account. He is the President of a Motorcycle club. I kno girls are ther. I know the I found out about this other e-mail account when he left for a work related trip and forgot to close it out completly. Four other girls were in the IM area. I pretended 2 be him with one of the females and she stated that she "loved him and was thinking about their "relationship". I found out that this girl was the same girl that was calling his phone all the time. One day about a month prior to the discovered e-mail account I asked him about the phone calls and he told me it was bike related only. I trusted him and didnt ask another question about it. Now I feel like a fool, becasue this was going on behind my back. He keeps telling me that he never slept with her they were just "talking" becase I never listen to him. I need to know if it is ok for females to e-mail my husband? I dont trust him, Iam trying to work on it but the e-mails from other females in the bike community make feel Insecu
2007-04-24 20:15:34 · 26 answers · asked by che J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU CAN'T TRUST HIM PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Get our of this marriage now, it will happen eventually anyway. So why torture yourself.
Get emotional support from family, and friends. But leave him NOW.
2007-04-24 20:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The key thing here is she stated that she "loved him and was thinking about their relationship" That pretty much teels me it is not bike related and there is something more then just "talk" going on thus the relationship part.
Having a female friend is ok as long as the wife knows her well, very well. You don't know these women well and now you find out this? C'mon wether he slept with her or not isn't the point, he is lying to you about her and now there is no trust.
I would tell him you don't trust him any longer and that you have one foot out the door, if he f*cks up again I would walk.
2007-04-24 23:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is absolutely NOT ok for this woman to email your husband the messages she does!
What is he talking to her about anyway that you 'don't listen' to? You? Your relationship? He shouldn't be talking to her, your his wife!!
When he seems in an approachable mood, sit him down and tell him you're listening. Ask him to open up to you about what's bothering him and then when it's all out, say your always goning to be there if he needs to talk again. This way he can't use that excuse for talking to this other person! And maybe you can bridge the gap?
You're right not to trust him. Whether or not he's slept with her isn't even the point. she 'loves' him?? is thinking about there 'relationship'?? It's innappropriate and your own husband shouldn't be adding to your fears by keeping up this contact. You need his love and security right now and If he's unable to give you that, in favour of this other person...you need to think seriously about your future with this man. Wish you all the best.
2007-04-24 20:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by anon 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here I go again. A cheater is a cheater and always will be. He says he talks to other women because you don't listen??? Get real - just another excuse that he believes so he can justify in his head what he does. If a man loves you- he would not do this. What if you were" talking" to other men because he doesn't listen to you??? Do yourself a favor - LEAVE- because he will never stop. You will end up feeling so bad about yourself. He is a sneak and always will be. You do not deserve this. I know it hurts but if you wait any longer it is going to hurt more. Stand up for yourself and do not accept it. There are decent men out there.
2007-04-25 04:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's ok for your man to have female friends online if there is nothing going on and they are totally open about it. If this b-tch is saying she loves him and is talking about their so-called relationship, then there is more going on than innocent friendship. And the sheer fact that he lied to you when you asked him about and changed his story after you found the other email account is enough for warning bells. My partner and I have had a few internet related "hiccups" and it's almost impossible to get the trust back. It can destroy your relationship. Cyber-cheating is still cheating and still hurts just as much. I hope you come to a good conclusion on this, because I know where you are at and my heart goes out.
2007-04-24 20:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, they should make you feel insecure - I know if another guy were sending emails to and calling my girlfriend, I'd want to know why. If you want to know what I think, keep reading.
I think that, like persons of both genders sometimes do, just feeding you a line. If you find mysterious emails and whatnot and confront him or her about it, you'll usually get "It was (insert profession) related only" or "S/he's just a friend". Even if he isn't having a relationship with her, he is still going behind your back, which is betrayal in itself. I'd talk to him and get some real answers, have a serious talk. Listen to him, and if all else fails, walk away.
2007-04-24 20:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Oh, don't get so disillusioned approximately it. it incredibly is in all probability ok. you would be shocked to locate there are human beings on the internet, speaking trash and offering up there %.. may be a gal, yet there are additionally adult men appearing like women individuals, getting their rocks off. Plus why are you in his e mail. supply up the stalking. once you're married it incredibly is commonplace to be happy to flirt as long as you do not do something. adult men will hit the internet and seem for porn or communicate trash in a communicate room, or maybe want %.. as long as he's not doing different property you're ok. yet perhaps you may desire to artwork on the cyber web at the same time. perhaps check out some porn at the same time, bypass to speak rooms and confer with different at the same time, might upload somewhat spice on your marriage.
2016-10-30 06:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by jerrold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The suspicious phone calls made you do this and you had a feeling there was something going on and you were right. I think you should end your marriage now because he is cheating on you and constantly lying to you if that was me i wouldn't be able to trust him ever again. If you think your marriage can be saved then go ahead and try to save it your always going to wonder as long as your with your hubby if he's messing around on you again. If there's no trust in your marriage what is there?
2007-04-24 20:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
As a woman nothing can be done behind my back. If something stinks it's probably
S H I T ( u know what I mean).
What I don't understand is, how another woman can call your man and you not nip that mess in the bud? And now you found out it's more than one. WOW! You are a fool if you let him get away with that.
2007-04-24 20:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by msjah1 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He is cheating on you. There is no such thing as just talking IF it has to be kept a secret and done behind your back. Don't trust him. You just need to decide what to do. If you want to stay with him, then you will need to insist that he breaks off the relationship with the other girl - including emails and phone calls. If you decide that you will never be able to trust him, then you need to move on - without him.
2007-04-24 20:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its ok if they are emailing or IMing him about business, it's NOT ok if it's personal stuff. He's married and has no reason to have personal chats with other women behind your back and then lie about it when confronted. If he's sneaking behind your back then he knows its wrong. And from what you wrote about the other girl thinking about their relationship, then I can only say he did sleep with her, if he say's they only talked it's a lie, how many girls do you know that have a"talking" relationship? A relationship means being together. You have alot of thinking to do. Good luck
2007-04-24 20:31:19 · answer #11 · answered by CLM 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋