Hello, I need a bit of advice. I recently took a girl out last week on friday to a night out- just me and her- and I was so excited and nervous, because I cant stop thinking about her- but before I waffle on, after what I thought was a great night out, then I get told on monday that she doesnt like me in that way at all and she was just using me for drinks..........i feel like such an idiot, you know? What do I do about it?
2007-04-25 07:23:21 · 48 answers · asked by shadowrunneruk 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
To Catina
I hate guys who take their problems and then make it out that they used the other person. I rarely talk to my friends about this kinda thing, for fear of horrendous piss-taking or the fact that it always goes around and I hate it when I tell someone something and they spread it around
2007-04-26 06:04:37 · update #1
Just be happy knowing that she's a loser who has no friends so she needs to go out with random guys so they keep her company and buy her drinks.
The best revenge is success - just be happy, find a new girl.
2007-04-25 07:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
Welcome to the club! I always take a girl to a park or some other relatively low or no cost place. I learned the hard way that you should never take a girl out to an expensive place, especially for the first couple of dates. If she doesn't want to take a walk around the park with you then you should never, and I repeat NEVER, spend any money on her. Women are ruining it for themselves, because the more times you get burned the fewer chances they will ever have in meeting a decent guy. I use to be a spend thrift, now I'm very tight fisted with my money. The first thing I ask is if she'd like to hang out on a sunny day in the park, if she says no, then I know she's not worth spending any money on.
2007-04-25 07:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Who told you? If it was she - well, aren't you glad you found out before you wasted more money on the little tart.
You're not an idiot - she's a user. You sound like a lovely man and I hope you meet someone more worthy soon.
If it was someone else who told you - ask her if it was true. It will e very embarrassing for her to find out. Word gets around and people will soon know what a user she is.
2007-04-27 06:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry mate we have all been there, all that is hurt is your pride but just learn from it. Sometimes you cannot tell straight away if someone is using you and it takes a while for the penny to drop.
Maybe next time you go out for a drink with a girl ask her if she is going to buy you one if there is no sign of her putting her hand in her pocket **** her off simple.
2007-04-27 09:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Edgein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah u sound like a real genuine sweeti, her loss mate, ask her outright if thats how it was first, if it is then u learn by ur mistakes if not give it another (cheaper) go, you'll think of something and take it from there. Also depends on who told you that she was using u a lot of people can get bad mind when someone else is really happy, sad but it happens. gud luk x
2007-04-26 10:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by DeViL..^--^~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people can relate to your situation... most of us have had a similar experience... we think we have met this great person just to find out he or she has a hidden agenda. That is why we date in the first place to fight our way through all the mean and bad to find that one person you love and will love you in return. I wish there was some formula for a cure that I could give you (just think how rich a cure for heartache would make us) but there isn't one. I can tell you what I do... I move on - I don't always feel like it (I would rather hide in my apartment with only a pint of Ben and Jerry's cookie dough ice cream for company) but I force myself to go back out there and met new people and learn from past situations.
2007-04-25 07:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God, how desperate was she to go out with someone she didn't like just so she could have some free booze.
I wonder what she would have done for some dinner.
You shouldn't feel bad about yourself over someone who is obviously a dirty tramp.
Go dutch for everything from now on and continue being a gentleman.
:-)
2007-04-28 02:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get told by who? she told u or her friend told u? never believe a story from her friend.. sometimes girls like to say the opposite with their friends... ask her yourself whether that's true or not. if it's true it's ok to let her know how u feel. Eventhough she doesn't like u, she should know that u had a good time. Just thx her for that. U won't feel like an idiot but a gentleman.
2007-04-27 11:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by atm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do? Nothing. You sound like a sensitive and thoughtful person. If you have friends in common, don't discuss feelings that will get back to her. If you see her in your day-to-day life, say hello and keep walking. If you are still interested in her and hoping to get together again in future, stay cool and see if she comes around. If not, you will have taken the high road and will be attractive to any other women that she hangs out with who will realize your strength of character.
2007-04-25 07:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by jourdepaye 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What a b*tch. (sorry about the language) Well, I would say just forget about her. Don't feel like an idiot, she is just a user and karma will give her what she deserves. Hang in there and show her what she's missing!
Good luck love! :]
2007-04-28 12:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Seduce A Stranger :] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steer away from the very popular girls they tend to use and abuse. Swallow your pride and wait a while before you attempt to date again, at least until you get over your shock in this event. Good luck we women are not all the same.
2007-04-28 08:12:57 · answer #11 · answered by I Tisi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋