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We are in a long distance relationship, we talk about all kind of things like marriage, her relocation etc. She also has a daughter, her divorce pending, all of a sudden she says she wants 'space'! How do you respond? What do I need to do?

2007-04-24 17:48:03 · 23 answers · asked by sam_ar1 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Give her the space she is asking for. That means no phone calls every other day, no seeing each other, no emails talIking about how you are dying without her. She is having some rough issues and she needs to work them out. I have a friend who has asked for space but her man talks to her every other day and she still has not "figured things out" because he won't leave her alone. She is starting to resent him for it. I once asked for space, and it lasted about a week. I just needed to clear my mind and find my center. Perhaps she just needs to do the same...

2007-04-24 17:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0 2

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I have went through something similar about 10 years ago. Pretty much the same exact thing. I don't think I gave her enough space and I ended up pushing her away more. You have to understand that a woman with a child going through a divorce has a lot of issues that she has to take care of and sometimes she thinks it's easier to cut out or slow down some of the issues she can control. Like the relationship, maybe she doesnt want to think about relocating or anything at this time. Maybe she wants to just have you there to talk to and vent her daily problems to and get some advice.

The way I see it, you have two choices. You can ask her what she means by space, give it to her the best you can and hope that everything comes around like it is supposed to do. Or you can not give her the space she is asking for, make her feel trapped in her life and give her no choice but to create her own space by removing you from the equation. I am sure you will make the decision that you feel is best and the one that you want.

2007-04-24 17:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by sawilke1212 2 · 1 1

It sounds like the pending divorce may be what's she is in need of some space for. This is a major time in her life, especially with a child involved. Give her some space, a little time, and a lot of moral support. Long distance relationships can work just fine, as long as both parties are in agreement on things, such as trust.

2007-04-24 18:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

. I can't really say for sure what she's thinking but you should ask her if there is a reason if that would make you feel better The thing is you must give her some space if that's what she ask of you. If you truly love someone you should want for them to be happy with or without you right? Well show her that all you want is for her to be happy. After a while call to see how she is doing if she doesn't want to come back you should accept that it wasn't meant to be.

2007-04-24 17:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Not much you can do but to give her the "space" she wants. You said her divorce is pending. Well she probably has a lot to deal with right now so the only thing you can do is to leave her alone.

2007-04-24 18:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 0 2

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2016-10-18 03:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Respond by giving her a little space by not bothering her with trivia issue and be supportive about her pending divorce...

2007-04-24 17:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mint_Always 4 · 0 2

ask her why she want space,ur already spaces apart from each other,how much more she needs?if she can't even give u a simple answer,move on.its a long distance relationship,i had one and it didn't work cuz of the distance.plus its out of no where she comes up with the "space"thing,she got something else going on...so good luck

2007-04-24 18:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by leen 2 · 1 2

She's got someone new on a string, and doesn't want you getting in the way, and to keep you on a string at the same time in case it doesn't work out.

When someone lives that far away from you, and says they need more space than that, they aren't telling you the whole picture.

2007-04-24 17:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by NoLifeSigns 4 · 1 2

i'd just give her some time so she can figure out what she really wants. She may not want to rush into another relationship straight away. We all need some space "me time" every now and then

2007-04-24 17:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by jolsbaby22 2 · 0 2

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