I have a 7 year old when should I start explaining about her period? I know she is way too young to talk about sex, but I do need to talk to her about changes that will be coming soon.
2007-04-25 05:49:57 · 26 answers · asked by kissybertha 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
everyone thinks I am jumping the gun but the girls in our family started their periods at age 8 and 9 I don't want a scene like in the movie carrie.
2007-04-25 05:58:37 · update #1
My first daughter was asking me questions at 7yrs of age, and I just answered each one when they popped up, giving basic info in a matter of fact way. She knew it all by the time she was 8. But she's that kind of kid - needs to know how everything works. My other daughter was the total opposite and freaked out whenever I tried to give her the talk (I waited until 10 and a half for her) - her sister didn't tell her anything, and she didn't want to know. She'd stick her head out the car window going 'la la la' when I tried to talk to her in the car - hilarious now that I think about it. They're all different. Give her as much info as she wants, in her own time, but definitely before age 11.
2007-04-26 01:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's to young now girls are starting there period very young now some 8-9 yrs old. Talk to her about it but wait on the sex bit to a little older
2007-04-25 15:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really isn't too young to know about sex. The question of how the baby gets in there will come up, the time has come. There are some good explanations online but the best way to talk with her is just to explain it to her in a relaxed and factual way. I wouldn't wait, many girls start their periods at nine and some even earlier.
Sex is not a bad or icky thing, get your own mind straight about it before you start to talk with her. Sex is a beautiful part of life. It is special and to be shared with a beloved partner when a couple is ready to have a baby. The puritanical taboos that America has are really unhealthy. She needs the proper information and knowledge to become an adult, which is starting as puberty starts. She is too young for the diseases and the other parts of "The Talk" but she should know and understand the biology of reproduction.
Your daughter is entering the transition to adulthood and you need to be ready. Your job is to teach a girl to be a woman, not to care for a girl. Go forward with the goal of helping her become the woman she could and should be.
Best wishes.
2007-04-25 13:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Now days she isn't too young...we've got 11 & 12 year old boys and girls who are becoming parents everyday. We need to start informing our children about these things earlier so that just maybe we can stop this horrible cycle from continuing. Yes, I think that you should talk to her about her period and once she starts, you should talk to her about sex and that now that she has her period what could happen if she consented to sex. Wake up America, there is a crisis going on right in our neighborhood and we as parents have to figure out how to stop it or at least make sure it doesn't happen to our kid
2007-04-25 14:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of two boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is around other little girls with bigger sisters, you need to begin to start explaining the changes her body will make now. I have a five year old daughter and she asked me when will she be able to wear a bra. Right then and there, we begin to have our discussion about the changing of her body. She's still quiet young so I went over the basics with her of how she will have breasts and why she'll have breast. We also discuss periods but with her being so young, I explain it to her on the level that she's on.
Good luck
2007-04-25 15:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have girls, I only have boys... But I started talking to them openly and honestly about sex when they were both very young. If they had questions they could come ask. The boys are teenagers now and they still come to me openly and ask me questions about sex.
I don't think any age is too young to start talking (giving age appropriate material) about sex/reproduction/maturation, drugs, or alcohol... The more open and honest you are with them when they are young, the more open and honest they will be with you when they are older. Good luck!
2007-04-27 02:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by serenedreams28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Observe your daughter -- her body will show signs of puberty months before her period starts, so there is little risk of being completely surprised.
Does she have body hair? At seven, you still probably see her in the tub/shower.
Have her breasts started developing?
Is her skin getting oily (pimples, etc.)
Developing body odor? "Puberty starts with P-U!"
If she's still not showing these signs, you might choose to hold off a bit longer. BUT, if like other family, she is developing early, have a chat with her. I liked the other contributers advice to start with 'As we get older, our bodies change'.
With my daughter (now 13) we started chatting about bodies in preschool (she has a brother). At 10, we started adding in 'womonhood' bits in regular conversations as the subject came up. I even showed her how tampons work by inserting one in my closed fist. No need to be super graphic -- but I would rather my daughter KNOW THE TRUTH and be prepared, than to panic.
Be prepared to answer questions:
Does it hurt? How much blood is there? What should I do if I start at school/church/someone else's house?
2007-04-25 13:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We have a 10 year old girl, and my wife had to explain this to her. There are children's books available that may help you a little bit. I can't recall the names off the top of my head, but I would imagine a yahoo/google search might help.
Also, you can frame the discussion as a "As you get older, your body changes..." and point out the differences between the two of you. You can just stick to that point without dealing with the sexual aspect of the changes. That might be a separate conversation.
2007-04-25 12:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think either eight or nine would be a good time because girls start getting their period between the ages of 10-13. Or start talking to her around the time you got yours because she could start when you started.
2007-04-25 14:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started talking to my kids (girl and boy, 16 months apart) about their bodies, age appropriate, when they were about 4. Of course, the first few conversations were about hygiene and wardrobe, then as they got older we were able to discuss things more openly. We only had conversations about such things if they asked questions, and only continued them if they were comfortable having them. I would suggest you take your daughter to the library and get a juvenile book about the female body. Then spend a few days a week in the afternoon just the two of you going shopping or something special talking to her about it and answering her questions. You can do this. Good luck.
2007-04-25 14:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by blondietatt04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋