Do you get put down easily by other people?

Question

I do sometimes, I would like to know how I can make situations like that better for myself.

Answer 1

A lot of times, a person who is getting put down actually wants to get put down. They like to feel bad and they like to feel depressed. The reason is because they have had a tough time with things in their life starting from the beginning and they now just want everyone to be happy. They think, if I can take this abuse, at least everyone else won't have to. But it doesn't work that way and you can't make everyone happy. You can ONLY make yourself happy. So don't stand for it when people put you down. Try to act more confident at all times and that way people will be scared to put you down. Good luck!

Answer 2

Yes, I do. I chose to distance myself but my life is not for everyone. Don't be ashamed of being sensitive or for showing it. Others need to notice. Don't try to act. Be yourself. Keep in your heart and mind who it is that demeans your character and seeks to hurt you. It's a big world. Cut them out of yours if you want your ego to survive.

You cannot change anyone else. Don't waste your time trying.
Just take care of yourself because no one else will, not on that level. As far as getting tough, that's up to you and what you have to do in life. I am at a place where I can avoid emotional pain. It won't last, nothing does, but I don't want to miss this stage. Be strong or be gone. I chose to leave the party. Wanna come? No? Then galvanize your feelings before you go out there alone.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. It was me a year ago. Then somebody came into my live and brought out the most ugliest of human for inside of me. I started to say and do thing I never would have done. But I had to stand up for myself. Luckily that person is gone now and I don't ever want to be like that again, but in a way it helped me to stand up for myself so that don't allow people to walk over me again. I hope you can find a way inside yourself to stand up for yourself without loosing self respect. I had to get that back again. Not easy.
Good luck!!

Answer 4

Yup. Sometimes though, it's good to ask the person to clarify what they mean. Sometimes a miscommunication can sound like a put down.

For example, I got my feelings really hurt by a teacher who I looked up to and respected.

A classmate and I told him the colleges we planned to go to and he said he was really impressed by my friend's choice. "That school's really up there" he said.

I said, "What about my college" and he laughed, shook his head and called my college a low school that was waaaaaaaay down there.

I felt like sh*t and was about to leave the room, then said, "That's really mean. My school is just as good as hers even if it's not a private school."

It turned out that he didn't mean the quality of the schools just the location -- my college was in the suburbs where the land is flat with no hills "a low school". Her college was in the city with a lot of hills "a high, up there school".

If I hadn't asked him, I would have never spoken to him again and thought he was putting me down.

Answer 5

i tend to be a little overly sensitive sometimes. but try to recognize when someone is putting you down repeatedly. simply walk away from them. people like that feed on hurting people's feelings, so just don't give them the time of day. only talk to them if you have to and keep it short and to the point.

Answer 6

Try to see where the other person is coming from? Is it a direct attack or is it constructive criticism? If it is a personal attack why would they say it? Are they just ignorant or are they intentionally trying to hurt you? If you can at least narrow down why someone says certain things less of them will bother you.

Answer 7

Yeah I used to let people walk all over me. I would sit there while people yelled at me and called me things that I would not dare repeat.

Then one day, someone I really cared for started to yell at me and say mean things. It really hurt at first, but eventually I started to bite back.

I am not mean to people now, but I don't let them push me around anymore.

I hope that this helped, and good luck~*

Answer 8

it's a cruel world, if you don't adapt to it, you will be eaten alive, suck it up and give it back to them twice as hard!!!!