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I have a friend who is a married woman and has lots of guy friends (who are single). Her husband throws a fit if she goes to dinner alone with a guy friend. He thinks it's ok for them to have lunch together but not dinner. That seems old fashioned to me. What do you all think?

2007-04-25 06:34:20 · 25 answers · asked by bluvw 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Just a side note, this is my best friend. And she'd never cheat on her husband. She's just one of those girls who was a tomboy in school and hangs out with guys more than girls.

2007-04-25 07:51:35 · update #1

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Why put yourself in a position where something COULD happen???? You know, an ounce of prevention....... I think the husband isn't being old fashioned, just cautious and wise. If she is having dinner alone with any man, it should be her husband. If there's nothing going on , invite the husband to join them. Maybe once he has done that a few times, he would see it as a "safe" thing and not object anymore. Otherwise, it's not worth causing problems in your marriage over.

2007-04-25 06:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by dana 2 · 3 0

Personally, I don't think it is OK for a married woman to go on a date, have dinner, etc. with a single guy. What is the purpose of a married woman having dinner. It sounds like she is lacking respect for her marriage and her husband.

I may just be old fashioned too!

2007-04-25 06:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mark M 2 · 0 0

My husband would have a a fit for lunch or dinner. But I don't see anything wrong with either. She is still entitled to have friends and a life outside of her marriage. If her marriage is strong it shouldn't matter. If she wants to cheat, she'll find a way without going to dinner. She will be happier if she makes her own choices!

I hope her husband get it together! In the meantime, go to lunch. Invite the husband for dinner.

2007-04-25 06:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 1 0

what is your take on a married man have dinner with a single woman?

Sound like to me that she have no respect for her husband nor her marriage. Is she doing this because he have done it in their past? There is no insecure about this, just respect and love for the person you exchange your vows with.

2007-04-25 06:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0 0

"I have a friend who is a married woman..."

Okay - so YOU'RE a married woman (I love how many people on Yahoo! answers "have a friend" or "know this person who....") who flirts with a bunch of single guys and can't understand why your husband gets upset when you go out to dinner dates with them.

Well - GEE FREAKIN' WHIZ. I wonder why he's upset.

No - it's not old fashioned. If you want to go out to dinner, on a date, then do it WITH YOUR HUSBAND. Even if you're not "cheating", you're getting some kind of vicarious thrill out of going out to dinner with these single "friends" while your husband sits at home.

You're not going out with a group of people from work. You're not going out with a group of friends. You're not even going out to dinner with a single male friend and INVITING your husband.

Sorry - husband right. You wrong. Keep it a lunch dates or invite hubby along next time.

2007-04-25 06:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by mantoothnation 3 · 0 0

I personally don't think it's okay to have lunch, or dinner alone with a single guy or woman if you're in a relationship.

2007-04-25 06:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes. My man would not agree to breakfast, lunch or dinner. Some people are comfortable with this. She should be able to do these things with her husband.
It is probably more than she is telling you--smart!

2007-04-25 06:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The question is, why isn't he invited?

When i first started dating this girl and we started to get pretty serious she got a call when i was there. She said it was this guy who likes her but she's not interested and he was coming over to visit. I told her i didn't like that and she asked why? I said ok i really don't mind but can i come over and hang out while he's here? She thought about it and said you're right it would be awkward with us both there so she told him she didnt want him to come over and wasn't interested in him and didn't want him to hurt her chances with me. right on the phone, while i was there. I"m like wow, that's cool.

2007-04-25 06:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think spending a great deal of time with a member of the opposite sex when you are married is a bit of a slippery slope. Yes, of course we all need friends and men & women are capable of spending time together without falling into bed but it just seems like there is a line. To me, the time of day they eat together is totally irrelevent.

2007-04-25 06:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0 0

I think that the woman should be committed to her husband. What's the point of having a guy friend...they are guys they don't care what you think, they wants to get inside your pants. No matter what you think, she is trying to get attention and she'll wind up cheating on her husband.

2007-04-25 06:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0 0

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