I constantly feel sad when I see intact families. I feel bad because my family life did not work out. I am divorced and my child does not live with me.
I feel sad because I will never have someone that is close to me and really cares for and knows me. (my soulmate). I never had that with my ex-husband and don't think or know if I I will ever have that again.
If I visit or see or hear about other families, I see everything that I tried to have in my life, but could not. It makes me depressed.
Any suggestions about how to deal with these feelings.
2007-04-25 02:23:41 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you're not alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you should consider therapy to help w/ your emotions!!!! i'm very sorry about your family situation, but seriously, quit feeling sorry for yourself.......get up, dust the dirt off you and do something about it!!!!!! thats the only way you'll get through this!! : )
2007-04-25 02:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by leobutterflygoddess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
.....You don't want to be burdened by these negative feelings the rest of your life. Three things...
1. You can create your own intact family someday. I'm sure you will, if that's what you want.
2. Other people's lives have nothing to do with you. We don't choose our parents. It's all chance. Just learn to accept what you were dealt and move on.
3. Feeling sorry for yourself is very self-defeating. It never, never has a good result or a useful purpose. I strongly recommend that you look at this and walk away from these feelings. The sooner the better.
2007-04-25 02:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. The best thing i can say to do is to pray. Things will never be what they were. That does not mean that you will not be happy again. Time is the biggest thing. I wish i could tell you more. Try to find a singe parents group that way you can talk to them and get some ideas of what to do.
2007-04-25 02:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Leonard L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound depressed. There are so many people just like you that feel they will never have what they desire most. I think a counselor or therapist can help put your feelings in perspective and believe me there is always hope for a brighter future although you may not see that yet. I wish you all the luck.
2007-04-25 02:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by teresa.hereford@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still young enough to find all the things you dream about. Don't let one ex-husband rob you of your dreams. Your life isn't over yet. You might marry a man who is raising his children alone and then even have a baby with him. Open your mind to the possibilities and then get busy doing what you have to do. Happiness seems to come when we forget about wanting it.
2007-04-25 03:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you always have and had someone close to you who knows you...Jesus.
Soul mate, shmoulmate, that's not even real.
I don't know what your past is, or what you did to cause divorce, but forgive those from the past who hurt you, forgive yourself, observe what makes "other families" work, and learn from it.
Remember "The Golden Rule".
2007-04-25 02:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Paul R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋