I have been corresponding with someone for a while now and I have grown a fondness for her. The problem is, I've never seen a photo of her before. She claims to be a college student but types like an illiterate... lol. I know that's just a "front", though.
She says that she values our friendship but won't drop the spelling front (not that it matters but I do wish to know the "real" her). Come to think of it, the only thing I know of her is her full name. Do you think she's serious about this friendship or should I completely forget about her and move on with my life?
I've known her for about six months now. And we've only communicate via e-mail as of late. Your opinions will be very much appreciated, thank you.
2007-04-25 04:42:35 · 18 answers · asked by Ms Ghost 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
not all women or even men do trusts each other well over the internet. there could be a big reason why she??? (hmmm) did not show her? picture to you. how about you, did you show urself to her? or did you send her your picture? im not generalizing, but to my experiences on net friends, most are not really true. but this girl could be somewhat waiting the right time to show herself to you if she really value your friendship with each other. i had lot of friends (before) over internet who were guys and we've been friends for over a year whom most of them had fallen in love with me. i saw them on webcam while chatting but they didnt see me at all, even my picture. my deal to each of them was: if a man is really true to his feelings to me, then he can be able to see me even in person. must show that real feeling and abide the rules of our relation. but the problem was, all of them failed since after a year, i found out that its not only me they were playing with, but there were lot of us too (easy for me to find it how if im interested with a particular man, lol). my BUDDY this time had seen me a lot of times and we keep on communicating with each other thru text if am busy and cant chat with him. we've been over 2 years already BUT i did not reveal yet my true life (personality/address/landline, etc) to him as im not very sure if we could be together forever in real life. he is OK with that as he knows that its only me who could come to him and marry him instead. by that time, he will know who i am when we will marry!!!
in your case, who knows she is also trying to find out who really you are and if you are really interested with her. if you can swallow that, then you have to wait. if not, then move to the next...gurl:) for precaution, just be careful always as you might end up hurting your own feelings.
2007-04-25 05:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by ~o0o~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you think the illiterate spelling is a 'front'; it is much harder to work at misspelling than it is to just write naturally. She probably is not a college student. Are you sure 'she' is even a 'she'? You can never know a true person just through e-mails so why continue to seek that? If you are not moving on with your life, I think you have spent 6 months too long on this. In the old days, when people just had pen pals, before the Internet, words were powerful enough to make housewives fall in love with prison inmates (it still happens) but with the advent of the Internet, written communications have assumed more power. People actually believe that the person they are IMing lookins like the picture on their website. I can't wait until I am 82 and I have 'hot' cybersex relationships with young guys who think I'm a cheerleader! LOL.
Sorry to joke about this - it is serious. You really can't know this person. Even if she posted a photo, it would be next to meaningless. We all need to communicate but you have to have something strong in your life like a good relationship to show you how insubstatial internet mail can be.
2007-04-25 04:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u could start telling her more about you. You should not be specific. In a week or so ask for her phone number or tell her yours. You can always change it. There's this code call 141, people tell me it stops the person you are calling knowing your number. A while ago I got this leaflet on safety chatting online maybe she got it too and is more careful. I f she refuses again then if u really are fond of her just continue emailing her and respect her privacy.
2007-04-25 05:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mmmbop103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to read my recap of your own question, and then see if you know the answer:
1. You've been corresponding with this girl for 6 months, yet don't even know what she looks like, and have never heard her voice.
2. She (or he????) types like a 14 year old
3. You know NO vital information except for her name (if it's really hers/his)
Read these aloud, and see if it takes you 3 guesses as to the answer of whether you should forget about her....um, I mean, "this person."
2007-04-25 04:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chosen huge type 2. heart beating, hand shaking, loopy in love emotions as you said are short and do not very last lengthy. It does no longer fulfill you or the different human being. Plus maximum of it truly is actual at the initiating besides. To have a lengthy time period relationship is finished filling to both persons. It helps you advance as someone.
2016-10-18 03:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was interested in you I would think she would make the effort to talk to you other than emails. Six months is a while to get to know if you should take it a step further. Ask her to take it up a notch...if she is not willing to then maybe she is just not serious and likes to play on-line. Make your move and see if she wants to play....
2007-04-25 05:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by oh2bjenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude it really depends on what you are after.
If its a serious relationship you want,you are better off chatting up a real physical person that you can see with your own eyes.
If its just friendship/cyber-friendship whats the big deal?
2007-04-25 04:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by dawgz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her as just an internet friend. Don't try to see her face to face. My guess first of all she is not a college student but, is a young girl. As long as you keep your friendship on the internet only. You can be friends.
2007-04-25 04:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a worry if you have not seen a photo or even used a web cam --- the typing could be explained --- english may not be her first language ---- tell her your feelings --- about wanting to know more of her personal details --- she may be reluctant as there are a lot of crazies online BUT if you have established a rapport she should trust you more as well --- best wishes
2007-04-25 04:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys should get each others home address and send a photo or better yet a video you know just tell her that you really wanna picture her when you guys talks or e-mail
2007-04-25 04:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by erin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋