Not thrilled about husband's plan...?

Question

I've sold items through a twice-a-year consignment sale that specializes in kids' items. It's 45 minutes away and my husband and his friend want to duplicate this lady's current business model and start one in our county. He and his friend think there's HUGE profit to be made and want to "use" me for info since I've been a seller at two sales. But I know this venture will suck up tons of free time and I know hubby will be complaining how he doesn't have time for all his sports activities, running races, etc. So I've been rather negative toward the entire idea and keep telling him, in a not-so-supportive way, that I'm not on board with the idea. As a result, I just got called a b**ch for the first time. We've been together for 15 years and I've never been called a name. I told him I'll answer questions to help, but I refuse to 'work' during the sale or participate in any other ways. I have 2 young children to take care of and I have NO desire

...to deal with the public. How do we get past this?

Answer 1

Well, you did offer to answer questions about the business, if he had any so it's not as if you're being unreasonable. You do have the right to choose as you please and in this case, you declined. He needs to learn to accept your decision, although I think this discussion should've been handled in a more "mature" fashion. He may have called you the b word out of frustration but it isn't going to solve anything. I suggest you both discuss this again, this time without the name calling and explain to him why you choose not to get involved with it further. He at least needs to respect your reasons which happen to be valid ones.

Answer 2

1st of all, you need to deal with the fact that he felt it comfortable to call you out your name when you don't want to do what he wants you to do. On the other hand, you didn't have to be negative about the idea, all you had to do is point out the fact that you are a at home mom and all of your time is in caring for the home, the kids and not to mention HIM. Ask him... out of 15 years, this is what it have come to, after being the mother of his children. Ask him at what point did he decide that you were nothing but that bitc* he so easily called you. I can't see patching anything up , until you get that fact out into the open.

Answer 3

You can tell him what your concerns are, just like you told us. Explain that you have concerns about how much time he'll be willing to give up to do it, and that you aren't interested in participating other than to answer questions.

While you appreciate his enthusiasm for the project, it's his project, not yours. And you need to make sure he realizes that. If being honest with him makes you a b****, than that's fine. However, it also makes you wonder if he's more interested in YOU making the venture a success, than he is in working HIS behind off, if he feels that he needs to resort to name calling.

Answer 4

I think you should be a little bit more encouraging of your husband. All he is asking for is a little support. His idea may fail, but it is better than if he had never tried. Explain to him if he wants your help then it is going to take up alot of time, not leaving much for his sports, running, etc. If he still would like for you to participate, then do it. He would do it for you right?

Answer 5

first he needs to apologize to you for disrespecting you. you are entitled to your opinion and decision regarding this entire business as it will affect your whole family. encourage him to pursue his goal but don't let it ruin your marriage.

Answer 6

No youre not a b**** . I wonder what colour the sky is in his world.