How can I tell my wife in a nice way that she is toooo FAT?

Answer 1

You cant. anything you will say will be seen as hurtful. Instead perhaps meantion your hopes for a healthier lifestyle. Could you invite her for a walk, help with the cooking or shop for healthier ingredients?
Im not huge, but I am overweight.If my husband were to buy me a gym membership or tredmill Id be thrilled.Your wife may be too sensitive at this time to deal with direct comments.
If she were me, Id hear "you are not sexy to me. you are unattractive and worthless"
My advice to you would be to make getting fit your idea. Walks are very romantic and the weather is getting better.Also my own husband gave up soda in the house, and this has helped me greatly.I now drink bottled water. But making overall health a joint project may help you. Good luck, chances are if you are noticing your wife is fat, so has she and shes already feeling pretty crappy about it.

Answer 2

My wife is diabetic and at times she needs to eat something sweet, but sometimes she eats sweets more than she needs to. We did go to the YMCA for a good while which seemed to help with her wanting to loose, but now we are taking care of her mother and can't seem to get the time, and her will for loosing has deteriorated. I think that both of you need to maybe join some type of gym, and most likely that will give her the inspiration to want to loose. She has to want to loose and telling her she is toooo fat in any way won't be a nice way. We are wanting to get back to the YMCA asap.

Answer 3

Has your wife ever commented about her own weight? If so then you can suggest to her a way to help her get healthier (Loose weight). If not--you may open a can of worms. Is her blood pressure high, Does she eat the wrong foods. Is she complaining of physical problems, etc? If you are a few pounds over then you can use yourself to start some type of weight loss and maybe she will join in. You must be very discreet in this situation, but remember she is still the same person and you should love her no matter what.

Answer 4

Before you even start, lose the attitude. If you can approach this in a delicate way you will be ahead of the game.

First of all, do not use the F-word.

Second, you could approach it from the health-concern angle. Sit her down and explain that you are worried about her increased risk for diabetes, heart problems, etc.

Third, the next step could be to make her weight loss a project you could help her with by embarking with her on a "healthy lifestyle" rehauling of your life as a couple. If you're in it together, it'll make it more fun for her, and more difficult for her to slack. Join a gym together and go to regular workout sessions together, or appoint a time when you will go together on daily walks.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Never use the term "fat"...find a calm, private time and let her know you have concerns you would like to talk about.

Tell her you have noticed that she's put on some weight, and that you are concerned about her. Ask her if there is something going on that she may need to talk about. Let her know you want to help her be a healthier person - stay away from how her weight may be effecting her attractiveness, cutting her self esteem will not encourage her to lose weight (it may but it's unlikely). See what she says and go from there.

It may be that she has a problem and she's been trying to cure it with food - if she knows that she can open up to you and that you are there to help her, then she can overcome this obstacle.

Answer 6

being a fat wife on the mend, i sugest that you tell her something like this "hey honey rember (enter last skinny time you remeber) man that was smok'n. I wonder what WE can do to make that real again. I'd like to change a few things so we can have that all the time. Ya wanna take a walk and see what we can figure out about getting you into that ( thong, low cut dress, ect.). NEVER NEVER EVER say fat or that she is alone in this.

Answer 7

*Well no matter how "nice" you are when you tell her, either way she is going to take offense and get really upset.

**So you can try getting a gym membership for the BOTH of you, that way it doesn't look too obvious, and tell her that you feel like you two need to start being more active. And this way you can do it together.


**And I don't know exactly how fat is "too" fat in your opinion...but you could try and buy better food to put in your house, so she's not hogging down junk food or a bunch of fatty foods.

`So good luck with that.

Answer 8

there is no nice way to tell someone you love that they are too fat! Sorry! but you can ask if she wanted to go to the gym with you or walking or biking. Not only does she lose weight but the 2 of you can spend time together. Make it appear as something you want for the 2 of you to do as a couple not as if its about her weight! Hope it helps

Answer 9

what are the things about you that your wife would want to change. Are you open for suggestions or would that upset you? How is your lifestyle? Are you willing to make changes to help your wife. ?There is no "nice way" to tell anyone they are too fat. Start asking her to go on walks--maybe join a gym-suggest getting healthier together

Answer 10

You can start by looking into the mirror and working on all your faults first. When you become totally perfect, then you can tell your wife she may want to consider dropping a few pounds. Maybe your wife feels good with a little extra weight. If she was size 5 and is now size 8, what the hell is the big deal. Fix yourself first first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11