2007-04-25 07:10:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
The statment was made by someone who was saying, if we keeps part of ourselves away from someone, we hold their interest, it adds to the ...
2007-04-25 11:41:40 · update #1
sorry, excitement.
2007-04-25 11:42:48 · update #2
It varies with the depth of the person. So, in the vast majority of cases it will be completely true. The human problem is its susceptibility to group and ego influences and a drive to have its needs met. A few have this under control and, being aware of themselves as individuals, can moderate their behaviour when inner wishes try to get the upper hand. The majority are slaves to the dictates of exterior manipulation and basic selfish wanting from the inner need machine. Such people take for granted anything that they can get into their greedy grasp. If everything is supplied they will lose interest given time (large amounts of money or a status enhancing partner will maintain loyalty to the home stability, but not their actions away from that environment) - for them, a totally unattainable or less giving partner will be the real object of their affections.
2007-04-28 02:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Silkie1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like a challenge to me...
From my point of view ... That is not true ... unless you mean the way some people (mainly women) LOVE celebrities that the will never possess
Some/most may be fascinated by, or lust after what they don't possess...but that is not love... and certainly not true love
True love is a lot deeper than that ... and has nothing to do with what/who you do or do not possess...
I think that love is a word that is thrown around too readily and often confused with lust, obssession, infatuation etc...
I agree that keeping something back (a part of yourself) may hold some or most peoples interest... but that is because their interest is easily held...
anyone would have to do more than (give little away) keep a part of you back to hold my interest....
I may just think that they are trying to hide the fact that they have nothing to say, and are trying to keep me interested , by pretending that they are interesting.... ;-) which is usually more the case.
I may call it a challenge ... but I wouldn't call it love
dR bad
Interesting and holds nothing back ...
2007-04-25 13:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I love my possessions & I certainly possess them. When it comes to people (or cats for that matter!) however, you can't truly possess them. You can love them but they still have a life & will of their own. You can not cage them. If you try to then they will only want to be free. I think that if you could completely possess someone you would take them for granted, grow tired of them, not respect them as a person. We all need a little independence. When you fall in love it's so tempting to become absorbed in the person, to revolve your world around them but it's not healthy. Possession and obsession aren't love -- they are intoxicating & intense & yes they can feel like love but healthy love doesn't cling on, it lets go. You have to give a person room to breathe & be themselves. The minute you try to control them or limit their freedom or keep them on a leash, you start to destroy the relationship.
I have struggled with this myself for a long time, to be honest. I have a jealous streak & tend toward a controlling nature. I'm learning to let go a little. It's tough. I think once you love yourself enough you don't feel so insecure & don't have to try to hold on quite so tightly to your beloved. The irony is the tighter your grip, the more they want to slip away. Most of my relationships were about control. Either I felt in control & possessed the other person or they controlled & possessed me. My current relationship is a healthy love between two equals. Sometimes I feel like a fish out of water! I've never experienced this before. He challenges me to be a better stronger, person. Sometimes I wish he'd try to possess me, be a little more insecure & controlling like previous boyfriends. But his love is a confident, secure & trusting love. It is healthier. He's been a good influence & is helping me to be more positive. But it definitely can be difficult sometimes...
No relationship is perfect but the bottom line is you can not possess anyone & no one can possess you. You choose to be together & love each other, or you choose to part. You are a human being not an object & therefore can never be owned...
2007-04-25 07:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets distinguish between love and desire. We can desire things to own, possess, experience, attain, etc.
But love is more than an emotion, it's a commitment.
We don't capture love, it captures us. Love isn't "taking", it's "giving"; thus real love never owns another but gives to another. Love isn't a non-descript force but must have a definitive objective. Love isn't just what we feel (which is great) but what we do about it. I love the exchange on "Fiddler on the Roof".----
TEVYE (the husband)
Do you love me?
GOLDE (the wife)
Do I love you?
TEVYE
Well?
GOLDE
For twenty-five years I've washed your clothes
Cooked your meals, cleaned the house
Given you children, milked your cow
After twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?
Eventually he gets her to admit she truly loves him. I think there are a lot more people talking about love today and doing less about showing it. In other days people demonstrated it more but didn't tell each other enough
that they loved each other. It would be good to have both.
2007-04-25 07:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by aquaman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 06:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be true. I remember when I was younger, A female was always more attractive when she was dating someone else. Thankfully I outgrew that vision impairment.
To be honest I think the love that is being spoken of in this quote is lust, not love.
2007-04-27 00:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may very well be true. I love those who love me. I am grateful for that love, maybe because I do not possess self love.
2007-04-30 11:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I cannot completely answer your question in the format that you laid out, but I will say this:
"When we love someone that will not give their all (100%), we are magnatized to their inner soul, a soul that cannot be one"
2007-04-25 07:17:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think we love what completely possesses us, not the other way around.
2007-04-28 09:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone has been out on the Proust again.
xxR
2007-04-25 07:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋