i find hard time talking to other people..i always want them do the first move before me..but when that situation don't happens, i tend to be alone or be a loner...i could not help myself but sit in a corner..hope you can help me with these...
2007-04-24 23:58:01 · 8 answers · asked by chielala 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My brother is the same way. One thing he did (which you're not going to lie) but in college he took a speech class. This forced him to talk in front of others in the class. He sweat and his faced turned red, but he said it was very good for him. He also sets himself up little challenges. Like, he will challenge himself to go talk to a certain girl or ask her out.
He has some self-talk that he does before he does that. He'll say something like, "Well, you only live once" or "the worst that could happen is they don't like me or she doesn't talk to me or things I'm weird- I can live with that." So what if one person doesn't like you? If you have one or two good friends, then begin giving yourself little challenges. Do something crazy. At a grocery store, ask a guy for his phone number even though you know he'll say no, just so you can have it happen and live through it. good luck.
2007-04-25 02:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by DrThorne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always found that waiting for other people to make the first move never worked, so I always make the first move. I feel like I have trouble easily socializing with people I don't know well too, but as long as you make the effort then you can sit back at the end of the day and think 'at least I tried'. That's more than some people will do, some people will just ignore you completely or are just ignorant.
2007-04-25 00:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mr X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started thinking about how the person at the other end of the table is just a person like me, and it helped a great deal. Now I am almost as extroverted as I used to be introverted. Still find some situations a bit scary, but it's been much better than before.
One of the main turning points was a 10 day vacation I spent with an extremely extroverted reggae singer. He socialized with people like it was breathing air. I found him inspiring and at first just imitated him. Later on, it stuck with me somehow.
2007-04-25 01:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once the same way. Very shy and fearful of social situations. Dreading the thought of being the center of attention was one of my biggest fears. Then I became a Bartender. You must first wait tables to help you become more accustomed to dealing with people. Then become a bartender and learn how to be in control of situations and people. Never feel awkward around people again. Being a bartender will help you embrace and control these situations when needed.
2007-04-25 00:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
c'mon take a chill pill... its not that hard just to start a conversation unless you really are not in a mood of talking to someone. If you are be confident and start talking whats there to loose anyway... just be cool even if you aren't look cool things always goes fine if you can really take them lightly and best of luck.
2007-04-25 00:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn forgetting that you are introvert.
2007-04-25 00:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by kumar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh we have thesame problem... sometimes i feel invisible during group discusions.
2007-04-25 00:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by hhhhhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋