a good friend of mine just had a miscarriage (at 12 weeks). she went to the hospital, but they discharged her without any information on what to expect (pain and bleeding). she says she feels like she has the flu, but isn't sure if this is normal. i have been lucky enough not to have had one myself, and have 2 wonderful sons. she had her 2 daughters by cesarean, so she has no idea what labor feels like, and i don't know how to explain it to her.
i really want to help her to feel better (physically and emotionaly), but have no clue how. any ideas or experience on how long until she starts to feel "normal" again?
thanks for any help!
2007-04-25 05:44:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
that is exactly what happened to me, they told me nothing of what to expect. I found i bled for a couple of days, and had cramps and flu like symptoms. They will pass. the emotional trauma will take a little longer. Be there for her, she will need u and well done for being a good friend
2007-04-25 05:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks. You won't have flu like symptoms of any kind, I can tell you that right off the bat. You will have some of the worst cramps you've ever had in your life, followed by lots and lots of bleeding. It'll be heavy bleeding. I know that I saturated an entire box of pads in about 5 hours. I can't believe that they DR didn't give her more information than that. She really should call her DR because they should be seeing her every few days to track the HCG level (pregnancy hormone) in her blood to make sure that it is going down. If it's not, she may need to have a D and C. I would totally tell her to call the DR ASAP.
2007-04-25 12:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister had a miscarriage and said she felt like she had the flu for a few days during and after. My sister felt better physicaly rather quickly but emotionally was really hurt for awhile. To explain labor to her, I would explain it as the same kind of cramping as if you were having menstrual cramps and diarrhea cramps at the same time. In active labor, it is the same but has the feeling as if you had diarrhea and held it too long (the intense need to push). My sister didn't feel any of that during her miscarriage, just menstrual cramps and flu-like symptoms. Hope that helps a little bit.
2007-04-25 12:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a double miscarriage. It's rough. I would like to know what they did at the hospital? At 12 weeks, there is a lot going on in there. Yes, it is painful. There will be a lot of bleeding and cramping. Hopefully she will pass all the tissue. She will need to make an appt with her OBGYN to have an ultrasound done to ensure that. I had to have a DNC, but it did help with the cramping. Anyway, about the eotional side... Just be there for her. That's all you can do. There are no words or gestures that will make her feel better, but your support is what she will need. My prayers are with her.
2007-04-25 12:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by mtippett17 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to go back to the doctor...
i have had three miscarriages and while i felt terrible with cramping and bleeding..i never felt like i had the flu.. she may have an infection.. especially if there was no D&C done to remove any ....tissue...that might have remained.....
be there to comfort your friend during this horrible time...
i was never more depressed than after each miscarriage and almost ended up killing myself... people didn't understand and would say things like "well you have one child already" or "your young, you can have more children" and other really stupid uncomforting things.....
it made everything so much worse.. a simple...i am so sorry for your loss....what can i do to help? will go a long way....
2007-04-25 12:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had 2 natural miscarriages myself... too painful! She should expect severe cramps, and bleeding for the next couple of days. She should check with her doctor if she needs to have an echography to check that everything is out, and there are no traces of her pregnancy.
As for the psychological and emotional side, no one can predict how she will take it... Anyway it's nature way of keeping the fittest! Make her look at the positive side that she has 2 angels, and life will get back to normal. Anyway she can try to conceive in 3 months time, if she feels fit.
2007-04-25 12:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nadinette 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she had a miscarriage then something was wrong, like, would you rather have a miscarriage or bring a paraplegic child into this world. It's not fair on that child, I'd rather not be born.
I don't know much other than cramping/dark blood.
..Try ur best to help her feel better =\
2007-04-25 12:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your friend's loss.
I had a miscarriage a while ago. I don't remember a "flu-like" feeling. Is your friend running a temp at all? If there is a temp then I suggest that your friend call her ob/gyn, in case of infection.
2007-04-25 13:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by AV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is normal i miscarried three times she will feel very sick. she might even get really cold outta know where. i know i did it really sucked but got threw it. also i bled quite a bit and had horrible stomach pains. tell her to relax not do to much until she feels better...that's what i did
2007-04-25 13:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by mommy to 3! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking a doctor. Call the hospital she was discharged from.
2007-04-25 12:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by James 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋