How do you forget someone who has touched your life in one way or another?

Question

I have to do this because always thinking about the person is affecting my career.

By the way, the experience was beautiful. It jz ended to soon. At first, I thought that it won't matter. I jz cannot explain why the memory jz keeps on haunting me 'til now

Answer 1

.....You never forget. What you need to do, though, is to "let go." Clearly, you haven't done that. You need to walk away from this relationship forever. You have to affirm there's never going to be a future in it, that it doesn't matter to you anymore. This will allow you to seek new relationships with a full heart. You won't forget. But you will stop thinking about this person.

Answer 2

You cannot forget someone who has touched your life in one way or another. Whether this was a bad experience or a good experience you cannot forget it. This experience has shaped you in one way or another. Good or bad, or both good and bad. When you fight this experience it becomes larger than it needs to be. Therefore, accept this experience for what it is and move on.

What would be helpful is to evaluate what this experience has done for you. What have you been able to take from this experience? What underlying feelings or emotions does this experience tell you; what is at the root of these feelings and emotions?

If you are thinking about this person, who is affecting your career, you are giving this relationship power over yourself and your actions and this may not be healthy. Try to accept this experience as a part of your development. It has contributed to your awareness of who you are and what you value. You are in control of how you respond to your feelings. Don't ignore then. Learn to understand the truth behind your feelings. What can you summarize, in a sentence or two, what those feelings are saying? Make a choice to be the best you that you can be. Decide what your values are, what you believe in, and what you want to do with your life. You are in control of your life. You have the choice on how to respond to any thoughts you might have. Not anyone else. When you have self defeating thoughts remember that you are a person of value and are valued. You are a person deserving of respect. Therefore, are respectful. You are a person deserving of love. Love unconditionally. You deserve safety so stay within safe situations.

As you move on with your life, have faith that things will get better, opportunities will open up to you, and you will take things as they come. Regardless of the obstacle be the best you that you can be, don't strive for perfection, just be good enough. Learn from your experiences and move on.

Answer 3

5. Handling a Loss

A fellow who has just lost his girl, or a woman who has lost her man, feels the horrible sadness and loss it imparts to everything. Actually, everything in the environment will “talk” to him or her about the lost love. For some period of time, it will be impossible for him to look around and not be reminded of this person.

When one’s concentration has been heavily on an individual, it is sometimes almost heroically difficult to not associate everything with that person. The trick is to find something that isn’t reminding the person of the one he or she lost. One might have to search a long way to find something.

This is the way to recover from a love affair. The situation is in actual fact a simple one: the individual has identified everything in the environment with his unrest. By directing the person’s attention to things in the environment which are not so connected and making him find things which are not actively reminding him, one gets a differentiation where an identification existed before. And where differentiation exists, intelligence and judgment can return.

Do the following:

Tell the person you are going to help them. Tell him or her, “Find something that isn’t reminding you of __________(name of person he or she lost).”

Repeat the command, getting the person to find something else that is not reminding him or her of the person until he or she has a realization and feels better about the situation.

This simple procedure can help the person recover from his or her lost love and begin to live again.

Answer 4

It's not about forgetting them, exactly. Unless you have a labotomy, that'll be impossible. Just try to retain the good memories you have with that person, accept what they taught you or brought to your life, and then move on. I've found that keeping busy and doing good things for myself really helped me not to dwell on a particular person. I started taking classes, traveling, spending more time with friends, doing volunteer work, dating new people--things that I found fulfilling and fun. Don't let it effect your career. What you're going through is temporary, though it may not seem that way right now. We've all been there.

Answer 5

Tough question. A very wise person once told me you never get over losing a treasure. Don't expect to be able to just turn the page.
If someone were unimportant in your life, then you can easily forget them. Those who touch our lives are memorable.
We need to be thankful for those who come in our lives and hold the memory of them close to us, but be grateful enough to let go. One door opens and another closes. perhaps this person needed to move on so that another person could come into your life.

Answer 6

Yes, many times. I am 59 yrs old, so I have
had many experiences with this.
The most recent was a gentleman I was
seeing for a year and a half. So much in
common, such a comfortable relationship.
Aug 21 last year he was found dead in his
home.
After grieving, I just was thankful that I met
this wonderful guy before I was too old to
even care.

Answer 7

You don't forget but rather move on. Focusing on the person to the extent that it affects your career is not helpful.

You may be able to benefit from some activities that provide you with the opportunity to redirect your focus from thoughts of this person to an activity of benefit to some more deserving.

Good luck.

Answer 8

The more you think about them the more it will be a recent memeory
You need to be aware that every time you think of this person you snap an elastic band on your wrist and immediately think of something else or do something mathematical that needs full concentration even if its the times table

it will decrease with time

Answer 9

You have 2 options:

1. cut the person out of your life entirely.
2. overdose on the person.

Its so hard to let go of somebody when you don't want to, but if you think its for the better, than do it. However, if I were in your situation, and this person meant so much to me, I would take some time to seriously reconsider my career.

Answer 10

You can think about the person and appreciate them for what its worth but don't think about them to extremities to where it affects your livelihood. Especially if its not a positive thing let it go. Its hard to know whether or not you are grateful to this person or if are holding a grudge