I work in a library and there is a patron that comes in who is kinda slow, he lives in a halfway house for mentally disabled people. He came into the library tonight and was working on the computer, he asked for my help. I went over and was trying to help him search for something and he kept staring at my breasts and shifting around in his seat, spreading his legs wide and pushing his hips up every once in a while. His face started getting flushed and he kept asking me questions. I finally told him I couldn't help him anymore and went back to my desk. Later he came up and checked out some materials and kept staring at my name tag. Our name tags have our full names on it and he started repeating my last name really quietly like he was trying to remember it. Should I be worried? What steps should I take?
2007-04-24 16:40:40 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
He is probably a harmless man, and you should be complimented that he finds you attractive. I know it sounds cliche, but you should do your best to be accomidating; he is mentally challenged. If the activity persists you could always try to confront him, or tell a manager, but otherwise he sounds like he is a horny man who likes your looks, but he most likely means you no harm.
2007-04-24 16:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Slim jim 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I used to work in a halfway house for 'mentally disabled' ..I would say that its nothing personally towards you, hes not mentally living at the same level as most men...discuss it with your supervisor, as well to the supervisor if you know where he lives also, go there and discuss it with the homes supervisor and suggest that he be supervised while attending the library - and maybe other places as well......being mentally disabled he may very well not know that hes 'disrespecting' you.....I don't mean to disrespect but, everyone has horny feelings - including the mentally disabled - they just don't understand the feelings...they just react to their feelings....but do talk to a supervisor....
2007-04-24 17:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of things you can do, confide in your superior, or a co-worker, and ask them if they would wait on this person, when they come in. Mentaly disabled person are sometimes not able to hide their feelings, and think you might like them back. If avoidance, does not help, then talk to your boss and have them call the home , and talk to the director, tell them what has happened, and let them handle it.
I had a similar experience, only not so sexual, this fellow decided, and told everyone that he was going to MARRY me. I tried to talk to him, and when that did not work I called his Pastor, and asked him to please explain that I was not interested in a relationship with him. That ended my problem.
2007-04-24 16:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Patrica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really creepy...If it gets any more serious like perhaps he appears by your car when you leave or something...you should get a restraining order to protect yourself...there are all sorts of crazy sexual predators and such around the world and you shouldn't have to put up with it. Good Luck
2007-04-24 16:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by Livestrong2009 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unsolicited mail plenty? besides! properly, I recommend you're making it particularly sparkling to her which you're actually not involved. notwithstanding if meaning being a dick. As an 18 365 days previous severe college senior, who occurs to love older adult men, i don't see something incorrect with it. 10 years isn't something. although, in case you're actually not into her then enable her comprehend. via the way---18 is criminal consent. maximum states youthful than that! :)
2016-10-30 05:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep an eye on him. Tell the librarian/supervisor that you feel uncomfortable and would prefer not to serve him. If he starts trouble you can ask him to leave. There's not much else you can do until something serious happens. :(
2007-04-24 16:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um,well for sure make sure that someone else is working with you in the library, and maybe call the house for mentally disabled ppl. and let them know whats happening
2007-04-24 16:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by abc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure you notify your supervisor immediately about the situation. if your supervisor isn't there tell a coworker and someone in security. when you leave to go home walk out with someone and make sure you have your car keys out ready to get in your car. glance in the back seat before you get in your vehicle and always lock your car when you get out.
2007-04-24 16:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by silky222222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your supervisor that you don't want to help that customer anymore and tell them why. it is a tricky situation since the customer might be mentally handicapped and not know what they are doing. but you shouldn't have to be made to feel uncomfortable.
2007-04-24 16:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by KJC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) He needs more encouragement to ask you out. Try talking to him.
2) Do the same thing he does...I bet you end up going out.
2007-04-24 16:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋