I think I love my husband?

Question

I have been feeling lonely for a couple of months. I have alot of drama in my life. I want to sit down and talk to my husband he just put things under the carpet. I tried from making myself sexy then feeling unsexy because it don't go as plan. I'm not in love with him anymore. what should i do?

Answer 1

my first suggestion would be to get some counseling. talk to your husband about it - if he won't go - go without him. find out why you are unhappy - maybe as you rediscover yourself it will be easier to deal with him and he'll see that you are serious and hopefully join you.
good luck

Answer 2

Let me give you some first hand advice from a married woman. Love isn't just that googly feeling you have when you first date. it is knowing that you can trust and depend on your spouse. and vice versa.
I have gone through some major ups and downs in the sexy department. I had days where I felt too fat, too light skinned, not blonde enough, etc... The truth is those weren't the things my husband was expecting of me, it was what I was expecting of myself. It was how I saw beauty. No man can talk a woman out of her own perceptions.
Just like women, men need to feel connected in some way to want sex. So you need to get some time together and have fun then you can talk about some of the more serious stuff. Make sure that you are appreciating him and making him feel special because it is a two way street. You aren't out of love you are just deppressed with your current situation which has made you insecure and withdrawn from your husband.
You need to open up to him and tell him how you feel lonely and like your heart is empty. He will probably be shocked that you feel this way. or he may agree and you two will work it out. Not with divorce, but by spending more time together and focusing on each others needs instead of your own.

Answer 3

It's unfortunate that he doesn't want to talk. That may be the reason why you're falling out of love. I was just reading this morning that couples need to maintain their connection by talking like they did in the beginning. It is lonely to live with someone that only wants to talk about mindless day to day stuff.

You should start going to a marriage counselor by yourself and then invite him along.

Answer 4

Are you playing games with him? You need to ask yourself why you're feeling lonely. Be straight with him - don't "make yourself sexy" and then feel bad when he doesn't jump you. The best marriage's require great communication - what are the issues and dramas in your life?

You married him for a reason - don't jump to conclusions, maybe your drama is pushing him away.

Answer 5

Animal Crossing friends?

Answer 6

Couples therapy and if he doesn't want to go or have it come to his house he doesn't want to save the relationship. I would call cheaters on him since he changed or he might be having a tough time at work. Give him massages mostly foot, that makes people want to have sex.

Answer 7

You are not alone. try writing him a heartfelt letter. Dont dress up to feel sexy for him, do it for your self. i do, my husband thinks hes going to get lucky, but i tell him its for me not him and i feel like a million bucks when i do that. Do for yourself, not everyone around you.

Answer 8

Talk again and then if you're not happy with the end result, seek counseling.

Answer 9

take a break, re-think things over
take a job out of state, let the issues work them selves out

Answer 10

Do girls prefer muscle heads or pretty boys?