My Step mom and i got into a big fight about 2 months ago now she will not let my dad be apart of my life he has not called me in 2 months.I miss my dad so much and i dont know what to do. I know he has to respect his wife but i am his daughter and i need him in my life. My dad and i were very close before he married my step mom and very slowly we have moved apart. I feel like i dont even know him anymore. I am a single mom and my daughters father is not involved at all and i cant beleive my father is doing the same thing to us.....it brakes my heart!!! any suggestions?
2007-04-25 02:45:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im really sorry to hear this, but your step mom should have no say in what goes on in your relationship with your father. if I were you I would go or call him and ask her to stay out of it. you need to have your father in your life. hes YOUR father. I know its gotta be hard for you, cause you seem to really miss him. but why would a father ignore his own flesh and blood because his wife tells him to. he should never let anything get in between the both of you. and she should know better than to even go there. you should definitly not just sit there and wait for something to happen, you should get in touch with him and keep trying and get him alone together and tell him how you feel. hes your father and no matter what hes always gonna be there for you.
2007-04-25 04:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a nice supper for the both of them to get things back on track. It is very difficult being a step mom - most children don't like their step parent anyway unless they have come into the picture when the children are young! The aruging makes things worse, I feel as though I don't want to be around my step children b/c of this same reason and their immaturity has only made their dad feel the same way, why do we want to be around trouble makers and people who want to fight all the time or people who lie? We have even had to go as far as telling them not to come over until they have some respect. Their father sees them now very little and has basically cut them off fiancially b/c they lie about their finances and two of them try to scam us out of money all the time, they all have children of their own as well and no jobs, we can't believe a word his daughters say but they do not realize that it is their behavior is what has caused the distance. There is nothing that says we have to deal with the cahos and games. We love them and will be there for them but it is easier not to be around them. Sad but true... I want our grandchildren over but if we started babysitting them we would have children 24/7 and they would argue about who's came over more. I would like my step children over but the truth is life is much easier and less dramatic and we are able to keep more of our own money in our pocket that we have worked hard for- I hate the way things are but we didn't ask them to be this way either. Try harder!
2007-04-25 03:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm trying to read in between the lines here...it seem like you aren't' telling both sides of the story. Try this...
In that argument you got into with the step-mom did you say some really hurtful things and if so did you mean them? If you didn't then maybe you need to apologize to the lady first then show "BOTH" of them that you are the mature one in this situation and eventually if your father has any love for you he'll come around. But sometimes we're force as the grown children of our parents to be bigger person when we fill they should.
So go to the step mom and apologize for any rudeness you may have displayed on your end of that argument and believe me that will soften her and in-turn it'll bring you closer to your father.
2007-04-25 03:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Always Camera Ready 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand the position your coming from I genuinely have a step dad and he's an same way, and that i do not forget that u desire to be there on your mom if i had the chance to leave i dont imagine i might want to do it. in basic terms because i might want to be fearful about my mom yet your mom has to appreciate the soreness your entering into spite of the truth that and look at were given to inform her the way you sense about his ingesting. i video tape my step dad less than the impression of alcohol so i might want to educate him how dumb he act then i wrote him a letter and advised him how i felt. trys those issues and if there's no change then i quite trust you should bypass in which include your brother. and also you should actually tell your mom that she will be able to quite not in any respect sense free until eventually (step dad) he stop ingesting and variations his existence i desire you the finest of luck and that i will pray for you and your situation
2016-10-18 03:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what i would do . I would drive over there and see my dad . Don't argue with them just give him a hug and tell him how much you love him . Hes getting old now and there's no time for fighting and arguing .Us old people can go just like that our old bodies are just wore out . Maybe his wife doesn't show you any respect but you don't want to be like her I think your dad had enough problems in his life try to make some good days for him he is your father and his love for you will never die hes just getting old and tired.
2007-04-25 03:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1~ Write your dad a letter. Send it certified and return receipt so you can be sure that he gets it. She may be intercepting mail , etc... Tell him how you feel, relive a personal memory of your childhood that would draw him back to the times you had together. Don't give up! He will wise up and probably be very ashamed of his behavior!
I am sorry he is doing this. Children come before anyone else!
2~ Tape a message to your dad on a cassette player and send it to him to let him hear your voice and how much you care
Let him know you are trying
Don't talk about stepmom etc.,
Just about you and him!
2007-04-25 02:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rhiannon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your dad and screw her! I hate it when step-moms think they have a right to take over! My step-mom hasn't been nice towards me lately ever since I had my daughter, jealous I believe because my dad is so taken by her. If your step-mom tries to come between you two step up and tell her to back off...announce to her you are his daughter and you have a right to talk to him and see him WHENEVER you want and HE wants! If it means duking it out with her again then go for it...don't let her ruin the relationship with your father. Best wishes!
2007-04-25 02:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless to the fact that you are an adult, he is your father and you still need him in your life. She has no right to keep him from you. At the same time, your father is a grown man and if he isn't contacting you it's because he chooses not to. If he really cares about you he would say "to hell" with evil behind and see you anyway!!!
2007-04-25 02:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tryed to resolve the problem between you and your step mom? She is a part of your family and if there are problems you should confront them. I do think it is wrong for your father not to talk to you because of something that had nothing to do with him but was between you and his wife. In the end its the children who are missing out on their grandfather and it has nothing to do with eather of them.
2007-04-25 02:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step-dad cut off contact with his natural daughters because my Mom demanded it. They were in their late teens and early twenties when this happened. Now they are in their forties and have grandchildren of their own.
Some men are just cowards.
2007-04-25 02:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋