Did you marry the right person?

Question

I just saw a poll where 70 percent of the people polled said that they would not marry the same person again if they had it to do over again and still have feelings for an old flame and believe they should have married that person instead of the one they did. Just curious what people on hear would say to that question. 70 percent seems high even though the divorce rate is about 52 percent.

Answer 1

I think so we are still together . It's been more than twenty years. We were High school Sweet hearts. It has lasted. There has been storms., But we have survived them

Answer 2

The first time I married the wrong person for me (and by extension, he married the wrong person for him). I did have feelings for an old flame and when we divorced, I got together with that old flame. I found that some things are best left in the past, because time and memory had made him seem to be a better person than he turned out to be. He broke my heart.

Now I'm married to the right person. Do we have the perfect marriage? Of course not since neither of us are perfect. However, we're committed to each other no matter what and love each other as close to unconditionally as possible. It helps to let the little things pass and deal with the big things as they arise unflinchingly, head on, together. We've vowed to stay together through it all. I hope that we will grow old together and be one of those adorable old retired couples that walk down the street holding hands after 50 years.

Answer 3

Well I married the right person, luckily. But I do think people get married because they like the idea and don't realize how important commitment is. That is why marriage should be fully thought out, rather than jumped into ya know, and I have met alot of spouses he have jumped into there marriages and want out or wish they would have at least waited longer. But to answer your question I did marry the right person and I would marry him over and over again.

Answer 4

I think it is probably accurate. Even though the divorce rate is high that doesn't mean that people that are married forever are happy. Many stay together out of commitment rather than because they are happy.

And the divorce rate in itself doesn't tell the whole story. The more marriages you have the more likely you are to divorce and the more likely you will do so early in the relationship. I can't remember the numbers but they are higher for 2nd and 3rd marriages than for first marriages.

Answer 5

I feel like I married the man of my dreams. He is all that I could want and some. I love him so much and he loves me and we are great together. If I had a choice yes I would have married him and I wouldn't change a thing. Now we do have our ups and downs but our good time far out weigh our bad times and I am happier than I have been in a long time. Marriage is not for everyone but it was definitely for me.

Answer 6

We become the right person to our partner if we make an effort to do so. We will only know that we are the right person by the number of years we spend with each other and how we allow ourselves to grow in love and grow as one with our partner, then later on, we will realize we can't live without each other anymore.

I believe I marry the right person.

Answer 7

I think that people start wondering what marriage may have been like with an ex when problems arise in their marriage. But what people don't understand is that there would be problems with your ex, too, and if you'd married your ex, you'd be wondering what it would be like with someone else. It's a neverending cycle. We always wonder and want things we don't have. My personal feeling is that I love my husband, and I would marry him again if I could. We have our problems, but they aren't so bad that we can't deal with them. And ex's are EX'S for a reason....something didn't work out.

Answer 8

I'm proud to say I married the right person. None of my ex's could ever compare to him. He's just the best thing that happened in my life. I wouldn't do anything to lose him. We love each other so much and we see to it that our communication is open all the time.

Answer 9

most people don't marry the right person because they don't choose the right person to date. if they did, that number would be much lower. most women choose men they think will get better after they wedd or one they think they can change or fix some how. be smart and marry the person that is your match not your dream cause dreams aren't real.

Answer 10

I dont know that I would have married him given what I know now. I dont feel like I should have married an ex, but I questions whether I would marry my current husband again knowing what I know now.