I'm a 44 year old woman, we are more friends than anything, I feel more like his sister. I know he loves me, he treats me like gold. I walked out three months ago, so frustrated, but if I don't decide wether or not i go back soon, I stand to loose a lot. What should I do? please don't critisize me, i'm just looking for a little friendly advice without burdening family with this,
Thanks folks........
2007-04-24 17:54:51 · 16 answers · asked by Marlipumpkin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to do what is right for you. if you truly feel that the
relationship is not what you want or you dont feel as he does
then the only thing you can do is be honest and tell him how
you really feel. if you go back it will only be the same. and then
you will have both have hurt each other.sometime you need to
let go of something that not working.
2007-04-24 18:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You mean you never had sex with him before or you had before but no more now? He could be a gentleman not wanting to offend your body till your wedding. Or is there any plan or mention of marriage before?
Have you spoken to him about it or have you initiated it and he rejected you? How old is he? Maybe he is impotent. So you cannot blame him. He could be a very sad man over this too.
Go back to him if you really love him, talk to him nicely about it. I know it is difficult to talk on such a topic but if you love him you have to accept him as what he is. Sex is not everything in a relationship, though it will bring you closer to each other.
You are already 44 and in a few years you will also slowly lost your interest in sex.
2007-04-25 01:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by spring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and think , there is more to love than sex ... if you feel like his sister then you should tell him how you feel , if it is more than sister brother love then reconsider where he stands in your heart . Dont take the wrong decision and dont rush into things . These are the things that take time to realise and understand . The decision might hurt or lead to regrets in one point of your life but remember ... there are many more rivers to cross and many more places to see . what ever your decision might be sit down and talk to him , let him know your feelings and move on with life ... good luck babe ...
2007-04-25 01:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by BABY GURL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has got to be hard for you,have you notice that you think of sex a lot. Right now you are in your sexual peak and not having sex because your husband doesn't want to,it must make you really mad.When I was your age I was horny and my husband was having sex with someone else. What would you do if you fount out that he has gotten him self a girlfriend
and you lost him for good.If you don't go back you could lose him and everything that goes along with him.
2007-04-25 01:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't go back if you can't get past this problem. Have you considered talking to him to see what the "sex" problem is?
I have lots of guy friends that I love dearly but not interested in ever having sex with. Many of them make great friends to talk about relationship issues with. If you can't go back to him in a relationship consider just being friends. You won't be losing anything in that relationship.
2007-04-25 01:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so much left unsaid. I mean, are you married, how long have you been together? Have you been his companion, do you have kids? If you haven't been together with him very long than you need to find yourself someone else. Feeling like a sister in the relationship sucks! I know, but what you have to do is rise to a different level. If he can't rise with you, than move on. If there is a chance you can work through this, try. Don't contemplate on this relationship long if you feel it is already your time to move on... just do it! Live for what makes you happy! Good Luck!
2007-04-25 01:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs♥xoC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your happiness is more important that anything, and if you stay where your not happy then what's the point. Make a list of all the goods and the bads of the relationship and see what you get, if you have more bads then leave, if you have more goods then stay. A relationship is only as strong as your happiness.
2007-04-25 01:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think your reason for leaving was a very good one, and I think you should go back to him. What do you really expect from a marriage?
This is really the way it is. The passion burns out, and the relationship holds it together then. You need to work it out.
2007-04-25 01:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by NoLifeSigns 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know it all depends on your whole situatoin. if it was me i woudnt go back, but my siutatoin was totally diffrent. im 26 now and got divorced from a sexless marraige and i didnt have any kids yet either and was younger so being w/out sex was really terrible. your sitatoin might be different ( i dont know ) how important is the sex to you and how im portant is the guy to you u know?
2007-04-25 00:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I would think long and hard about why you left in the first place. I broke up with this girl once and got back together with her only to break up again because I forgot why I broke up with her in the first place.
2007-04-25 01:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by I Got My Cake 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋