she is 20/21 and mine is 28...
2007-04-25 06:01:35 · 46 answers · asked by Faiz K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is OK. Just be aware that when you reach retirement age, she will still have some years to work before she can join you.
2007-04-25 06:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Narvy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unless she's extremely mature and/or an "old soul" 20/21 is too young now a days. BTW...how can someone be 20/21, she's either one of the other and since she's just going to celebrate the 21st, she's barely going to start handling the challenge of drinking legally, you want to put a marriage on her shoulders too? Not a good idea.
Why not agree to date for another 5 years and then talk about it. Least you'll both agree and there is a stake in the ground to discuss it.
And Dude, yeah, marriage affects the lives of EVERYONE involved, you, her, parents, brothers, sisters, everyone man. Sounds like you need a little more time to think this over fully before doing anything just because things are good now.
How long you been dating? She's 20, hopefully no more than 2 years but even still, you're walking a fine line that in 10 years she's not going to feel like you robbed her of her "single" time.
2007-04-25 07:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by pico_pica81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the age difference. The key is are you both ready to get married now. Are you both financially stable? Are you both going in the same direction as far as your career is concerned? How much debt do both of you have? Do you argue about anything and if you do what do you tend to argue about? Do you have any children? Are you going to have any children? There are a lot of questions that you need to answer before you tie the knot. Learn each others strengths and weakness. Learn about each others idiosyncracies. Do not try to change each other. If you can answer all of the questions that need to be answered before you get married and the answers are favorable then you two can start thinking about your wedding day.
2007-04-25 06:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by soulsearcherofthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the older you get, the less age differences matter. My brother in-law got married last year. He is 28 and his now wife is 21. They get along great. It has alot to do with maturity levels. As for it affected your future, only time will tell. Follow your heart. Good luck, and remember age is just a number. You are as old or young as you feel.
2007-04-25 06:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cresha B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women tend to be more mature than men. The most important thing to do is make a list of goals the two of you have as a couple and as individuals. If you are headed in the same direction, things should work. My husband and I are 10 yrs apart. He's 41 i am 31. We wanted the same things and are going on our fourth year of marriage. My friend was 18 and married a 26 yr old and are having problems because of the age gap. She changed her mind on what she wants out of life.
2007-04-25 06:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
7-8 years does not sound wrong to me. My wife is five years younger. It's not the age difference, it's where you are in life. I think most people are not done maturing at 21 (then again are we ever done maturing?). Anyway, I would give it a few more years before you get married.
2007-04-25 06:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by fleppy100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard the Muslims have a good formula for this: marry a girl whose half your age plus seven.
The older you get, the less that difference will mean.
I was going out with a girl 15 years younger, and the age difference was sort of an issue, but definitely NOT why the relationship ended.
2007-04-25 06:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by yurbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 and my husband is 31. We have been married since I was 20. I wouldn't want it any other way. If you love each other undoubtly then let nothing stop your love from blooming even more. I am guessing if you are thinking of marriage you adore and love her. I have always been on the too mature for my age side. My husband and I work perfect together. His mom was NOT happy when she first found out my age. She actually refused to meet me for 9 months. But that didn't deter my husband and I. We knew we were in love and no one would stand in our way. I actually got really close with my mother in law. Her disagreement with my decision to continue college after I was married put a wedge between us. But it doesnt change my relationship with my husband. Currently trying for baby #2
2007-04-25 06:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Summer H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it may seem like a huge gap, simply because she is so young. However, I am 31 and hubby is 45.....age is not an issue. I love him as much as I did when we met 10 years ago (I was 21) and we have yet to encounter a problem due to our age difference. If you are both mature enough for marriage, then go for it! Congrats!
2007-04-25 06:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is 7 years younger than me and we get along great better than my last relationship with a man that was the same age. I think as long as you both are happy and of legal age it shouldn't matter how many years. My mom remarried after she divorced my dad and my step dad is 6 1/2 years younger than her and they have been married for over 20 years and happy.
2007-04-25 06:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sandi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's such a small difference. With age you'll come to realize that until the moment you start to get teased when you turn 60 and she hasn't. LOL
Seriously, since it takes many males longer to mature socially, I think it is a perfect age difference. Although at my point in life, younger men look more attractive!
2007-04-25 07:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋