I don't tell my partner everything because some things I like to keep very personal. I've never cheated or anything like that and I'm not dishonest with him but some things are best kept to oneself. Anyone else agree?
2007-04-24 21:20:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By hiding a few things I mean... how you spent on shoes, or clothes just minor things. I work full-time and it's my money, my business. I'll tell my man that I bought something new and show him but I won't always be completely honest about the price! It's personal to me.
2007-04-24 21:49:28 · update #1
totally, u have to have some privacy, u cant be an open book, i dont tell my husband everything, some stuff he just wouldnt understand and other stuff he would bring up and use as ammunition at a later date, we are a healthy happy couple, no lies or deceitfulness..its human nature to want to keep stuff to yourself..x
2007-04-24 21:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by scotgal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is actually very important to keep secrets from your spouse or others who are viewed as "untrustworthy."
One thing clinical psychologists find is that you can really only trust yourself with secrets and special information. If you tell someone else - especially those you live with or with whom you have made children - they can use your words against you.
That is why secrets are so important. In fact, usually only smart people have secrets anyway. That is why we keep them. If the less intelligent folks out there knew what we know, they could be as enlightened as we are, but you know what Superman said about Lex Luthor - "I can't let that technology fall into the wrong hands!"
Imagine telling your spouse that you had cancer or lost three paychecks during a gambling binge. What would he do? Obviously he would be concerned because he doesn't understand the importance of keeping secrets.
When we keep the secrets from those who expect daily communication from us, we find that nothing really is anybody else's business - including our paychecks, bank accounts, and what types of diseases we pick up from sexual encounters.
Clearly put, nothing is your spouse's business. As a general rule, keep EVERYTHING a secret. Leave them guessing. If they complain about not knowing the details, they should not have pried in the first place.
2007-04-24 21:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Snootch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think everybody keeps little thing from there partners and i bet the partner keeps little things from us , if its not cheating or that thay use to be a woman/man lol then there is no harm in that ,
2007-04-24 22:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I don't think full disclosure is even healthy. I have done things in my past that are mine, and mine alone, to know about. I don't care how much I love someone, I'd never tell them. They will go with me to my grave.
I wouldn't be dishonest. I wouldn't lie. If someone ever asked me directly, I'd say it's something I consider private. (*shrug*)
2007-04-24 21:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont tell my hubby everything n i dont think its not being honest cos if he would ask,u know about prices for clothes etc, then id tell him. but if he doesn ask then he doesn need to know. n i didn cheat on him either n i dont really understand that some people think u are a cheat when u dont tell your partner everything
2007-04-24 23:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by kc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i agree.I dont tell my boyfriend when i go out and spend £80 on a pair of shoes !..Some things are best kept quiet !
2007-04-24 21:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I dont EVER tell all.
Like you, I don't cheat or anything but some things I like to keep personal but I find it hard to open up totally anyway.
2007-04-24 21:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends wife asked him if he likes her brother's new girlfriend. If he say know...how can you not like her. If yes...oh ok, so now I'm not good enough any more....What the ....
I think it depends on your partner. Some people are very open minded and you can share any thing with them, others oh my, just keep quite and enjoy their good aspects
2007-04-24 21:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by г๏zเ -----x.♡.x----- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my husband most things except how much I paid for clothing/shoes as he just doesn't understand prices of women's stuff - I pay for them myself anyway with my salary but still!
2007-04-24 21:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course i dont tell my partner everything and ive never cheated on him but like you said some things are best kept to yourself
2007-04-24 21:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋