Reasons for marriage?

Question

What does it mean when people say marriages will last if you get married for the right reasons. What are the right reasons?

Please no rude or anti marriage people please! :)
Thanks!

Answer 1

The only reason is your willing commitment to love each other. Marriage is a daily decision to make things work even when there are a few bumps in the road.

Sometimes people marry for money, or because they are complacent and simply tired of dating, because it seems like the logical next step. Those are the wrong reasons.

When you get married you are simply saying that a particular person makes you feel whole, makes you feel at peace and makes your heart race at the same time, that you are best friends as well as lovers, and that no one else can come close and you want to spend your lives together.

Its a big deal, and people too often take the commitment lightly.

Answer 2

The right reasons are different for everyone. And if there are right reasons, they are the exact opposite of all the wrong reasons. The wrong reasons only you would know. That is what are you not looking for in another person. If it's something that you don't like for personal, moral, or ethical reasons then stick to your ideals.

The right reasons are more expectations rather than ultimatums. Aside from a physical attraction, there has to be more substance to the relationship, a rock solid foundation you can build a life on. This can be anything from perseverance to faith. More than that, you have to know what you want out of it. Does it line up with his dreams and ideals?

You may want to wait on having a small family one day. He may want to have a dozen kids right away. The bigger the differences you have, the less likely it is that the marriage will last or be as peaceful as you had imagined.

But make sure you find out before the wedding, everything needs to be open and honest. If he's not there yet, it's not the right time. Don't pretend it's all going to be okay, he has dreams too, make absolutely sure if you compromise that you won't resent it and visa-versa.

Answer 3

The right reasons. From a mans point of view... uh... well, men should know when they're in love. We listen to love songs, we'll do anything for the woman. I guess that's the right reason to marry a woman. Love has to come from both ways though. I guess you have to look for compatibility. You have to like the same things, but at the same time, there has to be some differences between you two also. It has to balance out. Man I can go on and on. I don't think that marriage is taken as seriously as it should be.

Answer 4

The "right" reasons depend upon the couple. For me there could never be a "right" reason because I have no desire to get married again. Shouldn't have gotten married in the first place...but then I guess some would say we married for all the "wrong" reasons. Hell it seemed like a good idea at the time.

Answer 5

You need to marry only after you've made sure you're on the same page. I would really recommend a premarital counselor. Usually they ask you questions separately, and then you resolve the major differences.

You need to make sure you have similar goals, and values. It won't work if one of you is a tightwad, and the other is a spender. Nor will it work if one of you wants children and the other doesn't.

You need to love each other, and realize that people change over the years. You need to be willing to love them as they change, or if they don't. You need to realize that love is wonderful, but you can get bored or annoyed, and sometimes passion goes away.

Don't marry because "it's time". Don't marry because you're physically attracted..gravity and time will change physical appearance. There has to be more substance to it than just that.

Problem is, it's easy to marry for the wrong reasons, and harder to figure out what the right ones are.

Answer 6

These reasons should be there long before marriage. The reasons to have the ritual can be many and personally, my reasons have little to do with my relationship although the qualities are there.

There are certain qualities that are needed in a lasting relationship and those who veiw a wedding as a meaningful event will say, the right reasons are getting married because one possesses these qualities ie. love, commitment and a certain level of compatibility and relationship skills.

Answer 7

I don't believe love is a good reason to get married! I am married to the most wonderful man in the world. I didn't love love him but now I love everysingle thing about him now. I knew before we got married that I couldn't live without him. He was and is my best friend. I was 17 when we got married. We were both broke and had no jobs and had always lived with our families. I think you just know when it is right

Answer 8

I think you have to have a really, really, really, strong relationship with your partner in order to get married. You and your partner have to be able to get through the good times and the bad.

I know marriage is no cakewalk. My parents fight ALL the time, but they are both really strong people and make it work in the end.

By getting married you are committing yourself to being with one person for the rest of your life. You can't just give up and leave if you don't like the person anymore. You have to make it work. Its not something you just do.

If you get married with the intention of being with that person FOREVER (even if one day you hate his guts) thats the right reason. I guess thats my answer. :-D

Answer 9

I don't know if this will answer your question, but my wife and I didn't get married for any particular "reasons;" we just loved each other, we were hot for each other, we had a LOT of common interests, and we were mutually sure that the other person wasn't neurotic in any way.

We were both at a point in our life where we were ready for a serious, long term relationship, and we were fortunate to have bumped-into each other.

That was 36 yrs. ago...

Answer 10

Whenever I've heard this saying, people are usually referring to reasons other than love that might cause people to marry.

People get married for numerous reasons, one being love. Sometimes people marry because of an unexpected pregnancy, for convenience, or for financial/political gain.

To me this is all the saying is referring to. Hope that helps!
The right reasons are for love and companionship.