i liked this guy frm the very beginning. he was so sweet. he was flirting with me so i flirted back. but it was only later that i found out he's married!i just found that out on my own. i feel insulted(what makes him think i want to be a mistress?) and very hurt at the same time. anyway i still lyk him a lot but i know its sooo wrong. i respect marriage. i nver want to be a mistress. but i really lyk him. what do i do? he's still acting lyk before...sweet and all...
2007-04-25 01:09:15 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i understand you fell in love with him and then found out he was married. It is not your fault you are in this situation. It sounds like you would not jeopardize his marriage. The best thing to do is stay away from him before you fall into temptation. What if he starts getting more 'serious' would you be able to turn him down or would your love for him take over and you take him up on his offer? What will you do then? Men like that can charm you.
If it makes you feel better (it would make me) the next time he approaches you tell him you know the truth......and let your feelings do the rest of the talking.
Sorry, love hurts. It will take a long time to get over it.
2007-04-25 01:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by Krystle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get involve, try to avoide situation which leads to temptation. Married men have some potion with them and they know it. getting involve will hurt u and not getting involve will equally hurt u... now u've got to measure how high your morals r? Being brand a mistress is no difference to a prostitute. Even worse... prostitute has no strings and couldn't destroy a family unit as bad as a mistress. How would u feel if someone stoled your dad or your husband. Imagine you're his wife, how would u feel if he suddenly had a mistress... don't do to others what u don't want done to u
2007-04-25 01:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Lotus 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, he is a bum. Best thing to do, move on. If he is flirting around on his wife, what makes you think that he isn't doing it to others besides you? Tell him that you liked him for who he is, but now that you see this major flaw in him, you will not lower yourself to a mistress level and destroy a family over a little boy's playing around and that he should have never gotten married in the first place. Then close the door on him forever. Contuing seeing him only lowers yourself and brings on problems that you don't want.
2007-04-25 01:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away and tell him you no longer want to talk to him. Trust me if the wifey finds out she will come after you and that could only be bad. Not to mention married men always have a way of slipping up and you dont want to be stuck in the middle of somthing later on. I would just forget about him and move on to a better guy there are way better people out there then a "scumbag" who wants to cheat on is wife. (no offense to anyone but I've been cheated on a few times)
2007-04-25 01:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany Leigh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you are going to hear a lot of leave the jerk. If he did it once he will do it again yadayadayada. Anyway. I met and fell in love with a married man, I was also married at the time. We both decided we did not want to stay in our unhappy marriages and we got together. 15 years later we are still together. If he is cheating he is not is a happy marriage. If this is the case why is he staying? Are children involved. Does he feel the same about you? You need to ask all of these questions and be prepared for the answers. Is he willing to leave his family (wife) for you. If he is not, then ok he is a jerk and he just wants his cake and to eat it too. If he is willing to leave you may have a chance.
2007-04-25 01:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Now that you know he's married, you've got to put any feelings you have for this man aside and move on. He belongs to another woman, and if that's difficult for you to do, just imagine how YOU would feel if another woman was trying to make the move on your man!
Also remember that if he's flirting while he's married, he's probably not going to be faithful to anyone, so do yourself a favor and loose the loser!
Best wishes!
2007-04-25 01:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has no respect for the sanctity of marriage whereas you seem to. Why would you want to involve yourself with someone like this? He also shammed you into being interested. I'd have lost respect for him totally rather than fall in love. He's wrong.
2007-04-25 01:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kami 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You stay as far away from his as you can. If he was flirting around with you, he's going to eventually cheat on his wife with someone. Don't let yourself get caught up in the drama and mess of an affair. It's not fair to your feelings.
2007-04-25 01:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
Try to leave him, you cant imagine how bad ur relation will go far...and if he hurt you one day (and he will) you will never forget and that will pain you forever, even if you grow up or have new relation, hurts from one you love un forgettable...
And he lie, so how to trust lier...he betray his wife, how he will not do the same to you...
One like him don't deserve...I know and really know men like him
It's painful. Believe me and leave him as soon as u can...
You still young enough, and one day you will find your man, which you will be crazy if he talk to another...
Life always turn around...believe me
Take care of your self
2007-04-25 19:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by AJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life, kindness of words are often mistaken for an attraction. Love is kind in words too. You know that he has been committed in marriage to another, you must move beyond the physical attraction for him. Live your respect for their marriage and break that lust spell you are feeding upon.
2007-04-25 01:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋