I was deceived at marriage?

Question

She is 5 ft 4" Petite with a hottest curves on a body. I married her and now she weighs 200 lbs and looks like Godzilla.

Answer 1

And I'm sure you look just like Heath Ledger. Quit exaggerating, get over yourself, and try to remember the "for better or worse" part of your vows.
Please, they've been doing this gag since the beginning of stand-up comedy, and it still ain't that funny.

Answer 2

You are not the first to feel this way and I am sure you won't be the last either. If you truly love her then her weight shouldn't be an issue. Just a suggestion here, why don't you try talking to her about her weight and see if there isn't an underlying issue. She may be depressed or maybe it some other kind of medical problem. The fact that you feel she looks like a giant lizard say alot about what you think of your spouse. Did you marry her because she was hot at the time or did you marry her for the person she is? In any case I think you are the one with problem here and it is called vainess. Get over it and show some respect for your wife.

Answer 3

I'm not going to slam you for being upset about her weight gain. Personally I wouldn't be happy if my husband let himself go either. I'd still love him though!
Anyway...you weren't deceived because I'm sure she didn't want to gain alot of weight. What you need to do besides complaining about her is find out a few things.Is she depressed. Has she had any children since you got married? That'll destroy a woman's body and it's not always easy to fix. Is she having health problems that keep her from exercising? Try and find out what's causing the weight gain and try and help her fix the problem. And don't put her down. When someone is made to feel worse about themselves they will often try to comfort themselves with food and then the problem just gets worse.

Answer 4

We are all decieved and we are the decievers too. We all put our best foot forward to make a good impression in the beginning but we never learn how to not be decieved by others.

Until a person is 25, we are not really sure how they are going to look for the rest of their life. And even then we change.

You wanna know what they are going to look like later in life? Look at their momma. That's the best way to know.

Try this. Drive by your local high school when the kids are getting out. Look at the girls. They are thin and curvy and cute. Look at the guys. Thin, athletic, full of energy.

Go to where people in their 40's go. Look at them. Not so thin, curvy, cute, athletic, or full of energy. What happened?

Life happened. That's them and this is us. If you choose them for their appearance, you are going to be dissappointed down the road. They're going to be dissappointed with you too if you were chosen the same way.

Find what you like about her and dwell on that. Work on yourself and see if she will join in with you. You will both feel better and will be working on something together that may keep you close. Do it for health reasons if for nothing else.

Best Wishes.

Answer 5

sorry, but these women have it ALL wrong...of course we will ALL get older, adn of course we might put on a few pounds as we age....but 5'4" and 200 pounds is UNACCEPTABLE!

And having babies is ZERO EXCUSE! I have two sons, I work as a personal trainer and I am in BETTER shape NOW than I was at 21!!!! I am 33 now.....

As sucky as it may be ladies, appearance is important! NO, its NOT everything, but do not lie to yourselves....

How would it be if our men stopped going to work every day??? "Oh honey, yes, I am a useless, jobless slug now...but you should just love me for me!"


I DON'T THINK SO!!!

Answer 6

that's not deceiving.... i think you're kinda lost. you don't marry someone and expect them to be exactly the same. people change mentaly and physically. obviously you've change. she probably thought she married someone who will alwasy love her for who she is, not what she looked like. did you guys sign a contract that said you two will look like that forever?!! I think not. if you want to her to look the same, help her, go to the gym together or something, don't call her a godzilla. imagine if that were you?

Answer 7

You were not deceived at the time you hooked up so stop whining. It is doubtful you look the same as when you both married so she probably has a lot room to complain also.

Answer 8

well if u lov her looks shouldnt really matter unless the reason y u married her was because of her body but if its going to cost a divorce then u should talk to her and i bet u aint any fitter either so try to go to the gym together or something

Answer 9

Even Godzilla had a mate- guess your the lucky one. Wow- 200lbs. wow.

Answer 10

You forgot to check what her mother looked like. Correlation is very strong.