How do you know when a man is going through something in life or if his problem is in the relationship?

Question

I don't want to ask at this time because he doesn't so much like to talk about his problems.

Answer 1

It is not uncommon. Unlike what other women's opinions here, I do not see why they have to know everything what a man is going thru all the time.

A man takes up the responsibility of the family after marriage and, say, kids. From late 20s on, his career should be advancing. Women may say money is not important but in the same breath they want stability, which is hard to have without reasonable income. Men are wired to go for career advancement. There could be office politics, his own ability, a couple of mistakes here and there, and so forth. Affairs are certainly possible but most women think this is the only factor and is very untrue.

Men don't need their wives' help in most of the above. The more women want to know or help, the more it comes across as nagging or additional burden. Don't be surprised to know that the man actually and willingly talks to his men friends about his problems.

I'd leave it alone.

Answer 2

Don't buy into the "communication" BS hype pimped by women's magazines. A man isn't going to spend a whole lot of time burdening you with his problems until two things happen: he feels safe and he's got it generally worked out and knows how to talk about it. The worst possible thing you can do is introduce the concept of a relationship crisis at this time; that would undermine the 'feeling safe' part of it.

That being said, it might be a not-so-good indicator about how secure he feels in the relationship with you if he's holding something back very long, so you might try telling him you have noticed that something appears to be bothering him, and you would like to help him in anyway you can when he's ready to talk about it. If it's not you, that'll win his heart.

Answer 3

Life's problems and relationship problems are often interrelated. For example, when a man is having a life challenge, it may affect his relationships with the people in his private life. This is true of both genders. If he refuses to discuss his problems, then you will have to allow him time to get his act together or to confess what is bothering him. On the otherhand, if his silence is annoying and upsetting YOU, then you might need to bring it up for discussion first. Otherwise, you may need to be separated from him if his
behavior toward you is causing you to have doubts about his loyalty or his relationship with you.

Answer 4

dont listen to the other chick that first anwsered you... i have the same problem with my partner and it is very difficult....his problem most likely has to do with anything but the relationship....for most men, they will talk about thier relationship just for some reason not thier personal problems...at this point i would ask him anyway, you have to atleast try to get him to talk show him that him talking to you is really important to you and he will soon realize he has to talk sooner or later... i like to ask my partner about whats on his mind, what he is thinking about little questions like that if that dont work DO NOT GIVE UP the more you ask, the sooner he'll talk depending on how bad this problem of his is bothering him.

Answer 5

You have to ask but you have to know how to ask to get an answer. If you two can't communicate this then you have bigger problems. Maybe there is nothing going on and you are making a mountain from a mole hill.

Answer 6

That is ridiculous; the key point of any relationship is communication and if you are too much of a wussy to ask him what is going on with him, then don't be all shocked when he find comforts in the arms of another women that will "understand" him.

Answer 7

Get him to a Dr. as soon as possible, look on-line at the symtoms of certain disorders, diseases and cancers and go from there... If he won't talk to you, he won't talk, you make him listen then....

Answer 8

If you have to ask us, rather than your man.....you're with the WRONG man!!