i need some advice?

Question

ok well i have a boyfriend(mark) and i found out his friend (cris) likes me and ive liked cris 4 a long time but he broke up with my friend jessie 4 me but i said no cuz im going out with mark but i really want 2 go out with cris and i really love mark but now i dont know what 2 do so can any1 help me??o ya and jessie really likes cris and it would be wrong 2 go out with him unless she says its ok or something but i still need help

Answer 1

We'll i think you should stay with mark and see where the realationship goes because the worst thing you do is leave mark and not know if ya'll could have made it! You will eventually wonder how far you and mark would have gone and that regret would always be there, you'll always have an unanswered question in the back of your mind, not to mention you will also have the guilt of leaving someone who loves you dearly and breaking there hearts. Trust me cause i've been there done that and it's best to wait things out. You and chris will always be the best of friends and he will still be around waiting for you if he really loves you and its not just a fling or lust! As far as chris goes, he should stay single or date someone else until your out of your commited realationship, but i do not think he should tamper with a already broken heart by going back with your friend. Whats already done, leave it alone and in the past but i hope he learns from his mistakes for future reference!

Answer 2

Wow this is a tough one. The main person you should be concerned about is Jessie. As the saying goes "boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever".

If you choose Cris, you need to know that you'll be facing bigger problems than this. Both Mark and Jessie will be upset with you.

Knowing that Jessie really likes Cris, even asking her if it's okay to go out with him would most likely upset her.

Answer 3

Since you say that you love Mark, it sounds like you should stay with him. And since this Jessie is a friend of yours(and also still likes Cris)is would be pretty wrong of you to start going with him.

Answer 4

You don't have to feel guilty about going out with cris bc of Jessie. He dumped her, you didn't steal him on purpose. If you would feel better getting her permission, go ahead and ask, but know that she should give it rather than try to control you both.
You have to decide between 2 guys now. Which do you like better? I'd ask your parents who they like best (they aren't clouded by romantic feelings). Consult your friends. Make a list of what you like about both guys. If you're into both, go for the "Smart" choice. Who is less of a player and will treat you better?
From what you put, I'd pick the guy you have, because Cris dumped Jessie for another girl, and he may end up doing it to you. If you love your current boyfriend, it would be lame of you to ditch him just because you think the grass might be greener. This is a relationship, there should be some commitment. But you aren't married, so if you think Cris will be better for you, go for it.

Answer 5

Do you "love" Mark or just "like" being with him or the attention or the comfortableness?
Why are you attracted to Cris anyway?
What was the reason your friend broke up with him? Might be a good reason...
Anyway, if you date Cris, it's going to complicate your friendship with Jessie. It's going to become uncomfortable.

Answer 6

If your friend still likes this Chris, then he should completely be "hands off" Regardless of what she says..........she still has feelings for him. Guys come & go (this statement can be revesed) But, true friends are treasures that can last a lifetime.
You really love Mark??????????????
But yet, you are not only considering going out with another guy........but HIS friend.
Have you considered that you just want Cris because you have wanted him for a long time?
Timing is everything and with all of this.........I don't feel the timing is right. Especially with all the FRIENDS that are involved.
I hope you will evaluate how you view FRIENDS.

Good Luck and maybe in time (a year or so) you and Chris will get together.

Answer 7

First you have to let Mark go because you obviously do not love him. Let some time pass, then talk to Jessie about cris. If she is a strong friend she will be okay with you and cris. Try and guide her towards mark and tell her your okay with that. then she will be more receptive to you and cris giving it a go.

Answer 8

The truth is you do NOT love mark or you wouldnt be hot to trot after cris.You do seem to have a sense of loyalty but seeing you arent married you can dump mark and ruin his freindship with cris for your own selfish desires and date cris.Cris may grow tired of you just as he did jessie.I bet you'll really score points with jessie if you go out with cris huh?Anyhoo, the decision is ALL yours hon.

Answer 9

If you love Mark stay with him. Mark and Cris are friends so if you break up with Mark for Cris youll be hurting Mark and your friend. Be Smart about and remember what goes around comes around.

Answer 10

You basically answered your own concern here. You are "with" Mark. There is no need to move past that point. So what that Chris likes you...I'm sure there are lots of other guys that like you. You will certainly loose Mark and Jess...and only you can decide if it is worth it all. My guess is NO...what does it say for Chris that he is willing to cut in on his buddy's gf? Do you not think he will ditch you just as quickly if he has a fleeting interest in some other girl? Believe me, he will. Sounds as if he has ADD (very short attention span).