My husband always blames me for making him do what I want to do but it is other way round. It always looks so because I blabber alot and he is quiet even during an argument
2007-04-25 03:40:41 · 16 answers · asked by Isita Koradia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Encourage him to open up and express his feelings, he is so accommodate that he is losing his own space which is not good in long run. Seek his opinion , advice in whatever you do. The key is to involve him more and let him feel important.
2007-04-27 22:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, during the argument, just be quiet and stare at him. Let him do the talking. Make him feel like he has a say in things, whether he actually does or not. Just nod your head and pretend to agree with some of it. Then give him sex every once in a while and he will be happy.
2007-04-25 03:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by serin7300 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
STOP NAGGING. Men hate nagging, repeatation of same old story of things they did not do, could not do for you. Stop nagging him, & don't blabber.
Try new recipies in kitchen as well as bed. Men like good food & good sex. Make changes in your style that pleases him & have ahappy married life.
2007-04-25 17:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you are giving too much attention to him and he is taking things for granted give him a bit less of ur attention and dont react easily in a situation give unexpected reactions . this will make him wonder what and how did u change and will make him more interested in you thts it i think
best of luck
2007-04-25 18:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by kamya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moan a lot
yeah ooh aah will mk him more happy !!
Best of luck ,He wil be more happy even if u blabber a lot afterwards
2007-04-25 04:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by poke_a_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHow him respect. Its biblical. Ephesians 5:33 tells women TO SEE TO IT that they respect their husbands. When a wife does that her husband softens towards her and he begins to tell her that he loves her or shows her through some gesture. When a man does that you know. However if you are standing there criticising him and badmouthing him to others and laughing at him behind his back, then you are in the crazy cycle and its spinning faster and faster and instead of love you have resentment, disrespect, nastiness and absolute childishness, but go back to that basic principle in the Bible and apply it and watch how the wheel SLOWLY begins to slow down. YOu have to make the difference girl. When a man thinks his wife has no respect for him he receds into silence into his inner cave and watches with horror as the wife continually nags away at him. Who is going to tell his wife he loves her when shes doing those things? THink. Stop, look and listen. Learn to put a guard on your mouth. Give him time to unwind when he comes in the door after work. Have supper ready, a nice bath waiting and clean clothes to jump into. Give him a nice glass of wine or a beer and just give him time to unwind. Get the children ready and clean before he gets home and calm them down. Men have hectic days too at work and all they want is a peaceful happy home to come home to, not a whinning wife with snotty nosed brats yelling and screaming and no supper ready. Start looking at WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THINGS GOOD FOR HIM? Instead of What can I do for ME MYSELF and I. It s not all about you or me but them too. THink hard about this my friend or you will lose him one day!!!! Incidently that same scripture for wives tells husbands to love their wives as they love themselves and they are only going to do it when they get respect. In both situations the love and the respect are UNCONDITIONAL! If you say I will IF, you are heading for trouble. Instead say I will because.......!
I hope this helps you. The change will be slow but good will come out of a mess if you change things you are doing wrong. When you change he changes...this is very true. I speak from experience! Its all about maturing in ones relationship. Its a choice not a feeling!!!!!!
Ps in the book of proverbs it actually says: Better to live in the desert than in a house with a contentious wife!!!!
2007-04-25 04:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u r not alone.me too.i used to talk a lot.now a days i stopped blabbering.i am sick of explainig to him abt everything happened and happening, in order to make him realise and understand. but everything in vain.still i cannot stop trying .i will try sometimes ,many times i will leave it in the hands of time.certain things only time can change
2007-04-27 07:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by udhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WILL I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO MY WIFE FOR 13 YEARS AND TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BUT WHAT I HAD TO DO WAS LET HER MAKE ALL THE PLANS WITH ME IN THE BACK GROUND ALWAYS AGREEING WITH HER.I DID THIS FOR A WHILE THEN IT CAME TO A POINT WHERE SHE WOULD ASK ME WHAT I THOUGHT OF THINGS THEN IT GOT TO WHERE WE BOTH WERE MAKING THE PLANS NOT JUST ONE OF US.TRY IT I KNOW IT WILL WORK
2007-04-25 03:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by arb3075 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Variety is the spice of life.
2007-04-25 23:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
mere khayal se app sirf itna hi karo ki app ke pati kya chahate hai. unke dimag se chalo bhale hi wo galat ho aisa app ko lagta ho phir bhi app unki iccha (wish) puri karne se pahle unko bata do ki woaha kaise galat hai, aur phir app unki vicharo se chalo. mere khyal se app apne vichar unko samzane me kamyab nahi hote hoge. phir bhi koshish karte raho. unki pasand aur napasand ka jada se jada khayal karna chahiye aur aage aage dekho hota hai kya?
I WISH U HAPPY MARREID LIFE......
with regards,
Shail
2007-04-25 05:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by shail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋