Labor issues while husband is deployed?

Question

My labor is being induced due to complications is there a strong chance that they'll let my husband come home if I sent a Red Cross message?If so,when is a good time to send that Red Cross message because it happens in 2 weeks,or should I wait until I'm actually in the hospital?

Answer 1

Yes, there is a very strong chance they will let him come home. My hubby is in the Army. I was told that they would bring him home enough to see the birth of the baby.
If they have scheduled an inducement I'd call the Red Cross and see what they advise. But most likely since there is a date set your hubby will be able to come home. I sure hope for your sake.
I'm kinda in the same situation. My hubby is at Fort Campbell and I am living with my parents until the baby comes. I will probably get induced myself and we are going to call the Red Cross the day before the actual inducement. My hubby has been told he will be able to come home with no problem all we need to do is call the Red Cross. So that's exactly what I am going to do.
I am sure like I said they will let your hubby come home. Call the Red Cross and see what they can arrange.
I wish you good luck and your baby a very wonderful life.

Answer 2

I just saw this question in Pregnancy - I'm glad you asked it here too, you'll get much better answers here. Whether or not they'll send him home will depend on the severity of the complications and the opinions of his chain of command. I've never seen anyone get sent home for a birth unless the mother or child were at risk of dying. If they're waiting 2 weeks to induce you, your complications probably aren't that serious. It sucks, but there's a very real chance that they will not send him home. As far as when to send the Red Cross message, talk to someone at your hospital. I'm assuming you use a military hospital. If not, call the Red Cross yourself and ask them what their policy is on that. They may send one now and one when the baby is born. All you can do is ask. Do you have family or friends that can be around when the baby is born? Hopefully since you are being induced and know when the baby is coming, someone - your mom, an aunt, a sister - can come and be with you a few days before and after. And make sure to get lots of pictures/video for Daddy to see later! Good luck and I hope everything works out well for you.

Answer 3

You could always try. Sometimes the requests are denied, but if it is due to complications then a note from your doctor could help. I would send the Red Cross message now so your husband could have time to fly to where you are at. Good Luck.

Answer 4

hello, my husband is in the army and i was at one point also. not all unt wd let ur husband come home. juz cause u send a red cross doesnt necessaraly mean he will get to, for ur sae i am hoping that he does. it kinda depends on how much time he has left, when he got there and there status kinda some units are just assholes and have an awful chain of command and wnt let em, however if he makes a big deal he should get away with it. but as for the red cross i wld send it prior f u know the exact date, there for his unit wldnt be like ooo sorry its last minute an stuff, it takes a while to get from iraq to the states, if thats were ur stationed, even iaq to europe is still like 8 hours. but i wild call ur red cross let them know the situation and the dates so it cld get to ur husbands chain of command. also if ur husband is able to call or email, let him know so he can inorm hi chain of command about the situation and the upcomming red cross!!! im sure he will be able to come home hun!!! i wish u guys the best of luck, and i am sry ur husband is down range, mine leaves in aug, i know its not easy!!!! best wishes an congrats on the baby

Answer 5

send the red cross a message RIGHT NOW!!!!!!
do not wait.... do it today.
best of luck to you and your family.
my husband is getting deployed when i will be 6months and he will miss our first born:(
i know how you feel:(
good luck girl.
the red cross will immediatly let him know, they might even help with the plane ticket.
make sure you tell the red cross you are experiencing complications and that your labor will be induced, so that they lett the head "hancho" know that its serious and not just cause you want him there. although im sure you do: )

Answer 6

Depends on the complications? They usually would give him family time for am emergency and this sounds like one. If it is not life threatening (which we don't know) you may not want tto put that pressure on someone who is under a bunch of pressure defending his nation. He has a bunch on his mind and therefore should not be put in confusion. While he is thinking about what may happen at home he is opening his guard up to those who could cause him harm wherever he may be serving his country.. Good luck on your decision.

Answer 7

Well you need to start working on it now...don't wait until the last minute b/c they still need time to get him home...and that is if the military does let him go.

My husband was in the Marines and I know it is hard to be alone while pregnant and expecting anytime now. Hang in there, hopefully they will let him come home, but if not there is still nothing that you can do about it.

Good luck. And congrats.

Answer 8

If hes deployed waiting til your in the hospital will be too late, I would talk to red cross and see what they advise.

Answer 9

Since you have a date you are going to be induced, don't wait. In order for him to come home in time, papers and orders have to be prepared, it isn't like being on a regular job and you can just leave. I wish you a healthy, happy baby.

Answer 10

They don't usually let husbands come home for births. Sorry. It's not considered an emergency. You should talk to someone at your husband's command state-side to see what they have to say about it. Like maybe the ombudsman.