You've been divorced for almost 2 months- would you consider a new marriage so soon?

Question

I've been seperated for 4 years, divorced since early march, the man I've been seeing for a year just asked me to marry him, I love him, but I don't know how I feel about getting married again.

Answer 1

Do you know that you already answered your own question?
If you are uncomfortable with it now you should wait when you are more comfortable.
Believe this or not. when you are doing something and you are comfortable and it is the right time you will enjoy it and feel a calm and a peace concerning it.

Answer 2

You will both be happier if you marry him with no doubts. After a divorce you need time to heal and grow as an individual. Talk to your partner and assure him that you love him but need more time to reflect on what went wrong. This way you will know what to avoid the next time you get married. Don't accept the proposal just to appease him. The right moment will come and you will know it. Good Luck!

Answer 3

in case you're able to desire to ask then some thing isn't somewhat ultimate is it? I knew on the 1st date i needed to marry her yet I did wait 4 months to point and had little question i needed to spend the the remainder of my life together with her! That replaced into over 14 marvelous years in the past. you recognize stop asking others! And by utilising you recognize i'm not asserting don't get married i'm asserting you recognize no rely if it incredibly is stable or not!

Answer 4

If you are having doubts on getting married again, then don't get married until you are really sure and ready. You have only been seeing him for one year, so what's waiting for another year, that way you will see how this relationship is going. Something to think about.

Answer 5

I have been married three times,the first at 18 then divorced
2 years later, got married 1 week after divorced, married for
3 years got divorced then married again 2 weeks after.

Answer 6

You could always do what I did. My husband asked me to marry him and I was honest and told him that I loved him dearly but I was not ready for another marriage yet. His response was that is ok I can wait. So we had about a three year engagement. When I was ready to get in the saddle again, we had a long talk about what fears I still had haunting me. He was worried I was doing it for him.

We will celebrate our 3rd anniversary this year. If he loves you enough to marry you then he will be willing to wait.

Answer 7

LOL, my first response when I saw your question was, "WHAT is she thinking?"...it really has been four years, not two months, that you've been single...however, in your shoes, I would give myself time. Time to figure out what went wrong with the first marriage, and my part in what went wrong so that I don't make the same mistakes again in another marriage. I honestly can't give you a real definitive answer since I don't have all the facts. I'd say that since you aren't comfortable with it, DON'T do it.

Answer 8

If you get married within two years after your divorce you have an almost 75% chance of it failing. Take your time and get to know you. You could be codependant some men like that but you will die not knowing your true self.

Answer 9

Well I think you answer your own question. If you are not sure how you feel about getting married then you should wait. There is no harm in a long engagement to make sure you are both ready to settle down again. Don't rush into things especially if you are having concerns about it.

Answer 10

if you think thats soon, i divorced in nov 05 and was married again in may 06!!! it just happened, and i wasnt expecting it, but this is the man i have been waiting for my whole life!!!! i only wish i had found him sooner! and as early as it is, we are on our 2nd baby! (1, 8 month old and 14 weeks along!) I SAY GO FOR IT!!! what can you lose, everything in life is an expierience, and a lesson!! DO YOU LOVE HIM?? good luck and GOD bless!