My son's date cancelled today - 4 days before SENIOR PROM. He is very disappointed. It's likely he will not go, so I'd like to think of something special to take his mind off of it ... any ideas?
2007-04-24 18:05:30 · 16 answers · asked by April 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This is a hard one. Rejection is never easy but it’s especially hard at such an important milestone. Do you have stories of things that didn't happen for you that were disappointing and then, because that thing didn't happen, something else wonderful opened up? These are the kinds of stories to share with him if he's open to it. You know, one job doesn't come through, a better one comes along. Or a love interest exits your life but then the love of your life can be there. This is the life lesson that no door closes without something wonderful opening. You have to believe it's true though in order to teach it. A blend of empathy and encouragement is what he needs and it sounds like you’ve got that for him. I don't think you can make up the loss to him, but hopefully it will be something he'll find the inner strength to turn around for himself (even if it's not right away). In the long run this exact thing could teach him the importance of responsibility and compassion as he matures.
Some of this I share with you because it's so hard to see our children in pain and I'm addressing YOUR pain at your son's pain; I so get it. In a way, the painful life experiences are like inoculations. A shot hurts but it's for better health in the long run. Or a fever hurts but it's burning up the virus. Disappointment hurts, but it makes us stronger. We can take the stumbling blocks and make them into stairs to take us higher.
All that said, how about asking him if he'd like to do something, and what? Letting him come up with the solution is empowering.
You're a good, sweet mom. Hang in there, both of you! (((hugs)))
2007-04-24 19:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Aunt Laya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry your son's date cancelled before the prom.
He can still go to the prom and by chance meet another girl there who has no date.
Or if he wants to drop out of the prom completely, you can have a special mother-son date that night, at a nice restaurant.
2007-04-24 18:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to the prom anyway. He will have more fun without a date, just hanging with his friends and living up the party. I had this problem at my senior prom, but a friend of mine ended up going with me. But when we got to prom, most of my friends that had dates to start with, ended up coming alone to the prom. All the girls ended up spending the evening dancing with my date, and we all had a blast. Sometimes it just better to go with a group of friends, you have more fun that way.
2007-04-24 18:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him how he plans to deal with this? I know that this is a BIG dissapointment to him but it can't be the first dissapointment that he's had with girls and it certainly won't be the last! What have you taught him about how to handle dissapointment?
What have you taught him about girls that will help him to live with one for a lifetime after he's married? It's never too late to start! After he's an adult he's going to have to be able to figure out how to deal with things like this without calling home and asking his mother.
2007-04-24 20:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! what a shock to him. I am so sorry that happened to him. What a witch........ Well, if you are sure that he isn't going at all....maybe take him away for the weekend. Go and do something that he has wanted to do for a long time and you just haven't done. You might also just try to encourage him to go and hang out with his friends.
Momma.......just be there for him, let it be his decision if you two go or not, and do not be too much into his space, but let him know that you are there if he needs/wants to talk, and let him know that you Love him. Kudos to you momma for realizing that something special needs to be done. You are a great mom.
Good Luck to You
2007-04-24 18:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Momma P 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Encourage him to still go with a group of friends or maybe he can go to an after party. If he has friends that aren't going maybe they could go see a movie or go to a game or something else they like to do. You could always take him out for a nice dinner and some sort of event he would like.
2007-04-25 02:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by barbieisagoddess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him first, then he is not going, throw him have a party that night for all of the ones who are not going.
Most boys hate the prom anyway. You know the whole dress-up thing.
I'm sure he has friends who are not going.
2007-04-24 18:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friends if any of their daughters will go with him...FIND HIM A HOT DATE TO SHOW OFF AT THE PROM!!!
2007-04-25 01:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥ I _Love_Love ♥ ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's horrific that a girl did that to him! I applaud you for wanting to take his mind off of it but I don't know of anything that would do the trick, sorry. No matter what you do I think it will be in the back of his mind :( That stinks. Sorry I can't think of anything...
2007-04-24 18:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my cousin got ditched at the last second....He took his little sister. She enjoyed the heck out of it and he had a lot of fun...all the single girls sure hit on him. Any options of taking a younger girl like a cousin or sister?
2007-04-24 22:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by CEGTP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋