Is watching internet porn considered cheating?

Answer 1

Watching internet porn is not cheating, in fact it can help avoid cheating. You get off on watching and it can certainly be argued that you are expending your sexual energy watching others instead of REALLY doing it with a REAL mistress.

There is no emotional or even physical connection with the participants in the video. If you watch a person on TV murder someone are you guilty of a crime? If you watch 2 people commit a sexual act on a TV or a computer are you guilty of joining in? Sounds absurd doesn't it, well it is absurd.

Many women might disagree with me and yours might be really pissed but that is only because she is insecure in her looks. Interestingly it is not the sex in a porn video that upsets an insecure woman. She sees the women in the porn to be more attractive than her and then she feels ugly because she thinks the porn stars look better than her. She probably also hits you if you turn your head to notice a pretty woman in a public place. She has self esteem and securtiy problems and you can't do anything about that.

Hey just because she feels ugly it does not mean she is being cheated on, it means that she feels ugly and inferior. To many women if they are cheated on they get jealous but jealousy does not necessarily equal cheating?

Be honest and don't hide or lie that only makes it worse when you get "caught". We all have to do what we need to live our lives, live yours in the open.

Good Luck,

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Answer 2

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Answer 3

It's not cheating but if it makes you uncomfortable and he doesn't try to tone it down a little then he's in the wrong. Porn is a part of most guy's lives, like it or not. Why do you have such an issue with it? Are you that insecure with who you are, that you feel threatened by someone on a TV screen? It also depends on how your guy handles it...Does he always compare you to those women? Does he suggest you do things he's seen in porn movies that you're not comfortable with? My boyfriend has an extensive porn collection on his laptop, he knows i'm not interested in watching it with him, but I don't tell him he can't watch when he's alone. I don't mind it, hey, he's learned a lot of things that he's brought back to our bedroom, i'm definitely not complaining. I'm also very confident and secure in who I am and what I provide for my man. I know he's not going anywhere, so I let the boy have his porn, no big deal.

Answer 4

to look at it objectively porn is pictures and writing it is not an emotional thing it is in the eye of the viewer ,if you see porn as a harmless entertainment then it is just that , but if it is away of escaping a suffering relationship or a substitute for a partner then yes I suppose that it could be called cheating . Some folks enjoy porn as a primer to their own sex life an aphrodisiac that aids to heighten or activate if not stimulate their enjoyment of their partner .
If your partner has a problem
(or more accurately you have a problem with his viewing porn) then perhaps you might suggest an evening of mutual viewing It will either make him self conscious of his hobby or perhaps you may see what he finds stimulating and meet him half way .

I hope this helps

Answer 5

It depends. In my opinion, in most cases it is NOT considered cheating and can enhance the sexual experiences in a relationship...but only if both couples are comfortable with it.

Now, there is a amendment to my opinion...watching it alone in MODERATION isn't an issue, but watching it alone on a daily basis and then choosing to watch porn over watching ME---that IS an issue.

But it really depends on your partners opinion. ALWAYS respect your partner's feelings on the subject. There isn't a "right" answer except that you should not do anything that will upset your partner or make them feel uncomfortable.

I, for one, bought my husband a hustler doll for his birthday---so I'm probably not the best person to ask. (Hey...better a doll than another woman...) But there's my 2 cents worth anyway...

Answer 6

In a word, no.

Erotica has been around for thousands of years. It began as painting, sculpture and poetry, and eventually evolved into literature, photography, acting, and video.

Erotica is simply an alternative form of sexual arousal; it is harmless fantasy and nothing more.

Regarding fantasy, Helen Fisher ("The First Sex," Ballantine Books, Feb. 2000) says that 71 percent of men and 72 percent of women fantasize while having sex with a partner. Men fantasize about conquest and domination, women about submission and surrender.

Dr. Joyce Brothers says, "It might relieve some of your guilt to know that many happily married individuals who have no thought or intention of ever betraying their spouse have sexual fantasies about someone other than their spouse."

Both men and women (single and in a relationship) have shown a desire to enjoy erotica in some form.

Answer 7

It is when it interferes with your relationship and the lady your with is hurt and offended by it. Why do men do it? what goes on in his mind? If your thiking about the women in porn sexually why would it be right? How would men feel if women always had nude men on and looking at them because they needed a boost to arouse themselves.Would you feel anything wrong if your woman done that to get her self excited when she wanted to be with you. There are a lot of well built men out there hung like horses would you be hurt if the woman you loved measured your body compared to their's? If you took time to entertain yourself with strangers that don't give a dam about themselves would that thrill you even more? I think it is cheating if it puts one dirty thought into a mans mind that don't include his wife. I think the net would respect all women if they banned it from here forever.

Answer 8

It depends on how it affects the relationship between you and your significant other.

If it doesn't drive a wedge between you and your spouse, then no harm done I guess. But if the usage of porn is making your spouse suffer like they have been cheated on, then yes, it is cheating.

Answer 9

I don't consider it cheating ...
you would have to discuss with your significant other on what you consider cheating.

I consider it a form of entertainment. I look at it as a substitute if I can't get any or a way to spice things up if I'm about to get some.

I think it's harmless as long as it does not become obsessive.

Answer 10

20 years ago, reading Playboy wasn't considered cheating. Watching it, no. Depending on how it's handled it can be positive (revving him/her up for a more active sex life between the two of you; creating a harmless outlet for curiosities you don't wish to satisfy... curiosities that often pass with time) or negative (creating unrealistic expectations for you).

Chat rooms are different issue- a grey area, but certainly cause for concern.