonderful man that would never do that to me... First thing first! Stopping blaming this other woman. I got wrapped up in a mess a few years ago with a married man, He told me he was divorced, he was also in the Army. He lied to me his wife and kids... I was crushed when I found out he was married, I felt used and I was used... Your in another state and there is only one thing you can do. Go see a lawyer!!! Your man is lying to this woman, God only knows what he has said about you and ya'lls marriage. Army men (when away from wife) say what ever they have to say to get laid. And he will do it again!!! And he will make you believe that it's your fault.. He has the upper hand in your marriage. There are so many men in this world that will love and respect you.
I am so sorry your going through all of this mess, and what he is doing to you struck one of my nerves, "bad memory's" Take control of your life, that is no way to live....
2007-04-25 08:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Flying w/ scissors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I feel sorry for you. You sound like a smarter woman then this person that ur husband had the affair with. I would go talk to a counselor that is ur best bet. I would go with or even without my husband. There are many good men out there...however if you want to make ur marriage work you need to seek help for it. I have been there before. My marriage has only gotten stronger! Good Luck! God Bless!
2007-04-25 08:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her. It's not worth it. The best revenge is to move on...
If your husband is shifting the blame to you, he needs to GROW UP and take responsibility for his actions! Chances are that yes, there may have been some contributing factors on your end, but HE made the decision to cheat instead of talking to you / trying to work things out, so HE is the one to blame here. Also, if he's blaming you, then chances are he's only sorry that he got caught - he's not sorry for his actions. Being in different states complicates matters too. If you want to save your marriage, the two of you will need to get counseling a.s.a.p.
2007-04-25 08:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you tell him you'd get over it?
Did you say that to appease him? I would straighten him out and tell him immediately that you are NOT over it and you will NOT get over it for a long time, if ever. He broke the marriage vows!! Why do you have to get over it?
If it were me, i'd pack a bag and leave- if not forever, at least for a few days. Sounds like he walks all over you and you allow it. Not meaning to be harsh, but he is the wrong-doer here and you have been cheated. Stand up for yourself. You dont need a cheating dog as a partner.
Did the 'other woman' know he was married?
I think there's not much you can do to make her life a living hell. If she knew he was married, chances are she is already pretty miserable, knowing that she has to settle for a man who cheats on his wife. Any respectable woman would never get into anything as the 'other woman' .
2007-04-25 08:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by amymaha73 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not just leave him and move on..that's probably the best revenge you can give him and you do not need to do anything to her...she doesn't owe you anything..shes not married to you..he is..he did wrong, not her..she can do whatever she wants to whomever she wants and if shes married then shame on her and if her husband finds out then she will deal with that but i question all the time why jaded husbands wanna kill the men who touched their wives and the jaded wives wanna kill (well not kill) the women who touched their husbands..deal with your marriage..these people didn't put a gun to your spouses head did they?...i know it hurts..I've been through it and felt the same way and then had a wonderful friend give me this same wake-up speech...
u do not need to obsess over making any ones life a living hell..no one forced u to forgive him right away or kiss his butt..you did that yourself out of some sort of fear and taking blame...just leave..leave him---that's what u need to do for YOU...that's what you should be asking...what you can do for YOU..you are the most important person. good luck
2007-04-25 08:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by LOONEY LADY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is get divorced. If you can't "get over it," then the marriage isn't going to work. And I don't think you should get over it--if the trust is gone, and if he treats you as badly as you say, even outside of the affair, then this is not a marriage worth having. Get a lawyer, and get out. And don't try any ridiculous revenge tactics--they may be illegal (if they rise to the level of harrassment, assault, battery, stalking, etc.), and, if not, they will certainly hurt your chances for an equitable divorce settlement. And, besides, why should you make yourself a worse person just because your (soon to be ex-)husband is despicable?
2007-04-25 08:16:08 · answer #11 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋