Ok, so my friend liked this guy awhile ago, but it kind of fizzled out after they dated for a week and he was madly in love with some other girl. Last Friday, my friend and this guy had sex, at his house, twice. Now apparently today, he asked this other girl, who he is so madly in love with, to marry him, and she said yes. I think he is a complete dirtbag. I mean he cheated on this both girls, and then just proposed. Is revenge called for?
We were just brainstorming and we're thinking up some stuff to say/do. She's thinking she'll say something along the lines of "I'm really happy for you both! And be prepared, he is huge and amazing, I mean ah-may-ha-zing in bed." where she will walk off with some other guy (a friend) and glance back.
We thought another thing to do would be to seduce him, and get a picture. Then she can hand an envelope before she goes.
Is revenge called for? I don't think this other girl needs a lying S.O.B husband.
Any ideas for revenge too?
2007-04-24 15:05:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it be known that he texted my friend and said "I want to f*ck you." he initiated it.
2007-04-24 15:06:45 · update #1
I wouldn't recommend seducing him and getting a picture. That would hurt the poor girl too much. However, the first plan might work.
Or, you could key his car, writing "Dirty Cheater" with the keys in the side and "Just Cheated" on the back, like "Just Married." It works with spray paint too. Keep in mind these are both illegal and I am not encouraging you to do it. It's just my mind imagining the possibilities...
2007-04-24 15:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think stooping to his level would be the way to go, even though i do agree that he is a dirtbag! I wouldn't want the girls to get hurt anymore because of his actions. But there's really nothing you can do. If someone is in love with him, they won't see the "real person he is" until they are ready to see it. Just know he is a dirtbag. Stay away from him. Generally, what goes around, will come around to him. You may end up hurting others involved, by only trying to seek revenge on him.
2007-04-24 22:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are thinking is nothing more than child's play. You are giving him exactly what he wants. Attention. The best revenge is success. There is no reason to hurt this girl she is an innocent. She needs to learn about this guy on her own. To act the way you are thinking, you will only loose credibility. The last thing you and your friend want to look like is the crazy x. He may have already spoken ill about you and then you will look the part. The way I would go is kindness. Just be as sweet and polite as you can be. Watch if he treats her good and is loyal then he learned that he as something to loose and she found a way to put him in his place. If he hurts her, then pounce. It will be the power of three. He has proposed remember. That will give her the power to hurt him the most. IN the wallet...
2007-04-24 22:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by flateach33 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are some really good answers here. And I agree that there is no point in going for revenge as it has a habit of coming back and biting us on our backside.
Telling this other girl is also laden with problems, if she has no idea about her fiancee's philanderings then she is unlikely to believe you. If she does have an idea about them then you could be saving her from a bad marriage or a good one.
Your friend will have to be prepared to be called names etc.
Choices are up to you, no matter which way you go there will be hurt and angry feelings.
Best wishes to you both.
2007-04-24 22:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would for sure tell this other girl, cuz if he could do it to both of these women before he's married, what's to stop him from cheating after? But I wouldn't be mean to her since she's not at fault. I think just busting him out and this other girl seeing what a creep he is and dumping him would be pretty good revenge.
2007-04-24 22:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_53105 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and revenge will make him a better man how?
Come on, revenge is way over rated, use the energy for something good, better yourselves, learn more about why you would feel the need to be so juvenile and why your friend would want to sleep with someone else's man. How do you figure that it is your place to carry out a sentence on this guy whether he deserves it or not. Wasted time.
2007-04-24 22:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
two wrongs will never make a right. Don't even bother getting involved. Maybe he scr***d her around, I agree but why did your friend give of herself in the first place. That does not say alot about her as well. The best she should do is learn from that mistake and meet an honest guy who will appreciate her for other things. In the meantime concentrate your energies in helping her get thru this on positive notes, making her a better person not a tramp.
2007-04-24 22:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by born_tomd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friend knew he was with another girl, and still slept with him...that doesn't say much for her integrity either.
Yes he's a dirtbag, but if this other girl is in love with him, she's most likely not going to believe anything you tell her. She'll believe him when he tells her that you're just jealous and trying to cause problems. She'll find out who he is eventually. A dirtbag like that, doesn't reform.
2007-04-24 22:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you come up to him and say that he is a good lay.. he might shrug it off to his girlfriend as a girl from his past. You need something recent and you need evidence. Arrange another date with him at his house..but this time invite a third party. his girlfriend ..tell your friend to leave the front door unlocked so she can just walk in on them getting it on.. if she rings the door that will alert him. He can not talk his way out of that one !!
2007-04-24 22:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is sweet. I wouldnt sleep with hiom again just to get a picture but I would say I am sooo happy for you 2. He is amazing in bed isnt he??
2007-04-24 22:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋